Would you ever date someone who was going through a messy divorce?

[coachTanthony]

[Aerissa_Jade]

I used to say no way, but someone could be legally separated and having a spouse fight the divorce, or even vanish and then it takes years to have a divorce.

I think these days, it would highly depend... on how much I liked them, how much I trusted them and if I thought they were lying and after doing my own research.

I get it, divorce can be expensive too and they may not have money to file right away or may be avoiding doing it altogether to avoid the cost and just moving on with their life.

I did date a married guy once, who his wife had been living with another man for years... and she said she would file and he was just waiting for her to do it, but then he decided to do it and she vanished, so he couldn't even give her the notice.

Then I also had a friend who she fled her husband from abuse but he disappeared and she lived with another guy cause she couldn't find him to serve notice. It wasn't until years later, she found him in prison for beating someone else that she could get divorced from him.

Just have to be careful that it isn't a lie, saying I'm going to when they are really just a cheater... but then again they could just say they are single and I'd have no idea they are married.

[ShellyB]

The easy answer is no but you never know what exact situation you could find yourself in so I would have to say it is possible (except I am not single and do not think I will be single but I mean if that was not the case).

What if the person you like is great and the partner is terrible and the divorce is messy because of that reason, and, what if they are totally separated and have been for a while and there is no way they are getting back together, they might still technically be married but it could still make sense if the two of you have the right connection?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not, indeed before I got married I didn't even date divorced people. How can you trust someone who has already proven to someone else they can't be trusted?

Ultimately I would need some kind of proof the divorce was against their will and they had done nothing wrong. This is almost impossible for anyone to produce, as its invariably he said she said.

So I stayed away from the mess and such people.

[MysteriousDarkness]

I would never knowingly date someone who is not single or recently single. Why wod you want to be with someone who is going through a divorce let alone a messy divorce which would bring a lot more stress with it than divorces already do. It most likely would have a negative impact on your emotional, mental and physical health. Not worthit to me but luckly I am in ahappy relationship.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Wouldn't date anyone "going through" a divorce, messy or not..

If they're not already divorced, separated or not, they're still legally married until the divorce is final and I w wouldn't date a married person period.

[menmenme]

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[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@menmenme well I don't

[Face2siton5hrs]

I can relate to that because I'm currently involved in the 5th year of my divorce and the 10th year since my wife has lived with me.

Like my ex said she was going to use divorce to make sure I could have no opportunity with no one else and make sure that every dime goes to give her new man a leg up in life.

So you would be dating some looser with nothing to offer except only but a heart and hope that some one would ever even take him serious though year 5 continuance 22 .

I mean you would have to invest years in somebody just to be able to go to that next level of marriage. The only upside would be you would know them well

[kylee2437]

No thanks. I want someone that is in a point of their life where they are ready for a fresh start and don’t have anything messy going on

[Avicenna]

That should generally be avoided

[TenderFantasy]

Nope. They'd be too preoccupied with the divorce to really concentrate on the relationship properly. They probably need to deal with custody issues, property issues, financial stuff like alimony, lawyer's fee, etc. Not to mention the emotional loss of a once committed partner and the rejection that comes from the divorce. It's like a break up but more sticky because it has the added formalities.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Assuming I'm available to date, I definitely won't mess with men who are married regardless of their marital status.

I'd strongly advice anyone to stay away from sticky situations like that.

[Amy10223]

You're not supposed to date anyone who is still divorced, technically. You need to wait until they are completely divorced, and even then, they n need some time away from relationships after it is all over. It's a very stressful situation to be in, and the person needs time to heal.

[NathanDavis]

does not sound like my cup of tea... especially if they were the messy ones, lol

but it would depend on the actual details, not just assumptions from my part

[ChiTown33]

I wouldn't date until the divorce was finalized (the last woman who showed interest in me learned that). Even if the marriage is over. Wedding vows mean something to me and I will not date a woman in the process of divorce. Sorry

[Paul_in_Indy]

Date? No way. Would I hook up with her? Yes. That tension and frustration can translate to some pretty exciting sex.

[Summeroflove]

I would try and wait until the divorce was finalized. It more depends on her and why they got divorced

[Blackcupcake]

does he have the time to date if he’s got that much going on in his life? lol


my answer is, if he’s a genuinely good guy and I fall for him, then yes I would date him, without a doubt.

[USLegionary]

Look at what happened to the guy dating OJ's ex.

