Girls, Ways to Tell a Guy You Like Him?

Question

You don't have to express it verbally. Do you have any tips for this?

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

OK, I am going to teach you something that I call "Indirect Reconnaissance".

"IR" is a method to get someone to answer your unasked question by asking a different question in which the responder must answer in a way that clearly answers your unasked question.

Here's an example...

Suppose I am interested in some woman but I don't know that much about her. Well, the very first thing that I need to determine is if she is available - Does she have a boyfriend or husband or "significant other" ("SO")?

So, I might ask her about something that she is interested in or what her opinion is about something and then ask the follow-up question "What does your boyfriend think about that?"

What I am doing here is presupposing that she has "SO".

Now, she is going to respond with something like one of these:

1. "Oh, well he thinks..."
And that tells me right there that she is taken.
2. "I'm married. My husband thinks..."
And that tells me right there that she is taken.
3. "I'm a lesbian and my girlfriend would think..."
And that tells me right there that she is taken.
4. "I don't have a boyfriend right now, but..."
And that tells me right there she is available.

See how that works?

I assumed an answer to the real question I wanted to ask (Do you have an SO/Are you available?) without coming right out to ask that question. Yet, the question I actually did ask reveals the answer to my real, unasked, question that I wanted an answer to.

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OK, so why did I teach you this?

We are going to use a variant of this in your case.

First, do you know if this guy is available?

If not, then you need to use the IR method and come up with a question like I just showed above.

If he's unavailable, then the issue is moot whether you like him or not.

OK, now, here's the kicker that you need to do...

Suppose he says "I don't have a girlfriend right now."

How you follow-up with that question is how you are indirectly going to tell him that you like him.

For instance, "Really? I find that hard to believe. A guy like you should be taken. Did you just break-up or something?"

Do you see what I did? I did two things:

1. "A guy like you should be taken."
That's basically saying that YOU'D be a girl who would take him. You are indirectly signaling to him that you consider him boyfriend material. (*)

2. "Did you just break-up or something?"
This is equally important. You want to know if he's on the rebound. In a sense, you are becoming slightly nosey, but guys happily tolerate this from women - especially women who may be interested in us.

He could answer that question in a lot of ways and, depending how he answers, can hint at a lot about him. But you have to be careful about interpreting sometimes. For instance, I did not have girlfriends for a considerable period of time and didn't get married until I was 38, so I suspect my relatives may have though I was gay. I wasn't, I was in a sausage party environment for the decade+ that I was in college and had some broken hearts and short rebound relationships, so it never happened for me.

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(*) OK, I starred that indirect compliment because this has been done to me:

"My God [my name], why isn't every guy like you?"

"[My full name], why aren't you married?" in response to something good I said that would be attractive to women.

The woman who said these things was a good friend of mine, so it wasn't going to happen, but these are examples. If she and I were in a different situation, her compliments might have triggered me to respond with considering a relationship with her.

Indeed, I did get into a rebound relationship with a woman who practically ovulated when she first saw me. She immediately had to ask me questions about my hair and other things. It was obvious she was attracted to me. It didn't work out in the long run and that's OK, but her attention was nice and needed because I was getting over a recent, rather dramatic, heartbreak over my nymphomaniac former roommate.

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Anyway, let me know if you have any questions and you can PM me if you wish.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Well I guess a lot of guys are unsure when they first meet a girl whether she is just friendly or is interested and because girls tend to signal interest subtly then it is not such a bad question.

Remembering that if we like you we will stare openly and talk to your breasts, so forget subtlety. Openly show preference for his company for a start. Look into his eyes. Ask his opinion and agree with it. When referring to yourself make open fingered hand gestures to your cleavage. At some point touch his hand or hold it to your lap.

Each of these has worked on me.

If all else fails unnecessarily sit in his lap and squirm.

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

But expressing it verbally is my way.. even though I have anxiety and all, if I start talking to him and then develop feelings for him, I would definitely be vocal about it without coming pressurizing him. If he views me being interested as me being desperate, he certainly does not deserve me and does not have anything to offer, clearly.

I have confessed my feelings to two guys before.. one of them in middle school and one in high school. Both of them told me they were not interested because they either viewed me as a friend or as a sister. Got sibling-zoned.. lmao. I feel like a vast majority of guys are not good at “catching” the signals or hints that many girls drop. This often leads to frustration and days of mulling over, and could even “kill” a blooming (potential) relationship.

Save yourself the time, and profess your feelings to him. If he does not seem to reciprocate, well and good.. you could just leave it be and move on because if he doesn’t like you, someone else will, and maybe they could even be “better” than him in many ways. If he says he likes you back, you could discuss what to do further and just have a talk about it.

If you are too shy and don’t want to confess, but would like him to make the first move, flirt a lot. Cuddle him, compliment him often (genuine ones only; complimenting him on his personality and something about his appearance would be great), and ask to hang out. Ask him when he would be willing to meet up, and when he responds, just say stuff like: “well, guess it’s a date xD”.

Hope everything goes well!

