I asked my female friend/coworker on a date, and she said yes with a smile. Does it sound like she had already liked me?

[Anonymous]

She and I have been talking for a few months, and she's been going through some rough times. I'm a bit older (about 10 years) than her, so I give her some advice when she asks for it. But, I noticed she seemed to really put herself in my orbit. She gave me her number on my birthday. And we started getting lunch several times per week. But she is always getting me alone; when we go outside on break, she'll tell me to follow her to her car, etc. Then she made a comment on one of her friends getting married to a guy she'd known for 6 months, saying "heck, we've known each other for 7." Well, one day, I worked up the courage to ask her out on a "date date" rather than just lunch. She said; "a date date, huh? Okay. What are we going to do?" with a big smile on her face. She actually hid her face for a few seconds. 😅 So, we set up a date for Saturday.

Am I in a good position here? Does it sound like she'd already been interested in me?

[ManOnFire]

Well, it seems promising. But what I'm concerned about is how she seems to be the one who is more in control of the situation here: she catches you alone, gave you her number on your birthday, asks you to follow her to her car... A little too assertive for a woman, and while I know we may like women who are more courageous, not all of them have good intentions, and I don't tell you any of this to down your hopes or seem negative.

In my personal past experience, women who are more in control like this end up having some kind of ulterior motive, because they see how much they got a hold on you, and you just end up playing into their hand. For whatever motive they may have that you don't realize until later. Then later on they will either ghost you or start drifting away because they already started swinging over to someone else.

Go on the date with her, but use the opportunity to try to gauge the situation more and see what she's about. I could be wrong, but based on what you've detailed I get a funny feeling about her.

[MrNameless]

She might be more assertive than the average woman, but I'm not seeing any red flags here.. she likely wants to be alone witth him so she can be discreet about it. Dating at work is already tricky as it is and can be awkward as hell. I would be as discreet about it as much as possible.

[ManOnFire]

@MrNameless Maybe. But in my past experiences I've met girls who did all those things he mentioned and they ended up not being so good. Not saying that my experience is his situation, but after having it it taught me to better recognize things, so it SEEMS fishy to me.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. But for some reason I thinking there’s a couple red flags flashing before my eyes. One, she’s going through some things so is she really into you because she likes you or someone to help out, maybe financially. Especially if she has children already, a lot of women w children are more looking for someone to help out financially as well as taking care of other things that their partner uses to do. Plus the fact that she mentioned you two having known each other for 7 months when she talked about her friend makes me think again is she really looking for love or benefits.

[Gloree]

she liked you for long and was elated when u asked so she hid it. that was my reaction when my boyfriend asked me out. then I started acting out later but it's normal women behaviour. make sure you lead but be caring. that's why I love my boyfriend so much. he is a leader. congrats.

[Monalisa77]

My crush at work is leaving on Thursday and im pretty sure he likes me but when i finally spoke to him last night after avoiding each other for 3 weeks he came across shy, i unfortunately can't wait around for him to ask me cos ill forever be thinking what if 😭😭

[coachTanthony]

Don't sweat the small stuff. Show her a good time ask good questions... hopefully you have an activity planned? Just make sure you lead the entire way and don't worry about the future just have fun and see if there is some real chemistry and compatibility. One date at a time.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is there any doubt at all? Really?

[RavVid]

Sounds like she was interested. But was was the face hiding gesture? Both hands over her face to hide her initial reaction? When you follow her to her car do you both get in?

Hiding her face might be to cover her surprise at you asking her out till the cogs turned and clicked into YES position. Curious as to the car sitting.

It was a YES so you are in a good position and just see how it goes. Agree to not talk about work and see how readily the conversation/chemistry goes.

[Fireguy17]

does it really matter, she said yes, so Ray Charles or Stevie Wonder could connect those dots.
She probably has seen you, asked about you, watched how you interacted with others, what your work ethic is.
She also probably has a list of good names for your grandchildren.
Just kidding, at least you hope not.
Just be yourself, she will see through it if you don't and have a good time and quit worrying about the trivial stuff.
She said yes, that is all that is important.

[User3191989]

Sounds like she's just upset because her friends are getting "married" before her, and that she really doesn't like YOU, she's just competing with her friend. Not a good idea. Also, not a good idea to date a coworker, at all. And in many places, it's illegal

[PetiteBabe64]

Yeah But Do your best To not offend her after all she’s a Co worker and Things could get bad for you Real Quick but sometimes you gotta take a chance but with everything there’s a consequence Just be your best self on the date.

[PetiteBabe64]

I mean this is your life on the line seems pretty self destructive if you ask me. but There plenty of things I do that could be considered self destructive but you just gotta Choose What you want and think long and hard about Something. The past is a good Place to start go back in time and look at Your life and What caused what and what fuckups you did that were repeated. Past is the best predictor Of future Behavior so go back in time.

[Haha456]

you would have to be nuts to ask a coworker on a date. if anything goes wrong, your job environment won't be pleasant and one of you would have to end up leaving

[DiegoO]

Exactly.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah... But you also just have to take a chance sometimes and date. Because you want to find someone to marry some day and if you like someone and rule them out. You could be ruling out the one

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

Most relationships do not walk to marriage. And once it does not, get ready to find your job a dreadful awkward place to work. Now you just gave up a perfectly good job.

Its worse especially in certain fields since its not easy to just simply get another job. Some jobs require more than one interview along with immense competition

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I understand why many people don't date at work. I am just saying if someone likes someone a lot a lot a lot that...

But I see what you are saying

[Summeroflove]

I would have to really like someone to date a coworker. I would not just do it just to do it. But there are some jobs where everyone is sleeping with everyone. It's gross

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

In this case, i dont think he likes her a lot. I think he's just asking her out cuz he knows she is interested in him.

It is better to talk to your workplace crush get to know them for years. If you been seeing them daily for years, you will know if they are the one worth marrying. Dating a coworker everytime you crush on someone at work is very risky. Especially if you dont live with your parents that pay your rent. There is a reason why people at work try to develop good relationships and rapport with their coworkers. These are people you need to work with and see on a daily basis in order to survive

[Haha456]

Working with an ex makes it very likely to become a toxic work environment.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I see where you are coming from. But more often then not if you talk to someone for years they will find someone else. Which I guess... If they do or you do. Then it isn't mean to be.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I understand that. It really depends on the terms they leave on. If there was cheating... Yeah not going to be so great. If someone splits just because they don't see eye to eye on some things (i. e politics, religion, dating standards and what they want out of a relationship and plans for the future) but leave on good terms. Might not be as bad,

But yeah if there is a nasty break up... Yikes

[Summeroflove]

But I also see what you mean if there is a person who you have talked to for years and you really know one another

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

80% of the time , it doesn't end well. Imagine if you are in love with someone, you dont want to break up with them. They broke up with you and they want nothing to do with you. Dont you think there is going to be friction if you have to continue seeing them daily?

Dont you think you would try to persuade them to get back together with you?

As you can see, its problematic

[Summeroflove]

There could be but more often then not I loose interest if someone does not reciprocate feelings. But I do see what you're saying.

No I would not. I would keep it friendly and professional and if she wanted to have a problem then that is on her.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

But thats only you. There are a lot of people out there who would keep trying to persuade their exes to get back together. Why do you think many couples break up via phone rather than in person? Because there is a lot of drama to it. Its easier to avoid the drama by breaking up via phone.

Imagine after breaking up via phone then having to see them daily again. Now life is not that easy right?

[Summeroflove]

You aren't wrong about this and it could happen the other way around if I ended things and someone was trying to persuade me to get back together that would likely bother me even if I have directly said no.