[carlgpfeifer]

It has bin three years after I divorced my former ex wife my marriage was a messy after I had struggled with my health I was in hospital for my illness I had not dated in three years I am looking for a date I bin trying look for girlfriend I had no luck so far

[Sour-rose]

Nope. It cannot be worth to date someone who is going through a divocrce. Either they are the reason, the other is the reason or the relationship turned sour due to "something happening".

[exitseven]

yes, sometimes drama in a relationship can be really hot.

[RangerBlue22]

No but oddly there are people who sometimes like this seeing this drama being an outsider. Make their new partner feel more “forbidden” or something

[SnowedIn]

Probably not. Too often there is a lot of drama, some of it justified but much of it self inflicted. Some drama is part of being human but too much is, well, too much.

[Sixgunsound]

If they already not only demonstrated they don’t take romantic promises seriously but are making an ass of themselves in the process, that’s a hard nope.

[AviatorTom]

No, if I was interested in her, and thought she might be interested in me, I would wait until the divorce was final and she has gotten over the breakup.

[bolverk]

NOPE, avoid at all costs, It is not worth getting involved with anyone going through a divorce as you are libel to be dragged into the shit show and become a target of the ire of the family on both sides.

[Shiningtempest]

@coachTanthony I wouldn't date a woman who's going through a messy divorce because there's a higher chance of her being jaded.

[Lionman95]

No because I have enough problems of my own. I´m also not really a help in such a situation as I don´t know what to do.

[petitedollbabee]

No, too much drama. I’d rather date someone who has already been through the divorce and recovered from it before becoming involved with me.

[Smashingdoozy]

No, I think that's a recipe for disaster. Should never go into a relationship unless you are 100% mentally and physically ready

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh hell No that is a huge sin against God. That's like buying my ticket to the train to hell. GLORY BE GOD!

[maximumpower]

No.
Too much emotion and baggage, as well as possible legal issues.

[legalboxers]

I did.. I tried to be supportive. she was just a total bitch to me

[slatyb]

I might, it would depend on how messy and why she is divorcing. I would be very leery of becoming intimate with someone divorcing.

[Rosamedijo]

Not happening... anyone going through a divorce should wait for all doors from their past to close before opening new ones

[liligigi]

No, I did that before, and it wasn't worth it. If I really like the person, I'd wait for their divorce to be finalized. Otherwise, I'll just move on.

[wingattebaby16]

no way.

i hate having to deal with ex's.

I have enough drama in my life now

[Chazmatazz269]

No. I’d never again date a divorced woman under any circumstances, especially not one with kids.

[nspencer]

No you just would be setting yourself up for a lot of drama

[Kabluie]

I have, she was non-mono. Sometimes you meet people at inconvenient times but it's worth sticking it out.

[BJP21]

Only if there is complete separation. I tried dating a divorcee and she really had a negative attitude towards marriage or even having a family, but she wanted to be with someone.

[Cecinene]

Never that is actually the last thing I would think of.

[thekpopweebchild]

no thank you this man already have so much going on

[Anonymous]

absolutely not. i also would never date someone who was married before. thankfully i don't have that problem.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'd be their friend for the time being until they get their life straightened out.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, I want a woman who's never been married and has no kids.

[art84]

No especially if it involved children, I don't want to be a part of drama of a divorce between a mother and her ex husband.

[Jennz6]

No, I don’t want to make it worse for either of them.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's like saying "would you ever stick your dick in a garbage disposal."

[Likes2drive]

Probably would wait until they are ready emotionally

[RobT312]

Nope. Id wait until they are divorced

[Anonymous]

yeah, whatever. Doesn't really phase me. so long its not gonna put me in bankruptcy. Marriage is a title with little meaning.

[Opinion Owner]

" Contact me again until the divorce is final" sounds like a dick move to me.

[Legion696969]

Does love even exist anymore in this Western Hemisphere I muse? 🤔

[Twalli]

Not going through, but having gone through, yes.

[bamesjond0069]

No. I wouldn't date a woman who was divorced. Not seriously anyways.

[SkyCastle90]

No. They're not over their ex yet.

[KelleyNice]

At my age that's not applicable.

[AddylynnNightingale]

No, I would be a spectator.

[Agape93]

No thats how you get killed

[Steamnir]

You never know, might happen

[Tina19]

Yes i habe dated such guy once

[LazerBean]

Not a chance.

[Rosexøxø]

Nope.

[LovingJo]

Depends what the reasons were

[jamesgoldman]

Only if I get first dibs on their engagement ring

[TacosRAwesome]

No. I have my own issues.