Why would a "perfect" girl struggle to have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My best friend is the perfect girl; she's extremely beautiful, kind, intelligent, funny, etc. But she's the only one in our group of friends to struggle to have a boyfriend. When we go out, all the guys look at her, but no one approaches her. She's easily a 10+++ and me and my other friends are 5s to 7s, yet we are approached way more often and go on dates way more than her. I do feel bad for her because she's an amazing girl, so I wanted to have some suggestions on why this is happening so we can help her.

[Rania05]

Maybe she hasn't met her match?

I used to have a friend who's pretty and smart but although guys would look at her more in beginning everyone takes side with me or my more average-looking friends.

I asked one why you hold hands with me when you sounds like you like her, he answered that he just appreciate her beauty but he feels there's no thing he could say without sounding like he's harrasing her and that's it more comfortable with me. Weird answer but figured out that stereotypes against beautiful girls is the norm, and fear of what they feel they're more than could deserve or something like this.

[AmberESTP]

I'll tell ya something :

She's too beautiful so men are intimidated by her.

I'm not joking. The only two ways she can get a boyfriend is : be lucky to be near a guy who's very confident OR approach men herself

[Rania05]

I do agree with these points

[NamerOfStars]

There are two likely possibilities: one is that she's not actually that perfect. What guys like in a girl is something girls often struggle to understand, and there may be some aspect to her appearance or personality that drives guys off but doesn't affect you. The other is that she IS that perfect, and guys either think it's not worth bothering talking to her; they'd just get rejected, or they assume she's taken, since "a girl who looks that good must be".

If it's the latter, there's an easy fix: have HER do the approaching. Even if she's the type who thinks it's "wrong" or "inappropriate" for a woman to ask a man out, she can at least walk up to him and start a conversation; showing a guy that you're 1. interested in him, at least enough to talk, and 2. not so stuck up that you won't talk to someone as good-looking as you are can go a long way towards making you seem more relatable.

[DaveJord]

So this why sometimes attractive people say its harder to be good looking, because it intimidates people from approaching them. Honestly, most guy are more attracted to average to just slightly better than average looking girls. This because they are more approachable, because most highly attractive place higher expectations on people.

I mean if I just want to be with a good person and women, why should I be expected to work any harder for that person, just because she thinks or actually is more attractive? For most men its not as important to them as people think, and therefore most attractive people have unrealistic expectations.

Honestly for me, the women I am dating and having sex with is way more attractive to me then any stranger that I may or may not have any chance with. Average guys are just not interested in the drama, I mean they will look and what not, but they aren't interested in really dating her.

[Miristheiss]

her standards are too high.

She'll only date that top percent guy and always passes on the top 70-90% guys and will only accept the top 5 percent.

She only goes out with players or Chads who will never commit to one girl.

We'd have to see her to see if we agree with your "she's a 10" evaluation. Maybe she has a beautiful face but is 70 pounds overweight.

If this has been going on for a looong time then there is probably something there causing this. We'd probably need more info other than the rose tinted description of this girl. You are her close friend, you are probably biased in your assessment.

[JamesDiaz11]

Well, first, just know that how you view a girl is not how guys view a girl; so, she may not be as great as you think.

Having said that, as guidance to her you may suggest that she go to certain places alone, as the other girls in the group seem to be safer bets for the guys.

[ConspiracyTheorist]

I'm not sure what qualifies someone to be perfect but maybe she is picky or hasn't met the right guy yet, or maybe she is smart and has goals above dating and is more concerned with things like getting career and in a nice spot in life before risking bringing new life into a chaotic world.

[TheSpaceGnome]

What are her hobbies? A pretty girl thats boring to a guy won't get dates from him.

For example, if a supermodel who hates challenging video games asked me out, I'd immediately reject her. Same result if she was religious, or can't draw, or hates science, the list goes on.

Looks are great, but compatibility is needed too.

My nerdy/geeky/artistic hobbies have me living a mostly shut-in life. A similar woman would be appropriate for me.

[Anonymous]

Everything seems to come from your POV. That may not be how men see her. Women tend to tell their friends they’re pretty when they’re really not from a man’s perspective. So it’s kind of hard to say. You’re understanding of what men may want probably isn’t what men want. You’re thinking from the POV of a female. Maybe if she “perfect” that means she’s too picky. Maybe she’s too high maintenance. Maybe she’s shallow. There could be a lot of reasons why.

[Anonymous]

It could be that she's so pretty that the typical guy assumes she's already taken or is too intimidated by her looks and assumes a rejection. I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that when she does get a guy who hits on her, it's some super vain brad, because not many else have the balls to approach her lol am I close?

[D-Pad_Chad]

You've given nothing to describe your friend, what's her weight, views on family, is she argumentative, also another thing is you all are with her. Most guys see a group of women and won't approach.

[Aerolyn]

Either the guys think she's out of thier league so they don't even bother with her

Or there's something about her that guys don't like that you're not recognizing.

[Rockstarrrrr]

I swear girl on girl compliments are always over exaggerated... If she's really like that at least a few would approach and flirt with her no matter what

[JustADudePlayinADude]

They might assume she is already taken or is out of their league. She should try approaching guys she likes.

[boredgal]

maybe guys are intimidated to approach her? I don't know

[maximumpower]

Bc they're not perfect.
Remember the old adage - "No matter how good she looks, there is at least one guy out there whose glad to be rid of her."

[FilmGuy93]

It could just be her general demeanor and not seeming approachable.

[Anonymous]

Girls are clueless about what guys like. My girlfriends say I'm gorgeous, but the guys just say I'm a basic White girl.

[TheFlak38]

She must raise her standards a little more. that will help.

[Anonymous]

1. Her expectations are unrealistic or 2 she's got the personality of a bowl of oatmeal.

[Staximus]

She has no social skills? I don't know.

[Staximus]

Maybe she doesn't act interested enough to inspire the guys to make a move?

[In_Trance]

clearly she's not perfect