Had an impromptu date with a coworker that went very well. Today neither of us acknowledged it though?

[Anonymous]

First of all, yes we work together but it is very much a temporary and supremely carefree IT job. Everyone just does their shit in there quickly and leaves after they're done

She is 35 I believe, I'm 33, She asked me to hang out after work last Saturday and it ended up in going to her place, going to a bar, a restaurant, the park. All while very drunk and I think by the end of the night even high at her apartment. We've been flirting at times after work walking back home but nothing like this. Mostly her, I only tried to reciprocate since she was kinda drunk. She especially found reasons to touch my face and poking me. She kept saying it's been an amazing night and even invited herself to a friend's bday arty I have to attend, we planned to go hiking in the next month, an art class and hanging out at her house over the weekend. I gotta tell her my friend can't fit another person into the party but we did confirm hanging out next Saturday and hiking next month when the weather is cooler

I didn't make a move on her since that makes me uncomfortable if the other person is drunk. She seemed fine with it, and we just hugged goodbye

We only texted once on Sunday, told her I'd see her at work tomorrow, knowing we had made some other plans, some concrete others vague.

Today before and after work neither of us brought up last Saturday. We did talk but mostly as if it were last week, very open and playful but nothing about Saturday.

I kinda just wanna tell her when I'm alone with her "Saturday was crazy" or "we should so that night again but without alcohol this time". Like I said I do have to tell her about the party since she was kinda esctatic about that. I loved that she wanted to come with though honestly the party is mostly something I need to cross off my calendar

Anyway should I bring this up with her or have another awkward encounter when neither says anything about that night? Will just waiting till Saturday when we hang out be enough and keep it cool for now?

[SomewhereElse]

I don't think you have to say anything about your date. What would there even be to say, by the sounds of it, you hung out and she was somewhat flirty. Why do you feel it is awkward? What would you have wanted to talk about? Even if you've been flirting for a while at work, it doesn't sound like anything non-PG rated happened?

Good idea to avoid alcohol on the next date though, and definitely keep it cool until then!

[Asker]

Thanks for your response! I just feel it was awkward since the way we treated each other by the end of the night was so much different than how we used to treat and talk to each other, and then we went back out usual arraignment. Not just at work but also while walking her home. Probably nothing though

She sent me a good morning text today and at work I told her about not being able to get her an invite to my friend's bday party. She was a bit bummed but understanding. We still have plans for the weekend though, and I kinda want to ask her for lunch before that one of these days

[SomewhereElse]

Sure! Ah ok, I can understand how it could feel quite strange if you pivoted from being flirty coworkers to very flirty hanging out in private in the space of an evening. Sounds lovely and like it's going well for both of you though, I hope you have a nice lunch together & weekend date :)

[Asker]

Yeah you put it in better words than I did, hanging out in private just completely changed our dynamic. I mean I usually avoided her on lunch breaks since she talks a lot but couple of days this week have actually gone to her during lunch to chat. It does feel odd though, mostly since we're not in that private space as you said

[Guy13]

It seems like a regular casual date where both parties showed an interest. I would say enough interest to move forward and continue engaging !