It feels incredibly unwise to ask someone out that you don’t know well. I have a mini crush on this guy I think he’s attractive but I want to become friends to see if I’m really like him and not just the version of him my head before asking him out. I’ve heard some people say that manipulation or something but I’m genuinely interested in him as friend but I only date people I’m friends with first. Is that wrong?
I can understand your angle but I don’t think that operating under the guise of friendship is a good choice. If you are interested in him then he needs to understand that, not friendzone you from the start. Feeling him out and seeing if he’s what you want is what happens when you’re dating, and if ultimately he isn’t then you don’t get into a relationship.
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You're probably not actually "making friends" with these guys like you think you do.
"Friends" will show each other their dirty laundry. They will talk frankly about their critical faults openly because they're not trying to get laid.
So in that sense, it's perfectly normal to be "friendly" with guys, and get to know them a bit before you move on to a romantic relationship with them... But don't kid yourself, men and women can't be friends, and you're just giving the flirtation stage a different name.
I think that verbalizing the word "friend" isn't the best idea, but you can start talking without really defining the relationship. I agree with you; friends first is the best way to go.
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