+1 yFor me... Personality.. I once fell for a guy who was amazingly good looking but, he turned out to be a very very very bad bad bad person (i wanna say some other words but don't wanna go overboard). Anyway, he was such an impostor and a cheater. It took me some time to heal. Then there is my friend who is average looking, but his personality is charming, he is very respectful (especially towards girls), never tried to flirt with me or make me feel uncomfortable in anyway.
Eventually we became good friends, then best friends to soul mate and then we officially became a couple (in fact i kinda took the first move and asked him out). If some outsider looked at us, they would be like "girl you could've gotten a better looking guy compared to your looks." BUT I learned the hard way, personality matter more than looks.
My ex used to treat me like sh*t. Never apologized for his mistakes, lied, cheated and so on. But now I'm in this wonderful relationship, where my boyfriend listens to me, helps me become a better person, and i literally feel more healthy and happy with him. I could have lost the man of my dreams, if i focused only on looks.
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👀would love to know more about ur ex
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@athelete_7 ooo we got stories alright
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How did u meet the charismatic guy / attractive ex that flirted a lot. 👀idk why ur story seems familiar to mine.
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can't message at my level sadly
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@athelete_7 high school... met him in high school
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@athelete_7 aaa me too...
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👀did u meet him on last day of high school?
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@athelete_7 i have known him for sometime but yh... almost towards the last days
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What happened between u both that u felt cheated by the charismatic guy?
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AND CALL HIM AN IMPOSTER
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👀cuz i also met my ex during last days of my high school.
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@athelete_7 he literally shows one face to public, "that he is an innocent good guy" and then secretly have many affairs, lies, and dont get me started..
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👀how did u knew he had secret affairs?
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I wanna hear
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@athelete_7 i have ears.. i got friends.. and evidences were just came right infront of my eyes.. LOL
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👀is flirting considered as cheating? Cuz my ex legit flirted with other guys infront of me
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👀was he in relationships with others?
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Was he in a relationship with u?
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@athelete_7 when u commit to someone.. u dont go flirting with others...
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👀he commited to u?
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@athelete_7 oo yes... he asked a girl out while he was dating me
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👀dating is nt called commitment. But yep double dating is a red flag. U did good to dump him.
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The one that commits sees u as a priority not an option
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if he was uninterested in me, he could've just said it.. and not cheat... i was getting ignored, lied to and was literally depressed... I had to end it myself
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👀welp i was lied to and ignored too. I can understand how it feels when someone makes u feel like ur not worth it. U did good by moving on.
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Better to start a better chapter than being mis undrrstood and betrayed to
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@athelete_7 thats true... but when u are young and a handsome guy tells u "you are my forever"... u kinda drift into another world
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👀some guys genuinely feel that way when they say that. But yep some fake it.
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@athelete_7 moving on was the best thing i ever did.. when i level i would love a convo with u as a friend
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🤝sure thing i ll ping u a message if i level up
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*level up
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😂we all do spelling mistakes dont we. I got it
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@athelete_7 LMAO🤣🤣
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yIt’s always the looks for me. But I don’t just jump into falling in love with the looks of the person. Generally they are 100%, and as I’m getting to know, listen and observe the actions of the guy then I will either add or subtract points lol generally that gives me an idea if it’s worth the fight or not.
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1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. I would fall for an average looking woman with a great personality over a beautiful woman with a shitty one. But I would probably be more interested in fucking the beautiful one, and having a long term committed relations with the average but fun to be with one.
I would never want to fuck or date an ugly woman no matter how great her personality is... and I would never date a woman with a crappy personality regardless of her looks being good, average or bad.
But I would fuck an ugly woman if she had nice tits or a firm ass or the woman with shitty personality as long as, she put out and was sexy. not sure how long term i could maintain it though, all depends on how good the sex was, I guess.
So, in the end it all depends on the type of relationship, the women in question, how ugly or cute she was, and how much I enjoyed her company. It all relative to the situation, circumstances and individual.
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1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. I don't need a chick with absolute Hollywood looks. A fairly decent looking woman is enough for me, but a good personality is a strong Must.
I dated an "ugly" girl for awhile once, and didn't care. She was super sweet and had a great personality. And even longer before her I dated a beautiful woman who was boring, didn't believe in regarding men's feelings, and just wanted to use me and other men.
So yes, personality has to matter.
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+1 yI fell for the is one chick who was okay looking but as soon as she laughed it was over. That laugh got me.
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Her personality humor and charmed shined through no matter what she looks like.
1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. Got to be attracted to the whole person - body, mind, character, personality.
00 Reply626 opinions shared on Dating topic. I look for both!!
looking good from rhe outside but having a personality that sucks makes you as a whole a ugly person to me
Having a great personality but being ugly from the outside is a better alternative then the other way arround but if I'm not physically attracted to you it doens't work out for me on the long run and we can't be together for that reason.
A combination of both is needed in order for me to make it work on the long run.
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+1 yI'm fiercely attracted to intelligence.
I can see past pretty much anything if she's kind hearted, appreciates and responds to sarcasm, and complements that with a bit of drive and ambition. Many men, perhaps even most men, are generally intimidated by women with power or those that earn more than them. Some shy away if a lady has a sharp tongue or demonstrates quick wit. Many cultures/countries/societies even actively discourage women from being any of the things I described above.