Though as I said I would have to really like someone before I would do this. If someone was that annoying I would just let HR know about it and they would promptly take care of the situation if it came to that. But hopefully I never find myself in that spot

[Summeroflove]

I don't know what would happen. It is hypothetical it really depends on the situation. Sometimes you have to interact with people you don't want to. It is a part of life.

Now, with that being said. I know there are some work places where everyone just sleeps with each other and creats a cluster fuck... Those are bad places to work

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

fuck clusters are safer than dating then breaking up. There is no drama in fucking due to its very low emotional investment. However dating is an entire different story.

what you don't realize is that HR does not care about your best interest but it only cares about the best interest of the company. Even if you report it to HR, they are going to see you as an inconvenience. Keep reporting to HR and they will see you as a liability or a problem. HR is not your best friend who you can go to anytime you need help. Other than that, your angry ex can set you up for failure at the company. You've literally turned your job into a playground.

At the end of the day, the best way to set yourself up for success at work, is to not date at work.

There is an old saying "Don't shit where you eat".

[Summeroflove]

I would MUCH rather have a meaningful relationship with someone then be in a fuck cluster. When I said a cluster fuck I meant it was a absolute mess. Sex does create emotional connections as well as can make things SUPER awkward. Which is why you don't have causal sex with say... A roommate. Though... some do.

Many times if someone is harassing you at work most of the time HR will do at least SOMETHING about it.

I think that sleeping around is a million times more degenerate then just dating someone that does not even have to say you are having sex with them. I think I will stay away form fuck clusters. I don't want a STD and a bunch of "baby mamas" and shit like that. No thank you. Now that is one thing I will gladly stay away from even if everyone else is doing it.

Plus those workplaces have a high number of sexual harassment since people don't know who to leave alone or have sex with someone drunk and then come into work and keep at it.

[Summeroflove]

I would rather have someone I broke up with that I am working with. Then be fucking everyone and everyone fucking each other that shit is disgusting

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

still doesn't make dating at work a good thing.

At some point in life, its not easy to find a new job especially if it is a professional job that pays decently. These jobs are hard to get.

But if you're 18-20 yr old kid still living with parents who still pays your rent, you can afford to fuck around at work because if you lose your job, you will still have a home to live in and dinner to eat.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah but "fuck clusters" are worse then that. I am not disagreeing with you. But I also feel people should do what they want to do. If there is harassment then it needs to be taken up with HR. MOST of the time places do take harassment seriously and the lability will fall on the person doing the harassing. Otherwise if they fire you... That is where you can sue for retaliation and if they don't do anything that is where you can sue.

But again I don't think it would get to that point.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

and you know what? if your ex holds a significantly higher position than you and is more valuable to the company. You will be the one who will be transferred or be forced to leave. Don't think the company will keep you while they fire her. The company wants to keep the most valuable employees vital to their operations. They don't care about how you feel at work.

[Summeroflove]

What do you think I am some kind of degenerate? Fucking around at work has a LOT more risk then dating a single person.

Number one you get jealousy you have people getting jealous. You have emotional attachments. You can get a STD. Look I thought you were a good upstanding person with morals? I guess I was wrong.

Plus you risk getting sexual harassment because you might be fucking around with everyone. But then you start perving around the wrong person. The reason why there are perverts at work is because... Well they get away with it people don't say anything or even agree to it

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

you can sue. but the company has the right to put their best interests as a priority. Dont think that in very case where you sue, you will win. Its not that easy.

[Summeroflove]

I understand having a relationship at work can be a bad thing. But fucking around is MUCH MUCH MUCH worse then that. Why would you even be defensive over that? Unless you're the kind of person who does that.

[Haha456]

if your ex holds a significantly higher position than you and is more valuable to the company. You will be the one who will be transferred or be forced to leave. Don't think the company will keep you while they fire her. The company wants to keep the most valuable employees vital to their operations. They don't care about how you feel at work.

[Summeroflove]

You mean allowing someone to harass someone is in their best interests? IF someone was harassing you at work and YOU got fired over it... Oh my gosh

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that is called retaliation and if it got THAT serious I would have enough evidence to back it up. But again hopefully that does not happen

[Summeroflove]

There are a lot of times though when someone claims there is harassment. But really they are either blowing something out of proportion or started something and now... They want to play the victim

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

you can sue but legally companies also have the right to keep their best interests in mind. If your ex rakes in millions of dollars for the company, the company isn't gonna let this person go. Even if you sue, paying the settlement would be less costly than letting such a vital employee leave.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

In other words, the company would be better off letting you sue them and pay you the settlement sum than to let such a "profit making" person leave.

[Haha456]

From my experience, I've heard many stories about subordinates leaving after running into problems with their superiors. If you get into a fight with your boss, its usually the subordinate who leaves, not the boss.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah some companies are greedy. But we are way off topic. I could see your arguments but now it makes ZERO sense that you would be totally opposed to having a meaningful relationship with someone and honestly just looking for love and trying to find someone to marry.

But then you tooth and nail defend just having sex... That creates WAY more problems and with more people then just ONE person. Plus things can get complicated with that too.

Seriously if everyone is sleeping around that creates WAY more problems then just having one person.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah it happens but many people do it by choice. We were not even arguing having a relationship with your boss we all know that can get messy. But still if it is a serious and meaningful relationship it is better then just sleeping around with everyone.

I love how we chance subjects when you get called out on something like that. I was not even trying to be nasty. But the fact that you would defend that kind of surprised me

[Summeroflove]

You also know when you just sleep with someone... Sometimes that person is led to think that the person sleeping with them wants something more or they want to make it something more.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

My point wasn't about having a relationship with your boss. The point I was trying to make was : the company does not care about you. The company only cares about their own self interest. Your boss is moer successful, capable, had more experience, knows how to do moer than you. This is why everytime a subordinate gets into a fight with their own boss, it is the subordinate that leaves. The company has much more to gain from keeping your boss than keeping you. You are easy to replace, your boss isn't easy to repelace.

Another example of a real life story is :
a doctor gave the wrong prescription for a drug to a baby. He ordered too high of a dose for an infant baby. It was his mistake. The nurse read the prescription. She gave the dose to the baby. The baby died as a result of the overdose. What ended up happening? the nurse got fired. Nothing happened to the doctor. why? the hospital said the nurse should've recognized that the dosage was too high for an infant baby.

why didn't the hospital fire the doctor? because the doctors help rake in money for the hospital. Nurses do not. Nurses are just an expense.

this is a real life story. Its not made up.

[Summeroflove]

You are not wrong about greedy companies but we are getting off on a tangent. More often then not if there is harassment people in lower level HR do care for people more then upper management and executives. It also depends on the company some are better then others.

I would rather date a coworker or even date a boss or subordinate as risky as that might be if it is a meaningful relationship then sleep around with everyone. That causes 100 times more problems. When everyone is sleeping with everyone then just two people dating who really like each other.

I do understand some people refuse to date at work and they don't have to. There is nothing wrong with having that boundary. But at the same time a lot of people would make a exception if they absolutely were head over heels over someone.

But I won't keep going on with that. Hospitals are another story but this is not the case of dating.

You know as well as I do that sleeping around with everyone and everyone sleeping with everyone creates more problems then just one relationship.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

hospitals are not another story. hospitals are just like greedy corporations. they're no different.

