Guys do you actually genuinely wanna fall in love?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I always wanted girlfriends. My first one was 14 when I was 16. I wanted exclusive, committed relationships in which we were deeply infatuated and couldn't get enough of each other, as opposed to hook ups or conquests. Yes, I wanted to be in love, but I was still a kid who didn't know what love was. Looking back, I was still self-centered.

Infatuation is the feeling that people associate with love. It's the greatest feeling in the world, but it's not the same as love.

Infatuation is like a blazing bonfire that can spark instantly. Things like crushes, love at first sight, puppy love, and lust are infatuation.

True love is more like a warm fireplace in a cozy home that makes you feel warm, safe, secure and content.

Love is something that develops over time, once you get to know your partner's genuine moods, behaviors, habits, attitudes, values, and sexuality. Love is also based on complete trust. In infatuation, 100% trust hasn't had time to develop.

So, I loved infatuation with a beautiful woman whom I really liked. I not only enjoyed the sex, but also being with them, hanging out, going places and doing things with them as best friends. Not just friends with benefits.

That being said, I had no wish to get married and settle down. I didn't want the responsibility of a family. I didn't even think about finding a life partner to settle down with until I was in my mid-30s. I had been too happy being free to explore the world, gain experience (not just sexually), and enjoy life.

I finally found a perfect match when I was 40. My future wife was 2.5 years younger. We got married two years after we met.

We had both had full lives before we met and were ready to start a new chapter. We had been in relationships but never married. For both of us, marriage was a once in a lifetime thing; a solemn vow; the ultimate commitment.

She taught me the meaning of abiding love. We've been happily married now for 26 years. We have built a great life together and have had so much fun. We are totally committed to keeping our marriage healthy and happy because there is no trading it in for a new model.

So, from my personal point of view, lots of men and women, desperately want to experience love. And it happens all the time. It's built into us. But there are those who rush into it and those who are more cautious about total commitment. Of course, there are also those who don't know what true love is or deny that such a thing exists.

William7489 · Accepted Answer

Of course we do! Despite the stereotype of the skirt chasing thoughtless ogre of a man who only cares about himself, ironically most men are actually decent. If you ask the average guy, they would tell you all they want from their loved one is commitment, honesty, empathy and no drama.. I can honestly tell you as somebody who’s been looking for love for decades and decades, i’ve actually been more saddened by the behavior of the younger generation of women and their attitude towards marriage. 80% of all divorces are being filed by women. I’m sure there’s a lot behind those statistics, but ……

Pleaznhim4me · Accepted Answer

Falling in love is the fun part. Staying in love and choosing love is the hard part. It is a huge commitment. Love is actually a choice. Not just a feeling. When people realize this they may have more success and not jump into things as quickly. Maybe better prepare.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

i don't think so from my experience so far they are fucking users

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

No, I learned long ago falling in love is a poor analogy. Both people in a relationship work hard to foster love. One falls in love as easily as they fall out of it. It takes no effort. And the analogy misrepresents the hard work and effort it takes to keep love alive.

What I want is something eternal and I know it's unrealistic, by today's standards, so I don't chase it. If it comes fine, if not I'm content as I am, relationship wise.

Hopefully my long winded response was sufficient.

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

I thought that was more of a problem for women because at least disciplined guys like to devote themselves to a mission. I feel like most women just dabble with missions like Goldilocks. If a man makes a woman and his family his mission, he will die fighting to protect them.

dandrummond501 · Answer

Hell yeah that feeling of being with one person who is going to be able to grow and really know that person through an actual long term relationship and learn something new all the time about that person and I do like to pay attention to the way my partner at the time reacts to my touch and words and make sure that she is satisfied she knows she is love with someone who genuinely is in love with her. I mean who doesn't want that

fbk94 · Answer

I would be but there is no one who is faithful In the meantime, I would appreciate it if you could comment on my question.  #Reigner

themoz · Answer

More than anything else in the world.

I got my dream job and dream career. Enough money to afford a nice condo or house.

What's the point of any of it if I can't share it with someone?

I want something more meaningful in life. Raising kids and a family. Having someone to care about every day. That sounds amazing.

ohsheeT · Answer

I love love it's one of the most beautiful things in the world and when you can find it and it's real you got to have it when you can experience something beautiful like that it just teaches you so many different things

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Yes they do. I don't know if guys "want" to fall in love more than women, but over the years I've become completely convinced that men fall in love much more easily than women do.

Anonymous · Answer

When guys love, they love with their entire soul. Which is why they tolerate so much and stick through the worsts of situations.

