Should I end things with this guy?

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Okay so he’s really nice but all we do is make out at his place and stuff. I went out with him and his friends and his friend told me “havi” loves you. But his parents are from India and he straight up told me that his mom wants him to marry an Indian girl and I know he hasn’t told his parents. But like is this really something I should be getting into?

lolita222 · Accepted Answer

NO stop it now !!! i fucked up the same way my man comes from a muslim family who wanted to find my man an iraqi girl and it’s still the worst mistake i ever made we’ve been in the just “dating” phase for over 4 years now and i know well probably never get married because i’m a white American converted muslim but he still tells me his mom can find him a girl anytime he wants. with religious ethnic families god comes first and then comes family, it’s a losing battle trying to live up to expectations you’ll probably never be able to fully meet...

LegallyBad · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't get to into it as he's already told you the route he is intending to take. His said his mum wants him to marry a certain type of girl. Maybe his mum did, maybe she didn't but he's told you what he is about. If things develop further, he might struggle to introduce you to his family as his girlfriend and you have the right to be out in the open.

End it on the basis that friendship is better between you both - don't worry about his friend said as it may be a hook to keep you around.

Gent207-2 · Accepted Answer

I've seen this story before it goes one of 3 ways

Version A. He breaks with tradition marries the love of his life and you two grow old togeather.

Version B.) He placates between you and his mom by never taking a side and always looking for ways to stay neutral. Ether your marriage falls a part or it never happens.

Version C.) You bring up the deeper issues and realize he's not the one for you and you run. He gets into an arranged marriage carrying fond memories of you. While you move on to an upgrade

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

What is your goal in dating? At this point, are you just interested in finding a partner for casual sex, or are you looking for long term commitment?

BlueScorpio · Answer

If he's not going to be honest and tell his mother/family about you then there's no point in staying with each other. If he needs to pick one, you or his mother's/family expectations. Please know that in a lot cultrues they will choose family cause they don't want to run the risk of being disowned. So that is a chance both of you will have to take. I think it's conversation that needs to be had by now.

Paris13 · Answer

Indians are Strict and You will never win with this. I Married a Muslim out in Egypt and it was fine with Them all I was a Christian. But with this deal. He will Need to Choose and it is Best NOT to be There for You will only end up Getting Hurt. xx

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

The only way to move in life is forward & if you want to move forward I think Havi & you have to have a heart to heart talk & you have to ask a few questions. Havi’s friends says he loves you & the question is does Havi love you or is it just a fling? As for Havi’s mom she wants Havi to marry an Indian girl & the question is what does Havi want?

Are you & Havi boyfriend & girlfriend or are you two friends with benefits?

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Hard to tell if not impossible to say where life will take you, I guess you'll just have enough roll the dice with this one and make a choice you think it's best for everyone, if y'all are happy together I don't know why other people's opinions should matter

Sheyhoney · Answer

If he isn’t going to make the effort to stand up to his parents to say he wants you, I would get out of there ASAP

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Those kind of relationships are complicated. If he's not committing because of his parents approval, then it's not worth it.

You should hold off on the making out and sex or whatever you're doing and see where things are going. Don't ask us random internet people. Learn from home to see what's in store for yalls future.

Put your big girl boots on and have that serious discussion

litty · Answer

When you marry someone, you are also marrying their parents. Many a relationship have ended because of family drama.

If he's very hesitant to take things further or can't decide because of the indian girl marriage thing, you more or less already know how it's going to play out if you stick with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Ok is it really because of his mom or you’re just trying to find an excuse out of there. Because you mentioned he’s really nice, all you two do is make out. You make it sound as though it’s boring. He’s boring. You’re young, maybe you want a man who lives life a little on the edge, which he isn’t. I mean if he’s into you it’s his life, not his mom’s. A part of feels you’re looking for an excuse to get out of this relationship based on what you said.

TroyDT · Answer

Straight up? He's not the guy for you. You want more than casual but that is all you will ever really have with a guy who only wants to make out and has told you his mom wants him to marry someone with characteristics that you were not born with.

Manab · Answer

I am an Indian and I am giving you an advice. As an western girl do not date Indian men who are mama's boys or highly religious. Not all Indian men are like that and those that are hardly change. Best you should confront him about where you stand and your significance and acceptance to his family.

NathanDavis · Answer

you're already having doubts and second thoughts so...

it's clearly not meant to be, it does not look promising at all

a healthy and BETTER relationship should not be the one you're struggling to fix or make work...