Its easy to say you're willing to date a coworker when you're 26 and your parents are still alive and well and willing to pay your rent if you lose your job. But imagine doing this at the age of 40, where your parents are retired, its difficult to find another job due to your age, it's hard to obtain jobs of your senior ranking which are typically very competitive to obtain.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah trust me. I know this. I am not really 26 I just put that on here I don't want to disclose my real age but. I understand the problems. I would not just sleep around at work. I already also said I would not just date someone at work for the sake of doing it.

But if I liked someone and they liked me back and agreed to it. Yeah... I would do it. People need companionship and sometimes you don't really meet people other places and I like to know someone before I jump into a relationship with them. Even with just dating. I refuse to do online dating. I also refuse to meet strangers who I don't know.

[Summeroflove]

But that is my standards. Other people are different and I don't have a problem with that. But it seems that you try to kind of push yours onto everyone. But then you defend sleeping around when that causes WAY more problems

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

different people have different brains. some are smart , some are dumb. You're just dumb enough to shit where you eat.

There are tons of places where you can find love but few would want to find love at work.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

Crushes happen at my job too. I can see it in people's eyes. But nobody ever acts on it because at the end of the day, its not worth it to them.

[Summeroflove]

You're dumb enough to defend sleeping around but not a relationship. That is worse but see you won't touch that topic again since you know I am right.

If it is just a little crush... Might not act on it. But again I would rather know someone then just be dating a total stranger I know nothing about.

[Summeroflove]

Eating where you shit is also sleeping around with people with no emotional connection. Hey if you're a degenerate then go ahead and hoe around and cause all kinds of problems in your life and wonder why your life SUCKS so much.

I have seen messy situations with ONE person dating another. But places where people are sleeping around are some of the worst places you could ever work and people are getting fired over it sexual harassment claims jealousy people who... As you said don't want anything to do with one another or one pursuing them and them and the other is running away.

I am not a degenerate like you are so... Have fun being a whore and calling me the idiot. At least I am looking for something halfway meaningful unlike... Some people.

Like I say you won't touch the topic since you know I am right.

[Summeroflove]

That is how I know I hit something. Either someone gets really defensive. Or they just pretend like I never said anything about it and try to distract me with other issues. It is called double think.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

sleeping around is may be whorish but you can't argue with the fact that it is less destructive to a job environment compared to dating at work.

if you're dumb enough to put your livelihood at risk just for a romantic relationship, don't call other people dumb for sleeping at work. because at the end of the day , those whores will still have their jobs while you will be unemployed.

[Summeroflove]

You should also know that people who are friends with benefits, fuck buddies, booty calls, etc... Sometimes also have really nasty split ups even if they were never in anything exclusive. For one reason or another they end up hating one anotehr or one hates one and one loves the other...

Not to even mention people who start getting jealous of stuff. But see... You dont' have logic if you defend that but hate on people in work relationships. Some people are mature enough to be able to deal with it... Other people such as yourself... I assume not

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

fuck buddies are not exclusive or emotionally committed relationships. its unlikely for a bitter end to happen in these types of friends with benefits.

its quite funny how you encourage dating at work YET, you remark about how bad it is to have a bitter ending to a friends with benefits.

There is a significantly higher chance of a bad ending happening with your date at work than a friends with benefits at work.

[Summeroflove]

It is WAY more destructive. Not only do you have something with one person. Now the whole damn workplace. You have slept with everyone. Making it awkward. Sitations where bosses and subordinates are sleeping with one another. Prostituting themselves for promotions and raises and stuff like that...

Stuff can get pretty nasty pretty fast. When people are just sleeping around.

Many people loose their jobs over sleeping around or making outright sexual moves on the wrong person and getting sexual harassment. Believe me...

A single relationship even if it is someone who you don't even interact with often on a day to day basis... Much less destructive then having slept with everyone in the office and then some...

Plus you have cheating going on where people are in relationships and sleeping with someone else. Many times purly sexual relationships turn into something bigger... Even if it is one sided

[Summeroflove]

I find it funny how a meaningful relationship is bad but then defend sleeping around with everyone. Which does cause more problems. Yes it does happen when there is a bitter end between fuck buddies and friends with benefits. The whole thing of doing that is retarded anyways.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

there's nothing awkward about sleeping with each other if both parties wanted it. The more people you sleep with at your job, the less awkward it is. You might feel its awkward because you just hold a different perspective on sleeping around. Other people may not feel the same way.

If I slept with a coworker while knowing that we both wanted it, I wouldn't feel awkward. In fact, if the sex was good, we might even be more excited for each other.

[Summeroflove]

I mean at least I have some sort of standards that I don't even have sex right away. Personally I want to wait until marriage to do that kind of stuff with someone. But damn at least wait for a while.

People who do that kind of stuff are miserable people and creating emotional attachments to people and jealousy and all kinds of stuff and people who are more whorish are more likely to cheat

[Haha456]

[Plus you have cheating going on where people are in relationships and sleeping with someone else. Many times purly sexual relationships turn into something bigger... Even if it is one sided]

so if you have a problem with things turning into something bigger, then why would you still encourage dating at work?

what makes you think that love can't be one sided if you broke up with your girlfriend YET you still have to see her on a daily basis?

[Summeroflove]

Your logic is very circular. Again... You are the one defending being a whore. Not me. When you sleep with too many people. Sex number one is supposed to be something special. You're right it becomes less special when you just are having sex with people meaninglessly.

As well as when bosses and subordinates are sleeping with one another... Oh that oepns a whole other can of worms. When there is sexual harassment. When people are jealous the list goes on and on.

But see... here you go defending yourself for just sleeping with a coworker. LMAO. I knew you were like that and you're ready for the next time. You are something else you know that?

You even said yourself it was whorish and now you are admitting that you do this sort of thing. What does that make you? A whorish person?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

Vast majority of the times, fwbs are not committed exclusive relationships. So when your friends with benefits decides to stop sleeping with you any more , the other party will not be vengeful, angry , bitter or frustrated. But if you don't want to date someone any more after a year of passion, there can be A LOT of bitterness and high potential for toxicity.

[Summeroflove]

I don't have a problem with something turning into something bigger. YOU do... Which was the point I was trying to make if you have reading comprehension. Don't take my words out of context. You know that you are the one saying that not me...

love can be one sided. Personally if you have more then a goldfish memory you will remember me saying that most people are matured enough to handle it as well as personally I loose interest if someone does not feel the same about me and if someone did that to me I would report it to HR which was how the whole HR and lawsuits tangent got started.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Your logic is very circular. Again... You are the one defending being a whore. Not me. When you sleep with too many people. Sex number one is supposed to be something special. You're right it becomes less special when you just are having sex with people meaninglessly.]

persecuting whores was not the topic right here. the topic of discussion was :

which is more likely to cause a toxic workplace? sleeping around or dating?

don't go off topic

[Summeroflove]

Sex might not mean anything to some people. But I find that behavior disgusting and repulsive. But you have no admitted that sometimes feelings can be one sided. What if this guy or you ends up getting deeper feelings for one another? Then what happens?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

Nobody cares if you find sleeping around to be disgusting. Because reality is, most people don't find it disgusting.

[But you have no admitted that sometimes feelings can be one sided. What if this guy or you ends up getting deeper feelings for one another? Then what happens?]

thats not a problem because you just said that dating should be ok for work.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah... You're right. The original topic I kind of agreed with you until you defended just sleeping around. If you aren't a whore then you would not feel persecuted.

Dating one person might create tension with ONE person or two people counting both people. Sleeping with everyone creates all kinds of issues with a BUCH of other people. Which I am sure you would know that as someone who does this.

