Please update your pictures! Don't put up photos of yourself that are about 20 years old (even 15). I have and continue to do so myself. For those of you who know about my story with a man I met through a dating site, we finally!! met last night. After about 2 months of talking and him disappearing for awhile in which I had not idea what happened... nor did I think I'd ever meet... we did meet last night. He was the same as in his other photos... but older, a bit heavier (but not much), and so I was taken back a bit. I would have preferred he update his photos. He admitted to me that he was a bit nervous to meet, by the way. I don't know why that is, because he seemed confident to me. I think he is still handsome and has this clever, witty mind, so I shouldn't complain. But in a way I think he was being a little dishonest with his appearance. What do you think?
I try to put very recent pictures up, but I cringe when I do. My weight fluctuates every couple years between 240 and 270 and when I'm 270 my belly is huge! but when I'm 240 Im more like just a dad bod look. He may have every intention of getting his weight down but then his eagerness to meet you overrode his hesitation to expose where he's at on his own fluctuation. He is probably embarrassed about the difference between his pictures and his actual appearance, but he might not realize that the incongruence between his pictures and reality cause a greater discomfort than the actual reality itself , if that makes sense. I usually just make a joke about my 10 month pregnant belly since I'm aware but not sensitive about it, and I can run over 10 miles which is better than most and so I guess I figure appearance doesn't tell the whole story anyway.
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When I was on dating sites, one of the first things I did, after messaging the lady, was ask her go exchange recent photos. Both men and women put photos on the site that make them look good... to attract someone who might be interested. Glad your date went well.
I don't know about dating sites, but the pic I use on Gag is about 18 years old, glad everything else went well for you,
I know a woman in her 40's who has a profile picture from when she was like 22 on her facebook profile.
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The same can be said of women. Look at your genders profiles sometimes. It amazes me how all women over 40 on dating sites have discovered the fountain of youth. 🤣🤣🤣
here's me from 20 years ago I’ll use that !
I dunno man.
I keep looking younger so it's all good.
Same goes for women.
I've been on some dates and didn't recognize her when she walked in.Lol, this is at least as much an issue with women, probably more so.
Yes, it figures they would put an old picture to lure you into a date…
Isn't a guy putting up old pics the same thing as a girl filtering?
Neither is an accurate representationSame for women
Good advice!
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