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well that all depends on you and what your looking for and how much younger that you is he. We have to talk cause your posted so much content about guys treating you badly now its seems like you've found a good guy and your looking for excuses to end it and I think I know why

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Given all the information you've just given us, why the hell would you stay even a second longer in that relationship?

20yearsolder · Answer

If you're looking for Mr Right, that's not him. You're wasting your time. His family will disown him if he doesn't marry an Indian girl. Chances are if you don't end it he will.

slatyb · Answer

"All we do is make out at his place and stuff" That doesn't sound like much of a relationship. If he's unwilling to go against his parent's desires, there's no hope for you.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm guessing you know the answer to the question. Just remember, there are many different kinds of fish in the sea, and most can be caught with the correct bait.

coolbreeze · Answer

Short term dating is ok but long term it won't work out if his parents doesn't accept you. Unless he disobeys them and be with you anyway.

bowenw · Answer

I would ask him sooner than later if he plans to follow his mother's wishes for him to marry and Indian girl, and can he live with the consequences if he doesn't.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah because if you marry him you marry the family and I doubt they will let it go that far, they don’t usually go outside their culture, it’s a big problem unfortunately trying to date outside their group

bubblegunnn · Answer

If u both love each other why dont go for it.. its him who will married, not his parents tho

Summeroflove · Answer

I mean. Maybe it isn’t meant to be. You should at least speak to him on how you feel and be honest.

RealMarek · Answer

I don’t think he will commit to you. It will be very difficult for him to go against his family and culture.

AmeerX · Answer

For 26 year old you made a stupid mistake. Indian, South Asian guys like virgin girls for marriage. He is just wasting your time if you're only in for sex

Zolly99999 · Answer

I can't tell you what to do but but don't think this will go anywhere because of his parents

JosyJosy · Answer

Or he tells his mother he picks you over someone else or it's a dead end.

Surely · Answer

As long as he is getting the milk for free. He will never buy or marry the cow against his mommy’s wishes!

EaterPeter · Answer

You are likely to get lot of resistance. You may want to confirm what his plans are. If you want to marry please say it so. Or meet parents ask for. Did he met your parents yet?

Twalli · Answer

If he loves you, then don't end it unless you don't love him. His parents may have preferences, but at the end of the day they probably want him to be with someone who is good for him.

abhi44444 · Answer

I can see from his face this relationship may not be long but if you really want to with him then can can meet his parent and it very likely to be for both of you too be together

lorenzomichael · Answer

If you want to it's your call. He has a weird smile, because it looks like he hiding something in his mouth.

JohnK123 · Answer

I mean if it’s only making out yeah leave him lol I can’t believe it doesn’t lead to more things for ya smh

Staximus · Answer

You want to get down to brass tacks and find out where you stand? Tell him you want to meet his parents.

Smegskull · Answer

"Should" implies a moral obligation or oprimal strategy. No obligation exists here and no goal has been supplied about which a strategy could be formed.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

If the picture is actually you I doubt you’d have a hard time finding someone else.

Kelly6 · Answer

If mother in law doesn’t like you, I say leave. mother in laws make life hell.

hafinjun · Answer

Doesn't sound like it's going to go where your hoping to me

Guardian45 · Answer

Depends. How do you feel about him and what do you want?

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Mommy issues? If you're unsure at this point I suggest walking away.

TallAnon · Answer

Straight up ask him to settle things with his parents and meet them, or give up

Raaj4you · Answer

Is he serious dating? If I were him, I would not ask for my parent's permission.

Jouth · Answer

See where it goes. Either he's open to it being serious or he's not. Only time will tell.

Anonymous · Answer

Wtf is wrong with you. God you're really sinking to the bottom of the barrel that's as bad as dating a PC need gamer. Christ date a real man

LooneySins · Answer

Do you like him?

Ryan1979 · Answer

If you love him then yes

boobliker · Answer

that is up to you not us here...

EffaMan · Answer

You know dear :)

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Maybe he wants to take things slow

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I'd talk to him and ask him this exactly.

Alex8736 · Answer

The bottom line is Are you happy and content?

Anonymous · Answer

Does he know you have herpes?

driven159 · Answer

Wait till he tells his parents then go from there

legalboxers · Answer

run far far away

Anonymous · Answer

Does it really matter?

Phatboii43 · Answer

Go with ur heart

Joker_ · Answer

yeah lol

In_Trance · Answer

yeah

Nahid1707 · Answer

Yes.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Nope probably not

eagle1951 · Answer

yep end it

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