How do you girls turn down a request for a date?

[weysally]

I can without lying say sorry I'm married, which usually is enough,

[BlueScorpio]

Simple, just say thank you for the offer but I'm not interested and walk away. We don't have to be fake or lie about it, or give him a fake number etc. A no or no thank you is a reasonable answer/explanation.

[melanieeeB]

"Oh thanks that's sweet, but I'm not interested, sorry, I hope you have a nice day tho"

[melanieeeB]

And if he's a person that can't accept a no, I just walk away and ghost them in person and if they should be running after me I'm prepared to scream out and call the cops

[Pinay_ako]

Just say, I’m married with a grand baby 🤣. That’ll turn them down quickly unless of course they have grandma fetish 🫣. seriously, just say sorry I’m not interested

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are guys even asking you for a date if you are married? Guys your age are usually careful enough to avoid married women (unless they are the kind who have no respect for marriage.)

[river23]

I feel kinda sad, but I've never really ever been asked out, I just assumed I wasn't good enough. But then there were about 3 times guys confessed to me and all but we were friends first. I mean it was nice that some guys actually liked me, but one of them was to pushy and said I was his girlfriend before I even gave him an answer. The second one said that we had fucked and bragged about me even though we didn't, so I said no to him as well as the first one. Then the last one was a complete asshole, wouldn't let me have friends no be around anyone boy or girl he was super possessive and wanted to literally keep me to himself with any means necessary. So I just feel like maybe I have bad luck with guys. One other guy who didn't even ask me out I asked him out he kept pressuring me into having sex with him no matter how many times I said no. So I've stayed clear of guys in my opinion the ones I've met suck so yes there could be better ones out there but I doubt I'll find one. Besides most of the good ones are taken so why try so hard.

[Charlesbrandonf]

Same happens to guys. 😃

[river23]

Yeah that's true, and some guys really do try and there really good gentleman but they still don't get asked out and sometimes some guys are to shy to ask another out but I would ask a cute guy out especially if I actually liked him because why not I'd definitely be shy and nervous about it but I'd go for it

[hahahmm]

Depends on the city. In NYC I have seen guys say, 'hello' to a hot woman & she instantly shouts, "fooooook you" and walks off. Although the other possibility is that she pretends he's not even there & looks right through him.

Also have seen cases in a little less hardcore cities where a woman would let a dude talk to her on a train like she's into him & then when he asks for her number she says, "I don't date guys I meet on the train." Ha ha ha! You could see the guy's soul leave his body.

[RangerBlue22]

With all due respect at your age this is more of a you problem than a him problem. You should know how important respect is to men at this point.

As long as this guy wasn’t rude (and vast majority of guys 50+ aren’t) than just say: “hey I appreciate and respect that you asked me. But I have to be honest I am really not interested in that way.”

99.99% of men 50+ should be able to handle that just fine. If you lie about being married and later he finds out your not it’s going to end up burning him a lot more.

While I hate to keep bringing up age I find it rather depressing when I see older women act this way. You should understand men better at your age. We can handle rejection but we just to be respected for having the courage to stick our necks out. You should know by now that isn’t easy as women assume it is for most guys.

[Screenwriter]

Isn't it according to who's asking and when? If it's a stranger or barely an acquantance, a simple "No, thank you," should suffice. If it's a co-worker, someone you see regularly who you need to discourage once and for all, you need to come up with a concrete refusal as they may know you're not involved with anyone and could persist later.

"I'm not dating and I'm not interested," should suffice. The "not dating" softens the blow of not interested, but nails in the coffin shut.

[MikeInHawaii]

Twenty or so years ago, a woman told me “No thank you, I have a boyfriend.” Telling me she had a boyfriend was unnecessary, she can turn me down for any reason and owes me no explanation. What is memorable, and shouldn’t be, was “No, thank you.” What was so difficult about that? Why is it so rare that a young woman would not take a man’s offer for dinner as some kind of an insult, even if she had no interest in me?

Is the idea of treating men with respect so foreign to young women?