When you get a STD and get preggers and don't know who the daddy is. Don't go crying

[Summeroflove]

It would be a problem for you though... I also said that I don't sleep with someone unless I am in a deep committed relationship with them.

YOU ARE THE ONE WHO SAID THAT IT WOULD BE A PROBLEM AND I AM POINTING OUT THAT THAT CAN HAPPEN WITH A friends with benefits.

You have a low IQ don't you?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

because reality is, the 10th person you are sleeping with won't care if you also fucked the 9 other people. thats just the reality. you're acting like everyone would be so jealous and vengeful and bitter. no they wouldn't.

but if you dated a coworker who you caught flirting with another employee, you would be bitter and angry and vengeful right?

fwbs have no emotions at stake. your romantic relationship does

[Summeroflove]

Sex means nothing to you. You just sleep around and it does create problems also... YOU ARE SLEEPUNG WIHT 10 PEOPLE? You just tell me everything. You have to have a limit on what you will tell someone and truthfully you are only making yourself look worse.

You said that friends with benefits could turn into something more when you were rebutting what I said. What if he got deeper feelings for him or you did? Never said that would be a problem with me (although I would not have a friends with benefits) but it would be a problem with you.

I think it is so disgusting to sleep with a bunch of people though and yea... It does create problems. You just don't want to see it.

I bet you also have 10 types of STI's

[Summeroflove]

If I was having that much sex with people I would need a prosthetic penis. Good gosh... See this is why I want a meaningful relationship. I don't have time for low IQ dumb whores like yourself. Who don't even have the reading comprehension of a 8th grader and you try and trip me up and take what I said out of context.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

The fact that it is disgusting to you that people sleep around DOES NOT MEAN that it will cause more problems in the workplace.

fwbs are very non committal and its potential to cause toxicity is very low.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[If I was having that much sex with people I would need a prosthetic penis. Good gosh... See this is why I want a meaningful relationship. I don't have time for low IQ dumb whores like yourself. Who don't even have the reading comprehension of a 8th grader and you try and trip me up and take what I said out of context.]

you're the one with low IQ if you think that sleeping around will cause more problems in the workplace than getting into a relationship with a coworker at the workplace.

[Summeroflove]

Thanks for admitting it is disgusting but yeah it causes problems. When you just sleep around it does cause all KINDS of problems. Not even just with work. You also have STDs, STIs, pregnancies', and the list goes on and on. Some people do catch stronger feelings... But anyways

I don't know of your logic is more frustrating or hilarious. Every time that you copy and paste my words and try to rebut it. IT makes you look worse. So just stop.

Having sex with people can make it very awkward to be around. Even if not for you for others

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

just because someone has an STI or pregnancy, it does not mean they will lose their job. You can have 10 STDs and you can still have your job.

do i really need to explain this to you?

[Summeroflove]

No I just find that pretty disgusting. Plus sometimes people get into trouble for using their position of power over someone and sometimes there are policies against certian things and those get violated and people loose their jobs.

There is something in law enforcement that they tell new officers that the most common ways you get into trouble is violating someone's rights, can't think of the other one off the top of my head, and having sex...

I am saying that it is disgusting. You think it is disgusting. Then why would you do it? Why would someone want 10 STD's and a pregnancy out of wedlock?

[Summeroflove]

Plus if you are willfully spreading a STD then you can get into legal trouble.

[Summeroflove]

You just are not the sharpest tool in the shed. You know that having a child or permeant STD is... Kind of a life long thing. You do know this right?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

No company is gonna fire you just cuz you got a STD. Companies only care about your work quality and how much you can contribute to the company. The company even has maternity and paternity leave for parents who recently had children.

condoms are also available. you're just making a big deal out of nothing

[Summeroflove]

Never said they would. Condoms can fail. It again is a life long thing. You won't even rebut the issue if people are in superior and subordinate even if it is just sex and positions of power and policies against relationships in the work place.

If the company I worked for had a strict policy... I would not do it. Unless I was willing to take another job. But... Many people who just sleep around violate the policy and many times that will get them fired.

[Summeroflove]

You said that it is DISGUSTING and WHORISH. I know you feel disgusted with yourself. But you refuse to stop doing it. So I can't help someone like you who does not have any morals or standards for themselves other then just feel bad for you.

[Summeroflove]

You know that condoms are not 100 percent effective. Sex is nothing special to you. That is sad.

[Summeroflove]

"oh we will just sleep with each other nobody will find out" one of them tells someone what they did... Roomers go around or people catch onto it after they keep doing it. Pretty soon they violated policy and now management knows about it

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

there doesn't tend to be a policy on sleeping around. but there is a policy on dating within certain companies. Because they are aware dating can cause a lot more trouble than sleeping around.

and why would you be so obsessed with the problems sleeping around in the workplace if you think its perfectly ok to cause issues dating in the work place?

condoms are 99% effective if used properly.

[Summeroflove]

If you are going to defend sleeping with every Tom, Dick, and Harry that you work with. I just don't know what to tell you. You might be some dumb but you aren't plumb dumb you know that there is negative implications when you sleep around with people.

I am simply pointing out the fact of how you don't like a meaningful relationship that COULD turn into getting married, having a family, etc. But then defend this kind of in your own words disgusting and whorish behavior.

But many people who have no morals and standards many times also don't care that much about protection either. This is why people like you I assume support things like abortion and men think they can have babies with women and run off. You want to be a whore but don't want to the consequences of being one. So you take the easy way out.

I take issue with the fact that you condone this behavior

[Summeroflove]

Honestly I would rather have something meaningful. I don't do causal sex. Even with a condom. I think it is disgusting and degenerative and sex is something special to me. So is romance and sexual relations. It is not something I am willing to share with just anyone

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

its not the fact that I don't like meaningful relationships. Its just the fact that I know I don't want to get into a relationship at work because I don't want to lose my livelihood over some stupid romance that has a immensely high chance of never lasting. You can find love in many places, it does not have to be at work.

[Summeroflove]

But see I have standards, morals, values, ethics, etc. You're going to find out the hard way at one point in your life when you look back and regret the things you have done. When you are a single mother. Can't hold down a relationship. Cheat... Etc.

I know how you people are trust me

[Summeroflove]

You say that it would be NUTS to ask a coworker on a date... Then what is hooking up?

[Summeroflove]

But you are fine with just sleeping with every Tom, Dick, and Harry? Even though you know as well as I do. I don't know your companies polices. But I know that can cause a LOT of problems.

Look... You can't hold down a relationship that is your own problem. Probably because of this behavior. That at first you call whorish and disgusting and go right back to defending it.

[Summeroflove]

Hell... A date is just a date anyways. I can make the same argument that could be nothing exclusive. If I date 9 people what is the 10th one going to care? or the 11th for that matter?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

I actually do plan on becoming a single mother if I end up still being single by the time I'm 35. Having children is a privilege and a blessing. I'm not gonna let the fact that I haven't found the right man to destroy the joy of having a family. Many people pity single mothers but trust me, being a mother will be the best thing that will ever happen to me.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

most people sleep around nowadays. we date each other with no problem. I might not sleep with a million people at work. But I have done fwbs with a few people.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Hell... A date is just a date anyways. I can make the same argument that could be nothing exclusive. If I date 9 people what is the 10th one going to care? or the 11th for that matter?]

because if you're dating a coworker who is cheating on you with 9 other people, you would be bitter and vengeful. A friends with benefits won't really care if you're sleeping with 9 other people. This is the difference that you're not willing to acknowledge. Its the truth. Not worth arguing about it. FWBs are non committal.

