I’ve noticed that there are lots of obvious signs a guy likes you, but often times they aren’t so forward about it. I don’t know if it’s because they’re shy or what. But what are the signs that a guy is crushing on you?
I’m 21 and this guy I’m referring to is 25 (Is that a bad age gap?). We used to work together, but I’ve since moved to another job. I’ll occasionally reach out, but it’s usually just small talk and funny videos. And he’s always been a terrible texter, but is there some hidden rule for guys where they distance themselves for some reason? Just wondering. Between being very distant, he’ll also over share sometimes when he’s drunk or high…like accidentally hooking up with a girl. And when I said he could just lie about it and not give me an explanation, he blamed it on being high so he couldn’t lie lol
Also he’s very respectful and I have a boyfriend, but obviously that doesn’t stop people from hitting on me (not that I’m all that)…so I was just wondering if there are subtle ques I’m missing so that I can better move forward in our friendship? I just don’t want to accidentally mistake us for just friends and then have problems later, yk?
I’m 21 and this guy I’m referring to is 25 (Is that a bad age gap?). We used to work together, but I’ve since moved to another job. I’ll occasionally reach out, but it’s usually just small talk and funny videos. And he’s always been a terrible texter, but is there some hidden rule for guys where they distance themselves for some reason? Just wondering. Between being very distant, he’ll also over share sometimes when he’s drunk or high…like accidentally hooking up with a girl. And when I said he could just lie about it and not give me an explanation, he blamed it on being high so he couldn’t lie lol
Also he’s very respectful and I have a boyfriend, but obviously that doesn’t stop people from hitting on me (not that I’m all that)…so I was just wondering if there are subtle ques I’m missing so that I can better move forward in our friendship? I just don’t want to accidentally mistake us for just friends and then have problems later, yk?
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yes good age gap
I recommend asking him
to be more sure
How do I even ask that without making things weird? And will he even be honest about it?
wait I just read u have a boyfriend
he isn't the boyfriend right?
No he’s not. He’s a friend of mine from work. And I would like to be able to tell if he likes me just so that I know how to handle our friendship…the last thing I want is to miss signs and then it blow up later
in such case
just keep ur distance n if he tries anything funny then u can tell him to stop
Like I said he’s respectful and a great friend. He wouldn’t try anything like that, but I don’t want to wind up later finding out he’s had feelings and me being clueless.
@asker why is that? So what if he has feelings? Just no shame at all. Be sure your boyfriend sees this post... I'm sure he knows nothing about the other guy. You are being gross.
@laly520
She obviously doesn't gaf about her boyfriend.
What are you talking about? I care about other peoples feelings and I care about my boyfriend. I just want to make sure I’m not missing something, because it could cause problems. And I don’t want that, but I also don’t just want to cut someone off as a friend because I think I know when I don’t. So if you don’t have anything constructive to say f-ck off
@spartan55 I asked out of concern cuz if she has a boyfriend then it isn't right to aim for another guy
thats how I personally think
I’m not aiming for him. I’m simply deciding whether he has feelings because if so I need to cut him off so there’s no trouble. But if I’m wrong then there’s no point in cutting him off because he’s a good friend.
@asker
"I don't want to cut someone off as a friend because i think i know when i don't"... Huh? Makes no sense.
The indignation from you comes out right away which shows I am correct.
What am talking about... play dumb all you want. You know what i'm talking about. So did you so your boyfriend this post? You are 100% full of shit. You act like you are such great friends with this guy, bullshit.
@asker you are so full of it.
Believe what you want to. Besides you wouldn’t know how things are nowadays…you’re like 50 😂
@asker 'how things are' like what? Lining up a guy to fuck behind your boyfriend's back? Such an ignorant statement, and I expected as much. I know more than you'll ever know.
So did you show your boyfriend this post? Since it's all innocent? Didn't think so. You are gross.
I don’t know how you got that from this but whatever dude
How I got what? What did your boyfriend say when you showed him your post? I'm sure he was cool with it... 😂 😂
Make sure your boyfriend reads this post so he knows what kind of Jezebel he is involved with.
Well unlike some I don’t just cut people off for no reason, so I want to make sure there’s a legit reason before doing so
You ask him out and he accepts.