If "looks don't matter," then why is dating harder for those considered to be unattractive? (Page 2)
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Looks works in-favor of a checklist of first impressions. You are interested in tall guys, see a tall guy. Now are they easy on the eyes? You'll likely be more interested.
Starting from behind in looks has disadvantages, but sometimes they can be overcome due to other interest factors
The correct expression should be "don't rely on looks only"
In this day and age of makeup, surgery and catfishing - you would be a fucking idiot to rely on looks alone.
Precisely! Don't even get me started on how filters, social media, and catfish ruin dating and set unrealistic expectations in terms of finding a partner... that's a topic in itself!
My female British friend is unattractive but I still find her attractive 😍Not sure if you heard but I found somebody and this one really likes me back. Find someone who is really easy to communicate with without any major conflicts.
I saw, congrats! (even though I don't always answer your questions, I do read them)
I hope things work out between you too... and you know, you call her unattractive, but the fact that you find her attractive, makes her attractive :)
Aww thank you, Exactly. The right person is not always perfect but I like her the way she is ☺️. When you find the right person. Go with the flow. Her family did banned me from seeing her and she likes me so much! It made her family feel really bad banning me. So they let her start seeing me again.
Beauty equals goodness trope, people say "looks don't matter" to make ugly people feel better about themselves.
You know... I've always wondered that: do people who say that do so to make others feel better about themselves?
Kind of like telling someone that's overweight: "You're not fat!" When it's obvious they could stand to lose some weight
Yes it's a cliche and a lie.
It’s never been about looks. Attraction is biological. Everyone has a bad hair day.
I think looks matter for the first impression/ approach. I don't consider myself attractive at all and it has always been difficult for me... but once a girl gets to know me then things change and my odds go up.. so I think there is a fine line in there.
the red pill truth to all that is when it comes to wholistic attraction meanin spiritual mental emotional sexual on a spiritual mental and emotional level looks dont matter but from a sexual perspective they do more so for women than men with men bein more visual but they still matter and ill tell ya why it's a myth that bein unattractive is harder than bein attractive from a sexual perspective it is from a spiritual mental and emotional level it is on a non sexual level bein unattractive is easier based on the halo affect and naturally expectin less because of that
As an ugly and short male, I assure you that LOOKS MATTER!
I'm not sure how you look, nor am I going to throw you any cliché compliments to boost your self esteem.
But I sure hope you find a genuinely good woman one day; you deserve it... ugly or not.
It would be nice if looks weren't the basis of relationships. We could go on true "blind dates" and people would only have other factors to use as a guide...
In other words, you'd fall for their personality. Not height, skin color, ethnicity, weight, etc...
Would be interesting to say the least
Thanks
To me, looks aren't everything. It's what is inside a person that makes us human. I focus on, what is in the heart and soul of a person. What kind of people are around me, and how do they act around others? How do they treat people? Are they kind, respectful, and giving? The personality traits and qualities that a person exemplifies are most important to me.
Looks matter, they always mattered and they matter even more than just being attractive enough to date someone.
Thats just how much they matter, I always getting annoyed when someone says look don't matter.
They do and they always will as far as I'm concerned.
Looks just sometimes matter more than others at best.
attractive people can also have a hard time finding love...
and this is because looks do not matter THE MOST... for many people, including me... looks are not THE MOST important thing
looks only matter to insecure people...
and insecure people can be both good looking and bad looking
but that's way more accurate... insecure people will see "looks" as something that matters to them because they are INSECURE
the rest of us people... we are able to prioritize a few other things, first
Yet we see unattractive people with partners all the time. Looks are a plus once a relatively minimum standard is met. Not everyone can date a hot woman.
Looks do matter , as you said you don't really know what someone would like so be realistic that's all be how you are but it's in nature of girls to reflect beauty so you can enhance it with a good smile
I'm not sure who said "looks don't matter" because looks will always matter. It may not seem fair but looks are something that is the luck of the genetic draw. In that regard it is not really any different from intelligence, strength etc. Just about every characteristics that are desirable or undesirable are results with which we are born.
Looks matter, but on a 1-10 scale, where a person fits is the result of personal opinion, so someone's 10 could be seen as a 1 to me, or vice versa.
So looks matter, but only within the context of attracting a specific person or type of people.
Many people reckon looks DO matter and attractive folks get more attracts (duh!). For me, it doesn’t matter that much. Some say my dates weren’t that pretty, and I didn’t even see Noura’s full face, but personality is the most important.
They matter because that's how first impressions are made. If someone is lacking in looks they need to greatly make up for it in other areas.
Because looks does matter. It just not the most important value for everyone.
looks matter and everyone who says otherwise is a liar that might even believe their own lies.
Obviously looks matter. People say they dont to be nice. This isn't that difficult to understand.