[Summeroflove]

You have not found the right man. Because men with morals and standards don't just sleep around. Neither do the right women... They don't do that and don't want someone who does that. They want something meaningful... So yeah... I see why decent men don't want you... They know you will likley cheat on them and the relationship would be more about sex.

I would much rather share that side of me my romantic side with someone who I know like maybe a friend, a coworker, or someone like that that I have known and really like then someone I don't or barely even know. Never say never... But. Relationships where you know each other and you save sex for later on tend to last longer.

Sure you are not compatible with everyone and if I did not think something was meant to be with a coworker or could see there would be a lot of fights and disagreements over particular things or that she slept around a lot... I would call it off on good terms.

[Summeroflove]

If you want the right man then you need to get some morals and standards... Since they are going to loose interest if not run when they find that stuff out...

But go ahead. Don't use protection be a single mother. Do what you want to do. Have a bunch of baby daddies who won't pay child support or try to threaten you into getting a abortion.

[Summeroflove]

So... even if someone was in a relationship outside of work. You would say that you would cheat on them or someone would be cheating or that other people in the work place would try to cheat with your SO? Hmmmmmm... Seems like there could be problems there too

[Summeroflove]

But you see... I don't date those kinds of people and I am not that kind of person. So... That is that

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

I have actually had many men fall in love with me over the years. Many of these guys very decent , good men who are marriage material, good husbands. But I was never able to return their feelings. The guys that I could fall in love with were all either : married, didn't like me back and had issues or were simply too old for me.

I have lost all faith that I will ever find love. But my desire of having children won't ever die.

[Summeroflove]

But... You never held down a relationship with one otherwise you would not be seeing 10 (or more) people. Right?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[But go ahead. Don't use protection be a single mother. Do what you want to do. Have a bunch of baby daddies who won't pay child support or try to threaten you into getting a abortion.]

most people actually do use protection which is why so many people sleep around but never get pregnant.

[So... even if someone was in a relationship outside of work. You would say that you would cheat on them or someone would be cheating or that other people in the work place would try to cheat with your SO? Hmmmmmm... Seems like there could be problems there too]

you're the one losing your job dating at work, the whores will keep their jobs. It is what it is.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah... Good men like that loose interest when they see that you act this way. This is the very reason some men turn into incels. Every time they find even a halfway decent woman when she knows how he is she runs away... If he is just wanting sex, has a problem with women, is abusive, etc. The list goes on.

Then the only women who are left are women who are the way that he is... so he just hates women. This is mostly the case with women who hate men as well.

[Summeroflove]

I TOLD you that protection can fail and you started arguing with that. Don't even go there. You just got done telling me how effective condoms are.

[Summeroflove]

People loose their jobs all the time in work environments that are like this... We have been over this.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

99% of the time condoms do work if used properly. Its research that says that.

Most of the guys who fell in love with me are very good men who would make great husbands.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[People loose their jobs all the time in work environments that are like this... We have been over this.]

No, its only you who would lose your job. Those whores will still be getting their paycheck. IF you shit where you eat, you will be eating shit sooner or later. People don't like to turn their workplaces into playgrounds.

[Summeroflove]

Then why are you bringing up the argument that protection fails? Maybe you should not be having sex then if someone does not want a kid. And you rebutted that saying how effective they are. Then said how they fail

[Summeroflove]

Again... They would make good husbands for someone else. They aren't with you anymore are they? No they aren't. They deserve better

[Summeroflove]

I have given you plenty of examples that you seem to just skim over and then just repeat yourself like a broken record like I never even said that. You pick apart things that are convenient for you and levae the rest.

Shitting where you eat is turning your workplace into a playground sleeping with everyone.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

Research shows that there is only 1% a condom would fail. Thats not a high chance that things can go wrong.

And plus, I had more men fall in love with me than any woman would fall in love with you in your lifetime. I have no doubts about my confidence in attracting a man.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Shitting where you eat is turning your workplace into a playground sleeping with everyone.]

because this is not true. you're just saying this because you're biased.

[Summeroflove]

So then just don't have sex... Unless you are married problem solved. That was the whole point of what I was trying to tell you earlier. But I like how you just flip sides to whatever fits your argument.

[Summeroflove]

How am I biased? I like having standards. Look, again as I said many times I have said I understand why some people don't date at work. But to call people nuts and dumb and all this otehr stuff when you're doing much worse.

I love it. You make whatever argument is convenient. I say protection can fail... You argue with how good condoms are... Then later on I make another comment and you tell me the same thing it can fail.

Exactly!!! So if someone is sleeping around. Especially if they are doing it time after time after time the chances of something failing are much higher. Disgusting. I know you feel disgusting. Or at least you did at first.

You are just desensitized at this point. Anything becomes normal after a while...

[Summeroflove]

How do you always take the bait of proving my points? You also when you get called out on one issue you just jump to another... Then when you called on that you resort back to another

[Summeroflove]

Like how YOU get angry if someone judges you by the life you live. But you judge other people by the stuff they do which really isn't your business or your place to talk

[Summeroflove]

It is like... You out of nowhere disclosed all this stuff to me like you think it will make you look better LMAO. Like another person last night who just started telling me about all the dicks she has sucked. Totally irrelevant the topic at hand had nothing to do with sex.

But that is all you care about. Like how you tell me about all these men... But you ain't with any of them. Why is that? Because they don't want you once they find more about you they loose interest or you push them away.

Again... I don't know what you are trying to prove... But you have proved most of my points. Even if you called me on one thing maybe... You have said way too much and made yourself look worse.

You have already embarrassed yourself enough

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

firstly you don't realize how dumb , ignorant and biased you sound.

1. Just because someone has done friends with benefits two or three times in their lives, it does not mean they also enjoy sleeping around with a hundred people over their lifetimes. Often times when people are single , they have needs such as sexual urges or need for affection. But it does not necessarily mean they are willing to open their legs to absolutely anyone who walks by them.

2. Just because someone has causal sex, it does not mean they make bad husbands / wives. The nicest person I've ever met does friends with benefits. Just because a man does not sleep around, it does not make him a good lover. Being a good lover means you're attentive to your partner's needs, being willing to sacrifice yourself for your lover, being dedicated to your relationship. Having casual sex does not represent the inability to do these things.

3. Most people sleep around nowadays. We date each other without problems. So don't go around saying that nobody is willing to date those who have causal sex. Over my many years of dating, I've went on dates with about 30 guys. Only 2 of them had a problem with sleeping around.

4. Sleeping around at work does not cause the same problems nearly as much as dating at work due to the fact that sleeping at work requires significantly lower emotional investment compared to dating at work. You can argue with this all you want but it remains the truth. FWBs don't tend to get jealous. But boyfriends surely get jealous.

5. Condoms work 99% of the time with a 1% failure rate. So it means condoms are perfectly effective if used properly. Quit overblowing that 1% failure rate into a 50% failure rate. Not even close.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[But that is all you care about. Like how you tell me about all these men... But you ain't with any of them. Why is that? Because they don't want you once they find more about you they loose interest or you push them away]

do you know me personally? no you don't. so quit making random assumptions. we are complete strangers but you're acting as if you've known me your entire life. its time to stop, reason, and think instead of making random ignorant assumptions.

[Summeroflove]

I still think it is pretty gross to just sleep with people with no emotions. Sex is not just meaningless. But these men that you claim to love so much and who love you... Where are they? If you wanted them so bad and they wanted you you could put this whole sleeping around thing behind you and settle down... But no... You don't

YOU are the one who said 1 percent is a high failure rate as well as claimed that the reason for many single mothers is because protection fails. If you have sex 100 times then one time you're going to get preggers. YOU keep flip flopping on that issue NOT me.