I also had a woman tell me she wasn’t sexually attracted to me. Well, she was honest. I’d rather hear that than the load of BS women usually tell me. More bizarre is we did stuff together regularly after than and we would exchange back rubs for hours.

[art84]

I had a girl tell me that she would never go out with me and didn't like me. Hurt but least she was honest and didn't waste my time.

[courtney06]

I usually tell them I appreciate them asking but I'm in a relationship so I'd rather not. Sometimes the guy will respond with "well we are just hanging out it's not like that" and I say out of respect for my relationship I prefer not to hangout with men alone. I don't like causing the feeling of rejection but it's better to be direct.

[weysally]

good answer

[Ezra_lila]

For me First date is very crucial since thats a way of saying if I can be with you or not. If I'm comfortable then probably its a good plus. But if not I will be honest and says "sorry but I think I'm not into you and you can find more and much better match for yourself however I'm not that one."

Always that phrase

[John_Doesnt]

It would be better to just say "You're not my type". It doesn't hurt anybody's feelings (unless they are super insecure) and it's the truth.

That's usually what I've used to turn down women and it never leads to arguments or feelings hurt except for a few who were super insecure and started screaming that I was a racist for saying "You're not my type".

[Kaytiee]

I have a boyfriend so I just say I'm taken. However if I didn't, I simply say I am not interested, and if they're really pushy and creepy I say I have a boyfriend, usually I lie and say he's picking me up or whatnot, and they go away.

[Sour-rose]

"Nope, nuh-uh."

And keep it movin'. I've had to be a salesman and learn the ways of salesmen. Aaand I've learned to just dip if they don't got it. No trying to haggle, no trying to plead, just... bye. :)

[SnowedIn]

Not a girl, but when I was in that position I usually said thank you for asking, but no thanks/I can't/not looking to go out. Since I've been married, the ring and the kids keeps those questions from happening.

[laraWM]

Yes of course. You can also tell the truth that you're not interested. I'd keep it simple to be honest

[trumpets310]

It depends on the reason I'm turning her down, but I would be pretty honest and tell her that I'm just looking for something different in a relationship

[White_Widow]

When I was single and didn't want to date, I'd say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested in dating at the moment."

Later on it became " Sorry, I'm spoken for"

[BIGDennis]

That is the standard I suppose, just lie.
Seems that is most ladies fall back position, JUST LIE.
Personally, I have a hard time lying.
In fact since I have heard women lie so many times,
not just to me, but lie to others in front of me, that
I have come to distrust everything women say,
until confirmed with facts.
Heck, I have many times seen women lie to themselves.
Blows my mind.

[Sparklegirl1616]

I basically said I appriciate the offer but decline politely but asked if we can continue to stay friends if you are more polite they take it better afferwards

[Nikki1989]

Well I am married so that usually kills their interest pretty quickly.

[weysally]

not some that I know, they seem to set a bee line for married ladies, I think they think it's a conquest if can have sex with a married lady,

[Dinklex3]

"No thank you :)"

"Sorry, I'm not interested in being in a relationship right now"

[VIVANT]

I say I’m seeing someone I’m usually crushing from a distance so I can feel it’s believable lol

[AddylynnNightingale]

I tell him in private that I'm grateful but just not interested in dating. Trying to be clear and respectful.

[spartan55]

They say they have to wash their hair. Or they accept, give you their number, then blow you off.

[spartan55]

I don't think any woman has been honest with me about that... par for the course.

[Emilyis]

I just say no and I don't need to give a reason but I'm married now so it doesn't matter.

[Rania05]

Just say no/I don't feel like I want/not interested/Thanks, but I can't

Very simple!

[mobiusforniner]

Say "you're busy" or "you have a boyfriend" most guys get the hint

[MementoMori_]

Just kick the guy in the balls and he'll get the point.

[24_7_Amazing]

I'm sure this is probably an old opinion but if a woman isn't interested in going out with me I would rather she just say so. I'm a grown man your not going to hurt my feelings.

