I met a nice guy in who’s in the Navy earlier this year. We were in the motions of getting to know & learn each other. He came to visit where I live for my birthday. He had a really nice hotel setup. He expressed his feelings to me & we made great memories. We planned for our future & being in a committed relationship later on. I’m currently in college here, which my top priority is getting my degree first before I move across the states to be in a committed relationship but I still planned to make time for him & visit each other as much as we could. Everything was going great til a few weeks later his grandma passed right before his deployment. I felt like things were getting rocky & he didn’t want to be bothered as much I tried to be there for him. He tells me “Things are going to get bad on my end and this is one of the reasons I just want we stay friends. I know how this goes and I know how I am” “Honestly, You should end it with me. I’m no longer looking at a relationship in the future.” I am very hurt & upset I try to understand because I know he’s going through a lot but I also feels he’s pushing me away. We stopped talking for 2 weeks. We talked again one week before his deployment we got into an argument. He said “he lost feelings for me” “he talks to someone else now” “Life changed me, circumstances changed me, meditations changed me. I faced some hard truths. That changed me.” I feel like everything he’s told me is so random we had literally just stopped talking only a few weeks ago. But he also says he would like to still be friends, offering me a friendship only & for me to understand where we stood at. It’s very heartbreaking. He told me he hopes I move on & meet another guy. It’s hard for me to move on because I’ve gotten comfortable & close with him. I ended it although I miss him things aren’t the same. I’d like for us to be back to normal when he comes back from deployment but I’m not even sure what to do at this point?
What to do when a guy in the military pushes you away before deployment?
I met a nice guy in who’s in the Navy earlier this year. We were in the motions of getting to know & learn each other. He came to visit where I live for my birthday. He had a really nice hotel setup. He expressed his feelings to me & we made great memories. We planned for our future & being in a committed relationship later on. I’m currently in college here, which my top priority is getting my degree first before I move across the states to be in a committed relationship but I still planned to make time for him & visit each other as much as we could. Everything was going great til a few weeks later his grandma passed right before his deployment. I felt like things were getting rocky & he didn’t want to be bothered as much I tried to be there for him. He tells me “Things are going to get bad on my end and this is one of the reasons I just want we stay friends. I know how this goes and I know how I am” “Honestly, You should end it with me. I’m no longer looking at a relationship in the future.” I am very hurt & upset I try to understand because I know he’s going through a lot but I also feels he’s pushing me away. We stopped talking for 2 weeks. We talked again one week before his deployment we got into an argument. He said “he lost feelings for me” “he talks to someone else now” “Life changed me, circumstances changed me, meditations changed me. I faced some hard truths. That changed me.” I feel like everything he’s told me is so random we had literally just stopped talking only a few weeks ago. But he also says he would like to still be friends, offering me a friendship only & for me to understand where we stood at. It’s very heartbreaking. He told me he hopes I move on & meet another guy. It’s hard for me to move on because I’ve gotten comfortable & close with him. I ended it although I miss him things aren’t the same. I’d like for us to be back to normal when he comes back from deployment but I’m not even sure what to do at this point?
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