You defend sleeping around and don't think that well having something real is good at all. But whatever. Many people seem like good people but if they are just using you for sex then that is all they are doing. That is all you are doing.

YES IT DOES AND I HAVE GAVE MANY EXAMPLES OF THIS AND YOU OVERLOOK THEM AND DO NOT EVEN TRY TO REBUT IT.

[Summeroflove]

Then... Why do you say SO MANY single mothers are single mothers since protection failed? How would this happen you would think this would be a rare thing

[Summeroflove]

I seem to hit the nail on the head many times. Since if I was so wrong you would not be so angry... Since it would not matter what I think.

You even said that sex has no emotional meaning to you or anything at all. You defend everyone at work sleeping with one another which you can look back at examples I gave that you seem to think never happens

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[YOU are the one who said 1 percent is a high failure rate as well as claimed that the reason for many single mothers is because protection fails. If you have sex 100 times then one time you're going to get preggers. YOU keep flip flopping on that issue NOT me.]

I never said anything about "so many single moms nowadays because protection fails".

Because reality is, if there is a 1% failure rate, there should be no single moms. 99% effectiveness rate is a very very high chance there will be no baby.

Single moms are typically made up of women who dated or married the wrong or bad men. Its not due to sleeping around.

[I still think it is pretty gross to just sleep with people with no emotions. Sex is not just meaningless. But these men that you claim to love so much and who love you... Where are they? If you wanted them so bad and they wanted you you could put this whole sleeping around thing behind you and settle down... But no... You don']

it doesn't matter how you feel. because at the end of the day, there are people perfectly happy with their lives sleeping around. why do you care so much about how other people run their lives? they're happy.

[You defend sleeping around and don't think that well having something real is good at all. But whatever. Many people seem like good people but if they are just using you for sex then that is all they are doing. That is all you are doing.]

if you're using other people for sex while they are using you for sex, you are both happy then what is so bad about it? you need sex, they need sex, then let them enjoy each other. why are you trying to ruin each other's happiness? you're soo close minded that you can't accept the fact that there are people out there who are HAPPY doing this type of stuff. Let people live their own lives and quit trying to shit on others. IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW YOU FEEL. IT MATTERS HOW THEY FEEL.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[I seem to hit the nail on the head many times. Since if I was so wrong you would not be so angry... Since it would not matter what I think.]

You're the one who is screaming in all caps at me. how am I the one who is angry? you're the one who is illogical , crazy ranting on here. Not me.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah... Those are all good points I made. What are you rebutting? You said that many women are single mothers are since protection fails and now you are going back on that. So were you wrong?

Yeah... Sure there is many women who are single mothers since they married the wrong person. Kind of like those men may have liked you at first but there is something they ran off form...

[Summeroflove]

You are the one telling people how to live their lives calling people names for having a relationship. You can dish it but you can't take it idiot.

I see why your name is HAHA since people must laugh at you a LOT

[Summeroflove]

People use one another for sex since it is the only time that they feel good anymore. It is a addiction that needs fed.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Yeah... Those are all good points I made. What are you rebutting? You said that many women are single mothers are since protection fails and now you are going back on that. So were you wrong?]

I've never said single moms were the result of condoms not working.

because reality is, if research shows that condoms are 99% effective, it means there should be no single moms.

condoms are effective. data shows it. doesn't matter how much you like to argue that condoms do not work. THEY WORK and the numbers proves it.

[Summeroflove]

None of what you copied is in all caps. I use caps sometimes to get a point across. The best thing that you can do is copy and paste things and try to take it out of context. But then you don't even rebut anything.

You keep flip flopping and seemingly pointing out what is convenient to try and pick apart. I pretty much have rebutted almost everything you said.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

why are you trying to ruin other people's happiness? why do you think you have the right to control what everyone does on this earth? do you see me trying to control what you do in your own life? do you see me forbidding you to date at work? do you realize how much of an asshole you sound like right now?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[None of what you copied is in all caps. I use caps sometimes to get a point across. The best thing that you can do is copy and paste things and try to take it out of context. But then you don't even rebut anything.]

you wrote in caps to me first. Thats why I returned writing in caps to you. if you're gonna scream at me, I'm gonna scream at you right back.

[Summeroflove]

You are the one who said that that 1 percent is. Here let me use your own tactics. But you keep repeating yourself like a broken record. You keep saying things we have been over a million times. In the over 170 replies between the two of us

[Summeroflove]

120 never mind

[Summeroflove]

Yeah... You are the one who was originally telling people what to do. You can dish it out but you can't take it

[Summeroflove]

You have ruined your own happiness. You are the one shitting on people for what they choose to do even if it is not what you would do when you do the same stuff yourself.

I don't care if I sound like a asshole. You're a bad person. I don't like you. You said you have given up hope on men since you know unless you change no decent man will want you long term. So you're stuck living like this

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[You are the one who said that that 1 percent is. Here let me use your own tactics. But you keep repeating yourself like a broken record. You keep saying things we have been over a million times. In the over 170 replies between the two of us]

I'm repeating myself over and over again. Because you're not listening to anything I'm saying. You think that you ignoring facts will make them false. It doesn't. Facts will remain facts regardless of how much you like to ignore it.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Yeah... You are the one who was originally telling people what to do. You can dish it out but you can't take it]

I never told you how you should run your life. But you certainly have tried controlling how I should live my life. With your crazy rants about how I should not sleep around

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[You have ruined your own happiness. You are the one shitting on people for what they choose to do even if it is not what you would do when you do the same stuff yourself.]

thats quite hilarious because you're the one who is shitting on me and trying to control how I run my own life. now you're accusing me of doing that? hell no. you sound like a lunatic

[ I don't care if I sound like a asshole. You're a bad person. I don't like you. You said you have given up hope on men since you know unless you change no decent man will want you long term. So you're stuck living like this]

People who sleep around date those who sleep around. Most people do sleep around so I don't have a problem finding men.

[Summeroflove]

I have read what you said and responded to it. You are the one who does not read I would say 40-50 percent of what I say. You are repeating yourself over stuff that I have already responded to and you're a broken record and have circular logic.

[Summeroflove]

Wow you learned how to use the copy and paste feature! I know what I typed you are the one who does not have good comprehension.

You are the one who told me everything about your life... Everything you revealed more information then I ever solicited. I am trying to point out the obvious holes in your logic.

Why do you even care what I think? If you are such a good person and you know in your heart you are. Why does it bother you?

I don't control how you feel. Only you control how you feel. If you feel shitty about doing something maybe you should stop doing it.

[Summeroflove]

Why do you care then? If you are going to go do what you want to... Why bother engaging with me?

Yeah I know that you don't have a problem finding men. They are all shitty men such as yourself... You can't hold down a relationship. Why are you no longer with the men you consider husband material? Why would you say that you gave up hope?

There are plenty of man whores out there. There are plenty of woman whores. The people who are husband and wife material don't live that lifestyle

[Summeroflove]

If you really wanted to marry those men and they are so into you... Why aren't you with them?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[You are the one who told me everything about your life... Everything you revealed more information then I ever solicited. I am trying to point out the obvious holes in your logic.]

you want to talk about the holes in my logic?

sure I can easily point out some holes in yours:

1. To you, possibility of romantic attraction in an friends with benefits is a problem at the workplace but at the same time, dating at work is not a problem.