[Raaj4you]

Some girls showed interest in me. If I am not interested in them, I started ignoring them. I have dumped many girls who were argumentative, rude and dominating.

[Anonymous]

If a man asks you on a date and you aren't interested just tell him that you aren't interested if he asks why just say that you are married.

[exitseven]

I used to have a friend that used to wear an engagement ring so guys would not hit on her.

[RiseofArtemis]

I'm certain that doesn't even work. Some assholes would still try to sleep with her even if she was really in a relationship or married.

[exitseven]

@RiseofArtemis According to her it worked.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@RiseofArtemis
Some people won't care what you say to them because they will still try to sleep with the person who is turning them down.

[pizzalovershouse]

By just saying I'm not interested cuz I just dont feel we dont have anything in common

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm sorry I'm not interested in dating right now.

[collie22]

i usually say i'm seeing some one , that mostly works

[AndrésC64]

I'd say that honesty is the best policy. Best to just rip the Band-Aid off and get it over with.

[engineer_weight_loss]

A guy I work with asked me out on a date this weekend

[888theGreat]

You buy a wedding ring or say your Friday nights are filled until 2030

[BLP11520]

Most women are nice when they have said no...

[noone455]

"umm sorry i am not really looking for relationships"

[Anonymous]

If a girl is single she should not turn down guys but give them a chance

[arianna2005]

That's not true not all single girls want to date or have different reasons why she doesn't want to date someone. Just because she's single doesn't mean she should give him a chance doesn't mean she should jugde him either but you can't expect a single lady to give you a chance if she doesn't want to. We all have our reason to why we want or not be in a relationship. Maybe she isn't ready yet, maybe she doesn't want to focus on daiting or maybe she simple doesn't want to. And not every guy that asks a girl on a date deserves a chance maybe he is a creep and asks her in a creepy way so she gets uncomfortable. If you really think like this tho I recommend you take time to think and reflect on the THOUSANDS of reasons a woman might not want to date in general or you because you seem rather upset about it so I'm guessing you get rejected a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

Every girl I has asked out has rejected me.

[arianna2005]

Well then you just haven't found the girl for you doesn't mean she should give you a chance just because you asked her though you are probably not doing the right thing if they all have rejected you. It really takes time pacients and for her to know that you are really a nice guy or not I don't know everyone has different likes and opinions. You should not rush into a relationship but start of as friends that way you get to know her and her likes and opinions so if you do end up liking her and you know what she feels about being in a relationship then ask her. If not maybe try an online dating app because there are many people looking for love.

[Opinion Owner]

If I start as a friend I put myself in the friendzone right away. If I see a girl I like I ask her out. I do try to use dating apps but girls never respond

[arianna2005]

I get that some people have trouble finding love but it's not really an excuse to think like that. Love will happens when it happens you can't force it, you can look for it but you can't force it. I'm sorry to hear that you have so much trouble finding love but if ur patient the right one will surely come and what i mean with friends is being flirty so ur friends but you don't stay in the friend zone no one is going to accept going on a date right away unless she's really desperate.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Why should a woman giver every guy who asks them out a chance? They get asked out at school, work, concerts, festivals, fairs, farmers markets, grocery stores, bars, nightclubs, beaches etc. When a woman has mtie guys asking them out can be overwhelming. Some may be too busy with school and or work, might have just went through a breakup or divorce for example. I feel that you just want every woman you ask out to give you a chance if the are single regardless what they have going on in their life.

[Opinion Owner]

You are right, I want girls I ask out to give me a chance instead of saying no right away or ghosting me.

[Blackcupcake]

I say no I’m not interested

[Kelly6]

I can’t say no

[Inbox]

@Kelly6 ... why?

[Anonymous]

I’m not looking to date anyone for a while

[SmokinAces2000]

I’ve just said I’m not interested

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Remind me not to ask you out

[RandomGuy1032]

Say no thanks stop being paranoid

[Anonymous]

Can I date you? :D

[Anonymous]

i dont lol