Women love with their head. They only love as long as it is convenient for them. Which is why divorce is initiated almost 85% by women, regardless of children or years or anything else.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Most guys do when they’re younger. If they get through their 20’s and are either still single or divorced they tend to re-evaluate their priorities. At least that’s been the common theme in my friend circles.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

It is not controlled. But I would access the situation I am in if I ever find myself having fallen in love with someone. And then take actions appropriately.

MrCommodore · Answer

Yes @malwins, everyone wants to find true love and not be wasting other people's time or breaking hearts.

hahahmm · Answer

I've been in love... and I've been in charge. They're not the same thing and I found that for me, it's best to be a good leader.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, if I ever find a woman who cares as much as I do. Most women from Southern California are too wishy washy or insincere, don't even know what the fuck they want besides looks, money, and bullshit cool guy status.

dustybiker · Answer

They would never turn down a perfect match.

Bethany22 · Answer

I know, I've always heard that that is the last thing guys wanted to happen to them

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I want to but everytime I genuinely like someone I’m getting rejected. So yeah I gave up. I’m empty inside. 😭 Now I only want to react my bodily pleasures. Don’t want to put my emotions and feelings in risk.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

No, It's not something I'd actually want. The idea sounds nice though.

HighValue · Answer

Yes, but only with an actual good girl that would be compatible for long term.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes that would be the perfect scenario for me, especially if it´s mutual.

Pot8o · Answer

Sure, but women don't want those kinds of guys. They'd rather ride the cock carrousel.

MCheetah · Answer

Yep. Seems like women nowadays don't, though. So I gave up. Oh well.

MysticDevice · Answer

Yes indeed. Its an ongoing process and its hard when you're cautious from being let down so many times.

sawno · Answer

100%, having experienced it there is nothing I want more than to have that back in my life.

Chris_Morgan · Answer

I usually do within like a week of dating a woman. I've been in love like 4 times.

Heolurt · Answer

Back when I had hope and belief in "love" I did but after becoming a realist and knowing I'll never go on a single date ever, I gave up on the belief of "love".

Kreneman · Answer

Yes, I am currently engaged to my woman and I am excited to be in love with her.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yeah! Absolutely. Today’s women make it really hard to, but yes, we do.

shyguy1886 · Answer

I'm already in love but she has a boyfriend. We are both in different parts in our life's and we hardly know one another.

Pete671 · Answer

Not looking for love, the only woman I ever really loved was a gay girl 15 years my junior, we were like twins, just an amazing connection,,,

EaterPeter · Answer

That's pain. I had enough. So had you. Why you want to?

HaveNoName · Answer

You do not fall in love because you WANT TO fall in love

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Not a chance. Women are dangerous and expensive.

TroyDT2 · Answer

No. Falling in love is emotional. I want to make the choice to love.

BJP21 · Answer

I do, Im single, Im available, I work hard, I am hard. For the right compatible person.

smilelots · Answer

hell ya it a wonderful think if you find it and its true love.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but not just ANY woman. I will give my all, but I deserve the same in return. And those women are rare.

Avatar74 · Answer

I have fallen in love, it feels great when its going well but feels dreadful when its not

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Of course. It'd be great to find a beautiful woman to love.

BlurryHaze · Answer

Falling in love is easy, staying in love however...

BLP11520 · Answer

Been there done that, broken heart twice so we as men just fall for certain women hard.

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah, but it takes one hell of a woman for me to give a fuck

Anonymous · Answer

No thank you... I have so many others things to do in life.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@malwins I genuinely don't want to fall in love because of Ned Fulmer's cheating scandal.

Jltakk · Answer

Of course I do, I also genuinely want a house and zero debt, doesn't mean either will happen.

Gooddaze · Answer

I think it happens it’s normal when you find the right person

ALewis30 · Answer

Yes I do. I love to spend my life with a girl I can have deep connection with

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I do just think it will never happen. What about you?

Anonymous · Answer

Of course, the one year that I was with my ex who I loved with all my heart was the best year of my life.

alt_infona · Answer

If course I do. Anyone who says no is hurt or lying

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’d rather have to chew my own arm off.

chicosuave · Answer

Only with the right girl

LiamSawyer · Answer

Yes, with the right woman.

JDavid25 · Answer

Yeah, one day..

Aelleden · Answer

Yes, for the right person

exitseven · Answer

I fought it for as log as I could.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I wanna fall in love.

soe11 · Answer

It is a natural if one has human heart.

genericname85 · Answer

sure but not just anyone.

MRME6 · Answer

Yes but finding the right girl is difficult.

Iron_Man · Answer

I’m already in love

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