2. 99% effectiveness rate of a condom means condoms do not work.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Yeah I know that you don't have a problem finding men. They are all shitty men such as yourself... You can't hold down a relationship. Why are you no longer with the men you consider husband material? Why would you say that you gave up hope?]

I don't think making biased, random assumptions about a random stranger online that you have no clue about represents any factual info.

Continue hating all you want. Its far from the truth.

you do realize right now that this type of hate that you're spewing on here is actually BULLYING.

[Summeroflove]

You love focusing on side issues and not the issue at hand. That it is gross to sleep around. Then you want to go off on tangents about condoms and other such issuies.

Sleeping around can cause more problems such as... If a superior and subordinate are having sexual relations or there is a lot of that with someone in positions of power. Violating rules and polices and even laws on workplace relationships gets people fired ALL the time. It happens a LOT in work environments like that.

[Summeroflove]

If you felt I was bullying you would have blocked me a long time ago. Not keep engaging with me

[Summeroflove]

You are obviously biased in thinking that sleeping around is a good thing. Even after you said yourself that it is disgusting and whorish. I know you are a bad person. I have dealt with people like you in my life and am going through some stuff. You all act the exact same way.

You can do no wrong. You bully. You can call people out on all this stuff but when you do something oh there is nothing wrong with it.

[Summeroflove]

Trust me I am blown up all day in a messenger thing that I have over all this stuff people are doing. You seem to fit that type to a T. Every second of the day...

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[If you felt I was bullying you would have blocked me a long time ago. Not keep engaging with me]

I tried reasoning with you , giving logical explanations to things, offering a differing perspective. But it ended up that you had no interest in reasoning with me or trying to learn or understand things. You just wanted to hate, harrass, and to bully.

Guess what?

I don't care how much you hate. I'm not gonna change my life. I'm perfectly satisfied with my life. I don't care for what you have to say.

Call me all the names you want. It won't disturb or upset me. Because vast majority of the garbage that comes out of your mouth isn't even true. Just ignorant, biased, personal assumptions without any sort of evidence.

[Haha456]

why would I be upset and being called something I am not?

[Summeroflove]

You seem really upset... By the way you are typing.

[Summeroflove]

What are you not?

[Summeroflove]

Yeah... I am sure you are satisficed. Sleeping around... Can't hold down a relationship. Have all kinds of problems at work. Just want to be a single mom already since no decent guy wants to stay with you long term... The list goes on and on.

I can tell when someone is upset. You are defiantly upset lol.

Most of the stuff I said is responding to stuff you say... Give me a example of something that isn't true?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

I'm actually not upset. you seem more upset than me.

[Summeroflove]

You say that some things are disgusting and whorish then go back and defend it. You are the one who tells me that you are sleeping with 10 people... or 4 people whatever it is that you said.

I mean you think it is normal for a person at the very least to sleep with 10 people form one workplace...

[Haha456]

It seems as if you expected I was upset. Because after all , you written all those hateful comments with 1 purpose : to upset me.

guess what? it didn't work.

[Summeroflove]

Again... The only person who can control your happiness is you. I don't really care how you feel about me either. You seem like a bad person.

If you did not care what I thought you would not pay any attention to the stuff I say. Though... You call me a asshole and other stuff.

[Haha456]

bullies bully and attack other people because they want their victims to be upset.

you expected I should be upset because you worked so hard typing comments all through trying to upset me.

Sorry to tell you this unfortunate news but I am not upset. Not at all.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Again... The only person who can control your happiness is you. I don't really care how you feel about me either. You seem like a bad person.]

thats hilarious because you're the one who is trying to control what I do with my own life. It doesn't seem like you have a brain to think with before you speak.

[If you did not care what I thought you would not pay any attention to the stuff I say. Though... You call me a asshole and other stuff.]

because if I didn't hear what you have to say , then you wouldn't have worked so hard typing hateful comments all night trying to upset me right?

[Summeroflove]

I said that you seem upset by a lot of the things that you said... But if you don't care how I think or feel... Why do you need to convince me you're not?

[Summeroflove]

You are the one calling me a bully even though I am not blocked or anything so... You must enjoy this little back and forth. If you aren't upset then that must be what it is

[Summeroflove]

So that is the issue now? You have nothing else to argue over other then if you are upset or not. Frankly I don't care if you're upset or not. I was just pointing out the facts and the truth. I have been trying to reason with you. But you are unreasonable and you can't reason with a person who is unreasonable.

But I can laugh at you as you embarrass yourself

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[I said that you seem upset by a lot of the things that you said... But if you don't care how I think or feel... Why do you need to convince me you're not?]

you expected that I'd be upset because you worked so hard trying to make me upset.

thats why I seem "upset" to you.

[You are the one calling me a bully even though I am not blocked or anything so... You must enjoy this little back and forth. If you aren't upset then that must be what it is]

I've explained to you why I'm still talking to you. You just don't know because you never read anything I write..

[Haha456]

you know exactly what you've done on here. don't pretend you aren't aware.

You're the little good , decent Christian boy who won't have sex prior to marriage who ended up bullying other people online.

clearly abstinence is not a good indication of good character.

[Summeroflove]

Nope... I am just seeing how much you are going to repeat yourself. You have nothing else to argue on that you know that you are wrong. So you are again trying to steer this onto another topic.

[Summeroflove]

You more just frustrate me then anything... With your circular logic and reasoning. I am more getting a kick out of this then anything. I am not upset

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

I'm done repeating myself. Because I finally realized you had no intent to understand, read, or comprehend anything I'm writing. Just in the last comment, I didn't even bother repeating myself to you the second time.

[Summeroflove]

So you are going to judge everyone else based on my behavior? Pretty stereotypical and if anything it shows you are biased and prejudice

[Haha456]

you're just on here to harass me.

[Summeroflove]

But again... You are trying to get off onto another subject. This is more just entertaining to see how long this will go on... Most of the time people either stop talking or block my by this point.

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

its pretty funny how you say that you won't harass your ex who broke up with you at work. but YET, you're willing to harass someone online over something so benign and unimportant. Especially when it has nothing to do with you. definitely shows a lack of character.

[Summeroflove]

You ain't blocked me... So how do you feel harassed? You seem to enjoy this you aren't upset or anything

[Summeroflove]

Again I do not control how you feel. Only you do that

[Summeroflove]

You show lack of character. Can't hold down a relationship. Seem to just sleep with people and use them for sex... Judge people for dating. You seem to be bigoted towards Christians.

[Haha456]

and you know what the funny thing is?

people who sleep around never bother hating on anyone.

its the people who are abstinent who love hating on people who enjoy sexual freedom to enjoy casual sex.

maybe the reason why you are so bitter and angry an frustrated about how other people run their lives is due to the fact that you never get to enjoy sex.

[Haha456]

why do you care so much about how other people run their lives?

[Summeroflove]

Yeah a lot of them do. A lot of them call people with morals names and "loser virgins" and stuff like that

[Summeroflove]

You are the one telling people they are nuts for dating someone. You want to run their lives.

[Haha456]

it is the people who have sex who are at peace. you never see people who have fwbs hating on others. Its always the people who don't have casual sex who are the bitter, angry frustrated ones.

[Summeroflove]

Because I think people should have morals, values, and standards. Don't you? Evidently not

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

because sleeping around does not represent morals.

clearly you don't sleep around and you dont have morals. harrassing and bullying other people online. how can you say you are moral?

[Haha456]

you're acting as if I killed someone or robbed someone by sleeping around.

[Summeroflove]

Have fun with your 10 STD's then. It won't' cost you your job so enjoy! That is not really true. Most people who sleep around a lot seem to be judgmental. Bitter that they can't find the right person. Much like you are saying that you gave up hope on that.

