Would you date someone who didn’t have money, but recently got a job?

[Applesausefish]

Would you still take them on dates. Would you also help them if they needed help

[ManOnFire]

If she's actually trying to build her life and have her own money, then I would have no problem dating her. But even just getting a job would not necessarily be enough to prove that she's a good candidate for dating. That's why I said she's actually trying to build her life. There is a difference.

If she's only getting a job just because she knows she has to have one and pay bills but still wants someone else to carry most of her weight while she aspires for nothing more, I wouldn't want to get involved with her. A woman with an incentive to make things happen for herself with or without me is more honorable than others.

[river23]

I'm gonna be honest I'd try my best to do that for someone I was dating if I could, but I'd feel bad if they did it for me because I have that mindset where I take care of myself and I don't need anyone but I learned that sometimes accepting help isn't for you sometimes it's for the other person. Sometimes others offer help not for the person their offering it to but for themselves, and sometimes people offer help because they truly wanna help not for themselves but the other person. And sometimes it's a good idea to accept help not because they pity you or are looking down on you or anything like that but simply because they truly care and they have the means necessary to help you when you yourself don't have them.

[Haha456]

thats ok. I care more about how ambitious and responsible they are rather than how much money they have, especially if they are young in their 20s. Dating or marrying someone who has no ambition, does not have a job , you're just gonna find yourself stuck with a lazy piece of shit who just lays around and plays video games 10 years down the road. Someone who cannot take care of themselves, would not be able to take care of children. Find yourself someone who is responsible and hard working. You show case this by having a job and being able to handle adult responsibilities

[OlderAndWiser]

I would certainly date a woman who was living a meager existence but improving her condition. However, I would not offer her financial support for a few reasons.

1. I want to know that she is dating me because she likes me and not because I give her money.
2. That is especially important if the relationship becomes sexual.
3. Some women would think that if I offered them financial support, I would expect sex in return and they would have the wrong impression about who I am.

[coachTanthony]

No. Get your shit together then come see me.

[Pinay_ako]

Why not? He’s trying to build himself up. Why not help him get there?

[Fuentes]

So u tryna be a sugar momma?

[Pinay_ako]

@Fuentes 🤣 he’ll naw. Just be with him and help him by encouraging him to get there. I don’t want no lazy bum

[Fuentes]

Lol I could see most guys taking advantage of that though

[Pinay_ako]

@Fuentes 🤣. I’m not gonna be taken advantage either. Or he can go to hell 🤣

[Avicenna]

Her spending habits and debt levels would be much more important factors.
Temporary financial support might be possible to a small extent but only if there were an exclusive relationship, and it would depend on the circumstances.
Serious debt problems and bad money management are dealbreakers, just having gotten a job generally is not.

[MikeInHawaii]

A friend, who was a minister, did premarital counseling. She had the couples bring in their credit reports and exchange them.

[SEL195]

Yes. But for me it depends on brain for me. I need someone who is intelligent and wise in the world. I can't have conversations with spoiled brats. He will be able to keep the job ir find something better with his brain too so yup.

[Sour-rose]

No. I had a job that was easy af, WAS GOING TO PAY WELL, and it was a weekly thing. Sometimes weekends included. BUT THE NEXT WEEK, I STILL HAVEN'T GOT PAID SO I SAID WHERE'S MAH MONEY, CUZ? :)... It didn't come until two weeks later and by that time I was fired. Soo no. No job is for certain, you need to make sure you have it for me or leave me be

[Bethany22]

I wouldn't help them financially so early on. I assume you're going out with a guy. If he really likes you, he will take you to places that he can afford to pay for both of you. Don't go overboard trying to help him, as it will kill the romance. Should you date him? Yes, it seems like he is trying to advance himself, so that a good thing

[D-Pad_Chad]

don't care about their job, if I'm dating them they know the terms and they know I'd provide everything in exchange for a traditional household. If they want to have a job than we'd split the chores around the house 50/50 when we got off work.

[sage2021]

You gotta give the guy a chance. He could have that job for many years and you just happened to meet him when he first landed the job. Everyone has to start somewhere - didn't you?

[MementoMori_]

I don't care at all if she has money since I am rich. On second thought I prefer women without a lot of money because the rich ones are spoiled snobs.

[MikeInHawaii]

I avoided rich girls in my younger days figuring they were spoiled and wanted to spend my money like she as pent her daddy’s!

[MementoMori_]

I grew up in a wealthy family and always dated rich girls when I was younger. Most of them (not all) had an attitude that was not appealing to me and were too materialistic. I found that girls from families with average wealth were more often the kind I like to be with... more appreciative of things. There is nothing wrong with being wealthy, and I know a lot of wealthy people who are great people, but I have just had better luck dating with less wealthy girls. As a matter of fact my last long term girlfriend came from a poor family. She was amazing... but things just didn't work out for other reasons.

[PetiteBabe64]

Yes I would.
I have money so money wouldn’t be an issue but for it to work.
He would need to do my dishes
Do Chores and Give me back Massage.

[asallyhope]

I wouldn’t mind. As long as he’s not trying to get me to buy everything. (Of course buying something for each other is normal, but if he’s asking me to pay for everything, like rent or clothes, etc. I wouldn’t like that) but if you saw a future with each other why not try.

[Smoothing]

I know there has been a little of sayings out there, that don't date a potential, date someone who already has there shut together. That is all well and good, but for me, potential also counts.

[ThinkFitness23]

Yes, with the right person you can build together.


This is priceless.

[Googlemyahoo]

In today’s economy you could have a secure job this week and next its gone. I’ve been through it all you can do is move on find another. If someone were to judge me based on events beyond my control they can gtfo.

[UnknownPuppet]

Of course. If he has goals for his future and he works hard for them, then I do not care about his financial situation.

[sawno]

I don't care about her financials as long as she doesn't bring so much debt its impossible to establish a stable future together.

[Pyrofox]

To me its not about the job its more so if they have a great atittude and view of life. A job is just a means to be living.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Been there, done that. It's risky business and if you decide to help someone, make sure you don't take everything going on at face value.

[burlen]

A woman's bank account size and employment status are not dating requirements for me. Big bonus if she happens to be employed and has money.

[misogynistic_pig]

Only if it is a young, beautiful, submissive and virgin woman.

[KennyG72]

lol, got your name right