What do you fall for, looks or personality, and why?

Question

Looks or personality.

unknowngirl0232 · Accepted Answer

For me... Personality.. I once fell for a guy who was amazingly good looking but, he turned out to be a very very very bad bad bad person (i wanna say some other words but don't wanna go overboard). Anyway, he was such an impostor and a cheater. It took me some time to heal. Then there is my friend who is average looking, but his personality is charming, he is very respectful (especially towards girls), never tried to flirt with me or make me feel uncomfortable in anyway.

Eventually we became good friends, then best friends to soul mate and then we officially became a couple (in fact i kinda took the first move and asked him out). If some outsider looked at us, they would be like "girl you could've gotten a better looking guy compared to your looks." BUT I learned the hard way, personality matter more than looks.

My ex used to treat me like sh*t. Never apologized for his mistakes, lied, cheated and so on. But now I'm in this wonderful relationship, where my boyfriend listens to me, helps me become a better person, and i literally feel more healthy and happy with him. I could have lost the man of my dreams, if i focused only on looks.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s always the looks for me. But I don’t just jump into falling in love with the looks of the person. Generally they are 100%, and as I’m getting to know, listen and observe the actions of the guy then I will either add or subtract points lol generally that gives me an idea if it’s worth the fight or not.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I would fall for an average looking woman with a great personality over a beautiful woman with a shitty one. But I would probably be more interested in fucking the beautiful one, and having a long term committed relations with the average but fun to be with one.

I would never want to fuck or date an ugly woman no matter how great her personality is... and I would never date a woman with a crappy personality regardless of her looks being good, average or bad.

But I would fuck an ugly woman if she had nice tits or a firm ass or the woman with shitty personality as long as, she put out and was sexy. not sure how long term i could maintain it though, all depends on how good the sex was, I guess.

So, in the end it all depends on the type of relationship, the women in question, how ugly or cute she was, and how much I enjoyed her company. It all relative to the situation, circumstances and individual.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

I don't need a chick with absolute Hollywood looks. A fairly decent looking woman is enough for me, but a good personality is a strong Must.

I dated an "ugly" girl for awhile once, and didn't care. She was super sweet and had a great personality. And even longer before her I dated a beautiful woman who was boring, didn't believe in regarding men's feelings, and just wanted to use me and other men.

So yes, personality has to matter.

coachTanthony · Answer

I fell for the is one chick who was okay looking but as soon as she laughed it was over. That laugh got me.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Got to be attracted to the whole person - body, mind, character, personality.

glennos89 · Answer

I look for both!!

looking good from rhe outside but having a personality that sucks makes you as a whole a ugly person to me

Having a great personality but being ugly from the outside is a better alternative then the other way arround but if I'm not physically attracted to you it doens't work out for me on the long run and we can't be together for that reason.

A combination of both is needed in order for me to make it work on the long run.

But the most important thing for me is definitly personality

unclebilly · Answer

I'm fiercely attracted to intelligence.
I can see past pretty much anything if she's kind hearted, appreciates and responds to sarcasm, and complements that with a bit of drive and ambition. Many men, perhaps even most men, are generally intimidated by women with power or those that earn more than them. Some shy away if a lady has a sharp tongue or demonstrates quick wit. Many cultures/countries/societies even actively discourage women from being any of the things I described above.
An independent woman that doesn't need me at all but chooses to stick around anyway is a major turn on. I'd have no problem being "First Lady" while proudly showing off my wife, Madam President.

Anonymous · Answer

Used to be looks, but more so personality now. When I was a teen I used to have a problem with "judging a book by its cover". Even if someone was a bitch, if they looked sweet and innocent it took a lot to break that mental image of them I created. I started not caring so much that someone was a knockout and paid more attention to other things like chemistry, how they treated others/family, where they saw their life going, etc. Definitely lead to much richer, more fulfilling relationships. Not that attraction isn't important, I still think you have to find the other person attractive, but I dont place that over personality. I won't capitulate with shitty behavior just becomes someone is drop-dead gorgeous

sweet-chocolate · Answer

Both. I can't be with a man who looks dead-ass gorgeous but treats me or other people like shit. You can keep your pretty self to yourself if you are like that. I also can't be with someone who is not good-looking, I look for a long-term thing which obviously includes marriage and kids, I don't want my kids to have big ears lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Personality is something that we call inner beauty which refers to the mindset and character of a person and Looks is something that we call outer beauty which simply refers to the physical appearance of a person. In my opinion, looks can never be a factor based on which an individual should be judged.

Twalli · Answer

If you aren't attractive I won't ever want to date you. If I don't like your personality I won't go on more than one date with you. So it is neither. You need to be attractive to me physically to get me to date you. I need to like your personality to continue to date you. So what do I fall for, both.