If all these amazing men want you so bad. Where are they then? Please tell me. Where they are? Nowhere to be found anymore it seems

[Haha456]

whores or sluts do not hurt others. it is YOU that hurt others. you are the immoral one. Not the sluts. You better watch your mouth before you open it.

[Summeroflove]

I mean... You don't seem to know right from wrong. So who knows maybe you would do something like that. Why do you care so much how I act? You said you don't care

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

what are they doing that is so wrong? sluts don't hurt people. only you hurt people

[Summeroflove]

Why are you making a terroristic threat? Why should I watch my mouth? How do I hurt others? I am not hurting you at all. You aren't upset. I don't control how others feel. They do.

[Haha456]

sluts do not rob, don't steal, don't bully, don't harm, don't harrass.

how are they immoral?

it is you that is immoral.

[Summeroflove]

Why do you keep repeating yourself over and over? Being degenerates. Do you think that incest is wrong? Do you think doing something with someone underage is bad? Why... If they both consented who are they hurting?

That is the logic you are using

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Why are you making a terroristic threat? Why should I watch my mouth? How do I hurt others? I am not hurting you at all. You aren't upset. I don't control how others feel. They do.]

why are you accusing innocent people of being terrorists?

[Summeroflove]

What would be wrong with having sex with a dead person? You even said being a whore is disgusting you said that not me...

I mean they are dead who are you hurting? Same logic. See I know those things are wrong. I am not a reprobate

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[Why do you keep repeating yourself over and over? Being degenerates. Do you think that incest is wrong? Do you think doing something with someone underage is bad? Why... If they both consented who are they hurting?]

maybe you're a bad person because you're a bully? the sluts aren't bullying anyone. you are. Own up to what you did

[Summeroflove]

You are telling me to shut my mouth. I was asking if you were making a terroristic threat. I never said you were a terroristic. I was just asking a question never accused you of anything. You are so easily butthurt let me tell you

[Summeroflove]

I mean you told me you were not upset... That is what you said

[Haha456]

its the same thing as Christians trying to persecute all homosexuals 500 years ago. Homosexuals were executed because they were considered immoral. Meanwhile these were law abiding citizens who worked hard to make a living. Some very good outstanding citizens too.

Same thing as right now. You're persecuting sluts and whores who have done absolutely no harm to society.

[Summeroflove]

See... How you don't respond to what I said. Let me repeat myself so you can understand. Why would having sex with a family member be wrong if they consented and arne't hurting anyone? Sex with a minor? Sex with a dead person? Sex with a animal?

BECAUSE IT IS DISGUSTING

[Haha456]

and you know what the real bad people are?

assholes like you who bully, harass, persecute innocent people simply due to different personal preferences to sexual life.

[Summeroflove]

Why are you bringing Homosexuals into this? Kind of like how now you are addressing ALL Christians that is pretty bigoted of you and you're making a strawman.

But... You don't see anything wrong with incest? And things like that? That is pretty bad

[Summeroflove]

How am I a bad person? Obviously I am not upsetting you. But if you aren't upset. Again. Personal preferences? So that means if you're into kids hey that is just fine to you. Just a preference.

[Haha456]

the real immoral person is YOU, not sluts or gays.

Closemindedness and religion had been the source of violence and immorality all throughout our history.

[Summeroflove]

I never said anything about gays. You are now judging me for being immoral. Even though overall I am a happy person. When people call me names that I am not... Whatever if it isn't true then it will speak for it's self.

[Summeroflove]

How am I closed minded? For having morals and standards? Is it closed minded to not like pedos? Still it is like I never even brought that up. I think you must think that is just perfectly fine.

[Summeroflove]

Most of the time I am pretty nice but when people are just double minded like you

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

how is being a slut or a whore immoral?

these people are not a threat to society to any sort of extent.

you know what? you're a bigger threat to society than they are.

so quit talking shit about sluts / whores and take a look at how you mistreat innocent people

[Summeroflove]

How is being a pedo immoral? Tell me that. You won't answer me. Oh... I should call them MAPS not pedos. Right? That is the term you prefer?

[Summeroflove]

Don't tell me what to do LOL.

[Summeroflove]

I don't have to follow your directions as much as you don't have to mine. Maybe you would be a happier person if you stopped sleeping around. Why do you care so much what some random person online thinks of you?

Do you feel maybe other people feel that way about you too?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[How is being a pedo immoral? Tell me that. You won't answer me. Oh... I should call them MAPS not pedos. Right? That is the term you prefer?]

since when was this tpic about pedo? don't change the topic. the topic of our discussion was you calling sluts immoral. why don't you explain to me how being a slut is immoral?

[Haha456]

@Summeroflove

[I don't have to follow your directions as much as you don't have to mine. Maybe you would be a happier person if you stopped sleeping around. Why do you care so much what some random person online thinks of you?]

i do not have to follow your directions because we were never talking about pedos in the first place. its just your way of evading the question being asked by changing the topic

[Summeroflove]

I have entertained myself with your stupidity enough. You give me a headache. I was more making a point that there are things that are disgusting like being a pedo, having sex with family, having sexual relations with a animal, a dead person, and other stuff like that.

I also find it disgusting to just sleep around. Having a marriage is also much more meaningful. But see you rejected a guy who was marriage material since that is not what you are wanting.

You tell me about all these great men yet you aren't with any of them. I wonder why? They don't want you in the end or you don't want something like that so you go whore around I don't want to hear about your sex life anymore. Thank you

[WindAtMyBack]

For some reason I feel like answering this question is a spoiler, like telling the end of a move to someone who hasn't seen it.

Yes, she already liked you. Congratulations.

[AviatorTom]

You know the answer to your question, you're just looking for confirmation from a group of strangers. Enjoy your date. Oh, and yes, she likes you.

[Jess_D]

If she said yes to a “date date”, then yes she already liked you. Have fun on your date and just be yourself since she already likes you.

[Massageman]

It seems that she is interested in you. Follow through on the date and try to find the reason she is interested and whether of not it's a legit one and not just a way to score a few dollars from a sugar daddy.

[Summeroflove]

I think that it is a good sign. I wish you both the best. You will have to see how things go after the first date and maybe some more

[mobiusforniner]

Um, if you need GAG to ask if she likes you, dude you must be captain obvious. Of course she likes you.

[Rania05]

Totally in great position, have good time in your date 😘

[MrNameless]

Is this some kind a joke? Well duh dude. Green light is a go based on everything you said.

[MrNameless]

Tread carefully though when dating coworkers. Be really discrete. I'd have a conversation about it with her at some point to keep it as discrete as possible and act professional, especially if and when shit goes south... Don't bring the personal drama at work if you guys got into awkward fight and didn't make up or whatever.

[peachylife23]

If she says yes to a date without hesitation she has already considered it or liked you for a while. Enjoy it 🙂

[devilish-cutie]

Yes that is how women show you they are interested, it took you long enough

[LimitedBenefits101]

Looks like you pissed off the older women of gag 30+ the 304 club😂

[Asker]

It would appear so. Not that I would turn down a woman in her 30's. But this is the situation I find myself in. 🤣

[Anonymous]

with this inflation, she's just happy to be getting free food!

i'm kidding, dude. just enjoy.

[Opinion Owner]

also can't believe guys are so oblivious to this kind of stuff lol

[BackwoodsSage]

Obviously you fuckin moron. 🤦🏼‍♂️
I swear, I wonder how some of you dumbasses make it to your 30s.
Lmao.🤣