Personally I think courtship is a beautiful thing. I wish courting was the norm now days it's all ugly and crazy I don't like dating I believe if you plan on going on a date it's because you have marriage in mind. I mean I have friends at church that are in courtship but outsider just don't take dating seriously.
Courtship can work, it can be beneficial and romantic but the trouble is you would often be swimming against the waves as this isn’t in keeping with current times.
Some woman would also view this as old fashioned and also not want to be seen as a prise.
Courtship by my interpretation means building a romantic connection leading to possible marriage. If you came with this approach many attractive young women these days would simply “go off of you”…
Many young women want NOT to find a husbands, what they want is a hot guy who is desired by many to claim as theirs, they given in to their sexual needs get emotionally attached and then seek to make the sex machine they have all created loyal and romantic.
The pool of young attractive women that are respected by their male peers is shrinking by the day along with the slightly larger poor of average looking women.
The pool for less fortunate looking or the least desired is also slightly on the decline but this is at a much slower rate.
If that were true, then why will no guy come and take me away from my toxic ass familial situation? Why do I have to do EVERYTHING by myself? I've known people in the past who just went to go talk to some dude online, he came and picked them up, they got married, had kids, etc and the girl did not have to do shit.
Or some girls meet a dude irl who just takes them away and takes care of them. So why can I not get that? I'm stuck here having to suffer and grovel trying my best to do what I can do with the seldom help I get while these other girls out here get to be taken out of hard situations and given the princess treatment.
If I pull myself out of this situation, then will I really even need friends or a husband? Just all fucking croc shit. This just goes to show that no guy has ever loved me enough to want to take me away from this bs and wanted to give me a good life.
Every time I do meet a guy, he always wants me to come see him. So tired of that crap. Why do I always have to be the one to visit? I don't have money or even a driver's license. Are you guys deaf? Are you blind? How do they expect me to see them with nothing? Just come see me, especially when you have the damn money, transportation and a job. God.
So! If did all you wanted, in your last paragraph, what’s my return on my investment?
@Chaser3232 You are then entitled to listen to her complain... forever.
Yes 🙌. I’m old school. I believe in courtship still. That’s the getting to know each other phase and the butterflies 🦋 and warm fuzzy feelings building. That’s the best part! The can’t wait to see each other, the mini heart attacks 🤣, the about to pass out 🫠, the sweaty 🥵 cold chills down the spine, the can’t catch my tongue, frog in my throat, the about to vomit 🤮 feelings whenever you see that special person. 🥰 😍 Why would you wanna miss that?
"the mini heart attacks" 🤣🤣🤣
That whole comment is a keeper. 👍
@MementoMori_ 🥰 thanks 😂
u There are people who do not have marriage as their goal and if a female and male share that perspective and are honest with each other, there is nothing wrong with them dating each other. But most of us do want to find a partner for the long term and I believe in old fashioned dating/courtship.
At the time when you were 20 used to be better. People actually acted normal. Now a days 20 year olds are a giant kindergartners. I hate how people want trans and gays to be looked normal.
It's like calling the guy on the gabage truck a "santation engineer" instead of a garbageman. You can pretend that it is something different, but he is still a garbageman. And you can pretend that sex change people have changed from boys into girls, but we all know that they haven't.
Olderandwise Yes I agree sad world we are living today.
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Yes, but marriage... not so much. At least not "legal" marriage. I believe in a "spiritual" marriage. The legal system facilities and incentivices divorce.
I'll marry someone under my God Christ, Jesus and his father, but I won't have my wife be tempted by the corruption that is our government which is ran by man.
I love your answer , I agree 👍 Yes Jesus Christ is very important in our every day life.
Courtship is the best way to do it. I courted the woman I am with now for a year before we married. Went to her house with gifts and asked her father for permission. Rarely is it ever done like that nowadays but it made our union much stronger because of it.
That is very beautiful. I am sure your wife will always remember. I admire your marriage.
@alwayreckles93 Thanks so much!
I used to when I was younger. It was still fairly normal normal when I was in my teens and early 20’s. Something happened around 2015 and everything seemingly changed overnight. Everyone became self absorbed, narcissistic, disloyal and acceptant of anything and everything immoral and unethical. I thought it was me, but I eventually realized I was just born in the wrong generation.
Yes I can relate. I feel I was born in the wrong generation as well. You must be an old soul. Did anyone ever referred to you as being an old souls?
I’ve heard the concept before, but no one has ever referred to me as such. I tend to just think of myself as traditional even though I don’t really think that is possible anymore. Not with the direction our society and social media has gone.
I've always thought of the words as synonyms.
Maybe "courtship" implies a more virginal "dating" experience, but I essentially think that just because sexual mores have changed, that doesn't change the fundamental human nature of wanting to connect romantically.
I do believe that even that most dysfunctional, lustful, sex maniacs more or less think of "dating" as a precursor for marriage, even if they themselves don't think they'll ever actually "settle down".
We already have a word for when people are just having sex without even considering the idea of falling in love and entering a life life long monogamous covenant. It's called "hooking up" or "casual sex". So why the need to impose that meaning on "dating"?
I just don't get it, it seems that "courtship" and "dating" are the same thing.
For the most part I don't think courtship really exists today, at least not the way it did in the past. It's all about online dating now and women are expected to pursue men just like men pursue women. It breaks my heart because I talk with my grandma and mom about how it was for them and I want to be courted like they were. I want men to look at me the way they did back then. It was so much more romantic back then, more about having innocent fun without expectations and then finding the right man in the process. Today it's all about expectations of causal sex and instant gratification. Ugh!
Let's be clear about what courtship is... it is a man courting a woman, which means the woman being "the prize" and the man treating her as if she is special. Women today are no longer special. As a whole, the female gender has worked very hard to NOT be special, and as such they have lost the right to be treated as special.