An independent woman that doesn't need me at all but chooses to stick around anyway is a major turn on. I'd have no problem being "First Lady" while proudly showing off my wife, Madam President.10 Reply
Anonymous(30-35)+1 yUsed to be looks, but more so personality now. When I was a teen I used to have a problem with "judging a book by its cover". Even if someone was a bitch, if they looked sweet and innocent it took a lot to break that mental image of them I created. I started not caring so much that someone was a knockout and paid more attention to other things like chemistry, how they treated others/family, where they saw their life going, etc. Definitely lead to much richer, more fulfilling relationships. Not that attraction isn't important, I still think you have to find the other person attractive, but I dont place that over personality. I won't capitulate with shitty behavior just becomes someone is drop-dead gorgeous
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+1 yBoth. I can't be with a man who looks dead-ass gorgeous but treats me or other people like shit. You can keep your pretty self to yourself if you are like that. I also can't be with someone who is not good-looking, I look for a long-term thing which obviously includes marriage and kids, I don't want my kids to have big ears lol.
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yPersonality is something that we call inner beauty which refers to the mindset and character of a person and Looks is something that we call outer beauty which simply refers to the physical appearance of a person. In my opinion, looks can never be a factor based on which an individual should be judged.
00 Reply4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic. If you aren't attractive I won't ever want to date you. If I don't like your personality I won't go on more than one date with you. So it is neither. You need to be attractive to me physically to get me to date you. I need to like your personality to continue to date you. So what do I fall for, both.
00 ReplyA bit of both to be honest, I remember many many years ago when I was young. I saw this girl across a crowded room and our eyes locked and it felt magic the attraction was there instantly she had both looks and personality.
Unfortunately things beyond both our control (her family moved away and she went with them because she had no choice at the time) meant that the relationship wouldn't last but it was great whilst it did.
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+1 yWhen I was younger it was looks and that never worked out for me. I have since changed my ways.
A beautiful personality will make a person be beautiful in my eyes. But it also has the opposite effect too. An ugly personality will make a person ugly in my eyes
00 ReplyI can't just pick either looks or personality. I need looks too because I need to want to have sex with them. I can't have sex with someone I'm not attracted to. Sure there are exceptions but they don't make up the majority of the population
00 Reply2.6K opinions shared on Dating topic. I wouldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to. But true attraction is based on personality. So I wouldn't continue to date someone I didn't admire for their personality and values. Connection is not just physical.
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+1 yPersonality, because If i see someone and I think they are not my type ( don't think anyone is ugly) but we start to talk and i like their personality than I start to think they are attractive
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yUsually looks. I believe most men go for looks to begin w. Only after we’ve gotten to talk to her some does personality start to play into whether we genuinely like her or not as far as a real relationship.
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+1 yLooks is what get you a date, but your personality is what gets them to decide to stay or go.
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+1 yFirst I see them and like them or not... then I hear them and decide if I like them or not... so both
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+1 ypersonality but looks are important and generally starts there.
00 Reply 2.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Kind of both.
You notice her looks first, then lear about her personality after, so based on that you either stay or leave.00 Replypersonality for me then it all falls into place
00 ReplyPersonality, been with many guys who doesn’t look good but the longer I know them the more better they look cuz their personality
10 ReplyPersonality more so, but looks will get you in the door.
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+1 yPersonality. Looks fade, personality stays. 😉
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If your looks fade im leaving
His looks will catch my attention and personality will interest me to date the person so both matters to me
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+1 yLooks/attraction, personality, family oriented and how he treats me aka respectful
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+1 yI’d fall for personally I mean I dated a weird Italian girl and I only fell for her because she had a funny personality her looks weren’t scandalist or anything
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+1 yLooks of course. Personality is just supplemantary. If its too bad, looks stop to matter. This is not true for an angelic personality having a very unattractive looks.
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+1 yLooks first, then personality. Gotta have both in a relationship.
00 Reply Both, because both matters also attractiveness is subjective
00 ReplyPersonality if I actually get to have a say-so in who I choose to be with, rather than having the decision forced on me
00 ReplyMy interest is piqued by looks, I pursue based on personnality and other traits
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+1 yI mostly fall for personality. Sometimes I think the guy isn’t attractive up until I get to know him then he suddenly becomes more attractive. I’ve also liked guys without knowing what they look like but I’ve liked their personality.
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+1 yThat's A loaded question. Everyone will say "personality" because it falls in line with this good person nonsense.
00 Reply Personality because I'd rather an ugly sweet heart then a hot asshole.
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+1 yare you asking that what we prefer between personality and look?
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for first or in start, we (most people) choose looks over personality,
but after spending some time, its personality and behavior matters the most in relationships.
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everyone want that their partner, SO must be attractive hot and handsome.
but also everyone wants the good personality and good behavior as well.
and I think personality and behavior is the most important thing it any type of relation.
711 opinions shared on Dating topic. Personality... it sets the tone in approachability.
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+1 yI get infatuated with looks, but fall in love with personality.
00 Reply All the above intellect, income, looks, personality
00 Reply528 opinions shared on Dating topic. Big curves cute face hahahahahaha
and a kind and sweet person
00 ReplyA combination of both. Looks are not everything
00 ReplyPersonality overrides looks but decent looks make a catch
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yPersonality. A personality that is about 5'4" a 100lbs. That's an ideal personality.
00 ReplyLooks are great but I fall almost exclusively for red flags
00 Reply3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. First and foremost Personality.
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+1 yA combination of both.
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+1 yBoth because if it's top notch, I'll admire it.
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+1 yShe has to have both.
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+1 ypersonality cause beauty is skin deep
00 ReplyBoth, or the other doesn't matter!!
00 ReplyPersonality 100%
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+1 ylooks first, then personality.
00 Reply Both but short girls my weakness
00 Reply1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. Both are as important
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+1 yBoth on woman. Wish I knew.
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+1 yI find that personality is what I fall for most.
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+1 yI Willa never fall, only transform
00 Reply 5.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. Ice cream, weed, and blow jobs.
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+1 ypersonality
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