Avatar74 · Answer

A bit of both to be honest, I remember many many years ago when I was young. I saw this girl across a crowded room and our eyes locked and it felt magic the attraction was there instantly she had both looks and personality.

Unfortunately things beyond both our control (her family moved away and she went with them because she had no choice at the time) meant that the relationship wouldn't last but it was great whilst it did.

Zolly99999 · Answer

When I was younger it was looks and that never worked out for me. I have since changed my ways.

A beautiful personality will make a person be beautiful in my eyes. But it also has the opposite effect too. An ugly personality will make a person ugly in my eyes

Haha456 · Answer

I can't just pick either looks or personality. I need looks too because I need to want to have sex with them. I can't have sex with someone I'm not attracted to. Sure there are exceptions but they don't make up the majority of the population

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to. But true attraction is based on personality. So I wouldn't continue to date someone I didn't admire for their personality and values. Connection is not just physical.

SunsetBeautyxxxx · Answer

Personality, because If i see someone and I think they are not my type ( don't think anyone is ugly) but we start to talk and i like their personality than I start to think they are attractive

Anonymous · Answer

Usually looks. I believe most men go for looks to begin w. Only after we’ve gotten to talk to her some does personality start to play into whether we genuinely like her or not as far as a real relationship.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Looks is what get you a date, but your personality is what gets them to decide to stay or go.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

First I see them and like them or not... then I hear them and decide if I like them or not... so both

lightbulb27 · Answer

personality but looks are important and generally starts there.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Kind of both. You notice her looks first, then lear about her personality after, so based on that you either stay or leave.

misfittoy · Answer

personality for me then it all falls into place

Darine123 · Answer

Personality, been with many guys who doesn’t look good but the longer I know them the more better they look cuz their personality

MCheetah · Answer

Personality more so, but looks will get you in the door.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

Personality. Looks fade, personality stays. 😉

Tina19 · Answer

His looks will catch my attention and personality will interest me to date the person so both matters to me

melanieeeB · Answer

Looks/attraction, personality, family oriented and how he treats me aka respectful

dtweed1996 · Answer

I’d fall for personally I mean I dated a weird Italian girl and I only fell for her because she had a funny personality her looks weren’t scandalist or anything

HaveNoName · Answer

Looks of course. Personality is just supplemantary. If its too bad, looks stop to matter. This is not true for an angelic personality having a very unattractive looks.

AviatorTom · Answer

Looks first, then personality. Gotta have both in a relationship.

Steamnir · Answer

Both, because both matters also attractiveness is subjective

AsaKyo · Answer

Personality if I actually get to have a say-so in who I choose to be with, rather than having the decision forced on me

SiberFox · Answer

My interest is piqued by looks, I pursue based on personnality and other traits

Passionfruit03 · Answer

I mostly fall for personality. Sometimes I think the guy isn’t attractive up until I get to know him then he suddenly becomes more attractive. I’ve also liked guys without knowing what they look like but I’ve liked their personality.

Vegasrunner · Answer

That's A loaded question. Everyone will say "personality" because it falls in line with this good person nonsense.

Andridaca · Answer

Personality because I'd rather an ugly sweet heart then a hot asshole.

ShyNaughtyGuy · Answer

are you asking that what we prefer between personality and look?

BJP21 · Answer

Personality... it sets the tone in approachability.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I get infatuated with looks, but fall in love with personality.

ZenJen444 · Answer

All the above intellect, income, looks, personality

JohnK123 · Answer

Big curves cute face hahahahahaha and a kind and sweet person

Gooddaze · Answer

A combination of both. Looks are not everything

BLP11520 · Answer

Personality overrides looks but decent looks make a catch

Anonymous · Answer

Personality. A personality that is about 5'4" a 100lbs. That's an ideal personality.

Wolfe0219 · Answer

Looks are great but I fall almost exclusively for red flags

EmmaMary · Answer

First and foremost Personality.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

A combination of both.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Both because if it's top notch, I'll admire it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

She has to have both.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

personality cause beauty is skin deep

LovingJo · Answer

Both, or the other doesn't matter!!

Raphaëlle · Answer

Personality 100%

genericname85 · Answer

looks first, then personality.

dean53AU · Answer

Both but short girls my weakness

Nahid1707 · Answer

Both are as important

EaterPeter · Answer

Both on woman. Wish I knew.

BlurryHaze · Answer

I find that personality is what I fall for most.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I Willa never fall, only transform

msc545 · Answer

Ice cream, weed, and blow jobs.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Personality

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Agape93 · Answer

Personality

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