AddylynnNightingale · Accepted Answer

But I love expressing it verbally... But if I can't give it to him straight. There is plan B, Brainwashing and marinating.

I put the idea in his head. I get really close to him or sit on his lap, but stay confident in what I do. Confidence is key. I keep acting all buddy buddy laughing. If the conversation ever turns sexual, I can tease him a little bit. If he complains about his ex, I would tell him what I would do if he was my boyfriend, that allows him to see me as his girlfriend for just that scenario, and can give him a little sneak peek of what to expect.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I tell him  I flirt with him  I find ways to get close to him  I make myself known  I text him/talk to him make contact

mobiusforniner · Answer

I like how all the guy responses tell a woman to just "tell him". God you guys are so vanilla. No game. No chase. Just make it easy. Thats what guys want these days, easy.

To answer your question, a woman smiles around him. Giggles. The cute flirting, like twirling her hair, talking about things he likes. Asks him for help with little things- make him feel like your hero. She cares about him when he is having a hard time- thats a big one for me. She goes out of her way to care about me, even when im not at my best.

If a woman is doing these things, and a guy still doesn't get the hint, he is hopeless.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Writing I love you with nuggets or on pizza, cupcakes, or lunchbox cakes (they're cute, oki).

Everyone needs food and if you get rejected, cry but cry with a full stomach

Now, you can just be straightforward and send him a text if you don't want to talk verbally.

If all else fails or sound stupid, just kick the wall and ask him out to some place. Who knows, might work.

Just be obvious and tell him you like him.

Massageman · Answer

Use sign language (point to your heart, cross your arms and pulls towards you, point to him). I - love - you.

Order a skywriter/skytyper (if you have big bucks) to send him a message.

Wash his car, then sit it in it and neck (kids under 40 may have to look that up).

Write it on his birthday cake- or your tummy- with icing.

77five · Answer

I've always just told them straight up. Only after I was sure he liked me. No point in playing mind games. Women need to realize were not that special and that most guys will easily move on to another girl. He won't chase you. He’s talking to like 30 other girls besides you. Even if he really likes you he’ll still move on.

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

I had a girl at work tell me over and over she likes me best out of all the people at work. I am always looking to make more friends so I asked if she wanted to join me at the pier as I was going to explore it. She swiftly said no. I mean like not even a split second of pause. So I don't know how the @$^@!^$ to tell.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

You DO have to express it overtly, either verbally or in writing.
Otherwise, you should just shove your feelings up your own ass. Cuz that’s where HIS feelings will end up when he goes to prison for acting on your passive bullshit. Grow up. Use your words!!!

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

Interpretive dance usually gratuitous amounts of hip thrusting and using the index finger of one hand and thrusting it through a hole created by putting together your index finger and thumb of your other hand. Retract the lone finger and thrust again through the hole until your intentions are clear.

Or you can talk like a normal person.

rbow_Z28 · Answer

Wink at me and spank my butt. Just kidding. I think as long as you show a genuine interest, make good conversation. Keep up with how he's doing, ask questions, follow up on things he's told you. That is how he will know you like him; without having to tell him.

MementoMori_ · Answer

I have mixed feelings when a girl gives me a sign that she likes me. To me it is always obvious when she does.

But while it is always flattering, it also carries a burden of responsibility, especially if you don't feel the same way about her. You have to worry about how to maintain the distance not crossing the line and stay in the friend zone without hurting her feelings. It can be a pain when you have to do that, but it can also be a joy if you feel the same.

CountryWanderer · Answer

As in, this is the first time? Tell him verbally if you don't want to be ambiguous. But being flirty, like touching his arm, meeting his eyes then glancing away with a smile, blowing him a kiss, sitting on his lap, asking him what he thinks of you outfit, etc. are going to suggest that you're interested. Some guys can be really clueless, though, or could think you're just flirty, so to unambiguous you should tell him.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I agree with the other guy. Even if I get the signals, I wouldn't make a move because girls tend to do all the signals and then drop it altogether when we ask out. Why risk it? I'm not gonna take a fall for that. Woman up and ask out like a proper woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Flirting with non verbal actions will work to let him know that you're interested. You can also smile at him so that he gets the clue and if he's interested in you back, he will make the move. If he's not, he will ignore you to a level that you doubt your own existence

crossdressingrihno · Answer

If you don’t say it flat out he will be afraid to act on it because the me too movement and other similar movements made making the first move feel like a game of Russian roulette.

btk210queenajailuhv · Answer

make efforts to spend 1-1 quality time getting to know him more personally and hint your desire and fondness to him little by little casually becoming more str8 forward to the point and then when the time feels right when its just you and him confess your feelings to him i hope this helps mamas

Pohjolan · Answer

You'd have to seem to be more interested in him than the gals that are not interested in him but do stuff like sit next to him and sleep on his shoulder.

Basically you'd have to behave in a manner that would get you a restraining order if you were a guy.