You can't say you oppose traditional gender roles, except for the ones that benefit you.
Welcome to the world of gender equality. Women have made their bed and now they must sleep in it.
I would love that. I had that mindset when I was younger but unfortunately didn't come across a man that was familiar with the concept. So I came to the conclusion that it must be outdated. Single and starting over, I'd rather take that approach.
Call me old-fashioned, but I still can appreciate getting to know each other first! If you are observant, you can learn quite a bit about how someone will be able to relate to you - whether for a month or a lifetime- simply be watching and listening to how they act when they are around you.
Courtship and dating are basically the same thing, except dating can be serious or not serious. Courtship is always serious.
We're you ever in a courtship?
Would you consider dating a 30 year old woman if she invited you for coffee?
I was just wondering.
That's okay I like to respect people. lol
I can do courtship as long as I know the woman is attracted to me and most importantly respects me. I am not going to waste all that time, energy and hope just to have her fall in love with some other asshole and then try to friéndzone me. I’ve had that happen twice when I was younger and it was absolutely horrible.
Avoid dating at all costs especially as a man, because it only drains your wallet and time as well. Harvard studies have shown that 80% of all divorces are filed by women and about 60-65% of those women have cited the reason for divorce being financial. It just proves my point that women don't take their vowels as seriously as men. For richer or poorer, but hopefully richer because money and power are what attracts women in the first place.
Not all woman. What about the other half that have been neglected emotionally or when the husband put more attention to his video games and ignores his wife which more common with guys my age group. Woman your age group are from a different generation. Woman my generation we are stuck with momma boys.
Courting like a gentleman is never outdated. Its a beautiful part of life
I'm amazed good job.
As with all things that are entirely one-sided, courtship is a gross imbalance. It had to go away. Only weak, foolish men are still subscribed to such a ridiculous methodology.
Of course I believe in courtship! How else could I stand a chance with @Pinay_ako?
The two of you are dating? How cute 🥰
I wish courtship was still a thing these days. Dating looks like a mess right now. I feel so bad for people just aging into adult life where dating is (or at least used to be) the next step.
No, I don't want to suck up to you to have the "honor" of being in a relationship with you. Guess all that talk of equality was total BS...
This is always such an odd question. I Always believed it should be directly at men. I mean who wouldn't want someone to spend their time energy and resources on the w/o having to reciprocate anything?
Yes I believe in it 100%. That's what makes you become friends that's what makes you have a bond that's what teaches you about each other I say yes
Sure, but it has to be a mutual effort. Nowadays it's just simp men running after girls who are too wrapped up in the phones, social media, and careers to notice.
Just because someone wants to go on a date and get to know someone better doesn't mean that they want to enter in a lifelong relationship/marriage. How could you even make that determination without getting to know them first via going on dates?
I don't have time for it sadly my work is more important right now, so I turned down a girl I wanted to date
You need to pick a wife. God said A men and a woman shall come together.
Work and money are more important for me
I dated several girls but I had a courtship with my wife. I think it was a nice change and she enjoyed it as well.
It has always seemed to me that courtship and dating for marriage are the same thing.
These are things of the past. Men get literally nothing out of it. It's all about serving women and their interests.
No it's about serving the Lord Jesus Christ. God is good. We should be thankful for Jesus Christ saving us all. It's said in the bible one men one woman shall come together like Adam and Eve. This why I can't stand outsiders. The woman you are describing are possessed by the devil.
You're preaching to the wrong guy. I don't follow fucked up suicidal religions derived from hippie desert jews with communist ideas.
As opposed to what? Dragging a woman away by her hair?
What is the difference between courting and dating?
The purpose of Courting it that couple are planing marriage. Dating is just looking for a relationship.
I see no point to date without the end goal being marriage, however to me the terms are synonymous. A period of getting to know each other to determine if both parties will be a good match.
I think casual dating is silly though.
Yes, that sounds good, courtship or dating, It's shame it's not happening nowadays.
I have no intention of marrying under current laws, but I have zero interest in hook ups and do approach dating in a courtship kind of way.
I believe in cursive in a relationship.
It's really the fanciest type of writing.
If you write my name in print, miss me with that gay shit.
"I believe in cursive in a relationship."
There has certainly been a lot of cursing involved in MY relationships, I can tell you that.
WA WAAAAA
This is 2022, not 1722. You cannot be serious.
Oh you be surprised it's very come in Christians Mormons and Jehovah's witness and
Courtship sounds like something from 17th century France.
Courtship is outdated because women don't want to be treated like property.
Yes, I've just never met a woman worthy of it.
Really but most people in your generation are more in n control and stable.
OK, maybe I should take that back. I've never met a woman recently that has been worthy of it. Unfortunately, we're not born understanding what the opposite gender wants from us. So even if we're inclined to try to give it to them we don't always know how. I haven't met ay woman recently that has been willing to give me what I need to reciprocate. I want to give the world to my partner. But I it's very hard to do when you don't feel loved. Most people want love I believe but I believe most people loves either selfishly or love with stipulations. Some by choice, some by fear.
Woman are dramatic it's in our nature.
I can handle a bit of craziness. I was raised in a house full of women. So I actually expect it🤣. But what I don't tolerate is being one of many. I won't commit to a woman that refuses to commit to me. I'm not going to be one of her many guys.
You are free and you are your own boss the choice is yours Sir.
Yep 🙂
Well I always resented courtship and that's mainly due to how women have always played a passive role in courting phrase or process
Yes, people should go slow, which I didn't do
Isn't courtship part of dating?
What is courtship? @alwayreckles93
Dating a person with planing to married that person.
I thought that was dating.
Nope too lazy
Lazy 🦥 t is not!
Fuentes You again I see you put like I. This dude's post!
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