Or your might want to include verbal communication.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Yeah, you have to express it verbally, especially in these times! Or otherwise the next pink "What does it meeeaaannn?" question is already in the making. Communication is the key. Reading a crystal ball is for Harry Potter.

AviatorTom · Answer

We guys are simple creatures... If you girls just come up to us and say "I like you", we guys will like that, and may just reciprocate.

If you don't want to be so obvious, though, just ask us out on a date.

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

Women are funny. They have a much higher chance of being accepted and yet are too chicken shit to ever be direct and just go up and say it.

Kahel · Answer

I've done confessing my feelings several times when I am into someone. Whenever I did that thing I was not expecting any answers from a guy I like. I should not be expecting something in return. So, I think you should honestly express yourself into that person and after that confessing, you'll feel okay sometime or be more closer to him by acting normally and just being who you are. :>

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Say: I like you (English/Yankee), ты мне нравишься (Russian), ich mag dich (German), te quiero (Spanish), eye-way ike-lay oo-yay (Pig Latin), yar be pleasing me eye (Pirate), or aní ohevét otkhá (Hebrew), depending on which language.

PinkRose24 · Answer

You should just straight out tell him, you're 26.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am very forward with expressing my feelings.

Anonymous · Answer

Just be upfront honestly.. when you two are alone and when the time is right just go ahead and say it say what you want to say, how you feel about them, how you see them, be romantic and poetic if you wanted to.. just let them know.

Anonymous · Answer

Ask questions about him, answer questions and show interest in what he says.  Best way to let him know you like him, is by actually saying it though.

hunterzoloman655 · Answer

All girls should just out and tell us how they feel or say something cause not all of us are good on social ques oh and always reply to a message

Blackcupcake · Answer

I make him laugh, I do nice things for him, I share things I enjoy with him, I take him places I love, I ask him personal questions and try to genuinely get to know him better etc

20yearsolder · Answer

Write a note, pass it to him like you're in grade school

TDDMS · Answer

How my doctor told me was when we were walking towards her office, she bent over in front of me and proceeded to grind her ass on my cock. That was her unique way of telling me she liked me.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Touch his arm while you guys are talking (but not too much or he’ll think you’re clingy)

MrTaboo · Answer

Speaking for most guys. YES YOU HAVE TO SPEAK IT VERBALLY! we are clueless when it comes to hints. And of we think it might be a hint, we go with NO as the default. We don't want sexual assualt charges, false or otherwise, brought on us.

AsaKyo · Answer

You either just tell him, give him a note or become one of Shakespeare's plays

hIopinionated_ · Answer

“I like you” seems pretty simple but even I have a hard time saying it smh

Joe-12345 · Answer

Be direct and tell him how you feel. Don’t sugar coat it

exitseven · Answer

My ex girlfriend used to always say "see you later " After we were dating she told me she said it because she liked me

TroyDT · Answer

Depends on the guy. Some get it. Some like me are so accustomed to being the hunter that we miss it when we are the prey. For me, usually coming over and sitting on my lap does the trick.

Avicenna · Answer

Be friendly, complimentary at times, and spend time with him

Anonymous · Answer

I never told any guy that I like him. In the end it's going to boost his ego. I'm totally scared from men.

britishbby · Answer

Just make moves invite him out and tell him it's easier for girls cuz 90% of men will always say yes to a girl

Rockerroy · Answer

Take him somewhere private where you both are there only. Tell him you have something to say. Start with a compliment and/or tease if you have one and then tell him you like him.

Had this done to me hence able to give suggestion.

KittyBox · Answer

Step 1: Walk up to him Step 2: Tell him you like him Step 3: Profit.

Hollywoodhillz · Answer

Don't do anything. Let him tell you, if he doesn't, he's not into you.

Iron_Man · Answer

They should just come out and tell the guy not the first day but eventually soon. Meanwhile they can drop hints

sicosico · Answer

Give him more attention, flirt, expose, whatever just get him

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

Girls, do it subtly (sp?), because they feel like being direct with it, is too much, and that it's up to the man to tell her

Anonymous · Answer

Like this

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"You don't have to express it verbally." WRONG

Anonymous · Answer

Here's something your puny little mind might never had thought of.. you could say Hey I like you

boobliker · Answer

drain his balls so he won't wander he be back when they fill up.

ZenJen444 · Answer

A man is a hunter. If he's not pursuing he's not interested.

Cedman · Answer

If you really nervous write him a letter or text.

Onashir · Answer

Just give FUCK ME HARD LOOK  All the girls knows how to

darknexus7483 · Answer

They should get on their knees and do their duue diligence

jimmy2 · Answer

It the way they smile, attended to you. A sweet hug and a touch that stands the hair on the back of your head. If you don't get this don't blame them

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Playing with boobs and rubbing pussy in front of a guy

Willoughby23 · Answer

If a girl doesn’t tell me verbally I won’t know. I don’t get the whole “signals” thing.

katestar · Answer

Girls. It's okay to tell a guy that you like him.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Random blow jobs usually work for me.

Agape93 · Answer

Carve it into his chest

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

I call him shit like shawty and baby girl.

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