White Men That Are Open Or Have Dated Black Women?

[Anonymous]

Share your experiences? I would love to hear from white men who have married black women. Any advice for a young black women who is dating a white male?

[Anonymous]

I’ve not married a Black woman, but I’ve had a few fwbs. For some reason Black women really are attracted to me. Like I’ll just have random women approach me and say, “You a good looking man” or walk up and tell me how much they love my style. I think part of it is that I grew up in Black neighborhoods and went to predominantly Black schools. Often I was the only non-Black person in class or on the school bus. Racism was vicious, frequent, and violent.

I like dating and being in relationships with Black women because they make me feel desirable. Attractive. Noticed. They’ll just tell me how hot I am or how much they enjoy the sex or whatever. White women, it’s like you’re always walking on eggshells where they want to yell at you for saying something rude or nag you about some bullshit. I can’t relax. And so many are just completely ungrateful. I cook. I’m a good cook. I’m a daaaamn good cook. I did it for a living. And I give some bomb ass foot massages. The White girls I’ve dated have just been like “meh.”

I guess what it comes down to is that Black women made me feel appreciated and desirable. White women have made me feel taken for granted and manipulated. Needless to say the sex is waaaaaaaaay better.

[Anonymous]

I’ve not married a Black woman, but I’ve had a few fwbs. For some reason Black women really are attracted to me. Like I’ll just have random women approach me and say, “You a good looking man” or walk up and tell me how much they love my style. I think part of it is that I grew up in Black neighborhoods and went to predominantly Black schools. Often I was the only non-Black person in class or on the school bus. Racism was vicious, frequent, and violent.

I like dating and being in relationships with Black women because they make me feel desirable. Attractive. Noticed. They’ll just tell me how hot I am or how much they enjoy the sex or whatever. White women, it’s like you’re always walking on eggshells where they want to yell at you for saying something rude or nag you about some bullshit. I can’t relax. And so many are just completely ungrateful. I cook. I’m a good cook. I’m a daaaamn good cook. I did it for a living. And I give some bomb ass foot massages. The White girls I’ve dated have just been like “meh.”

I guess what it comes down to is that Black women made me feel appreciated and desirable. White women have made me feel taken for granted and manipulated. Needless to say the sex is waaaaaaaaay better.

[Msputiton]

My partner is white.

I think the most important thing to do. Is be respectful to eachother when something race related is discussed or something your partner does is weird or offensive, and always have an open mind about it.

Besides obvious moments of race differences always just treat them the sameway you would if you were dating someone from your own race.

The moment you start making the relationship about race, you might as well end it there, because it's now weird and forced.

[HorggleThorp]

I’ve heard white men say that they prefer a submissive, feminine woman and black women aren’t generally seen that way. I’m not a white man, but I know while men who say this a lot which is why I think they go for Asians over white women sometimes.

[michael00007]

But black women are fun lol

[Chris_78456]

I date Asian women because they're super pretty, I love darker skin tones than my own, lots of them seem to like White men and sometimes opposites attract.
I'm open to dating Black women and other women of color as well. She doesn't have to be submissive just loving and fun to be with.

[Asker]

I wasn't necessarily asking the women however as a black woman with a white boyfriend I'm very submissive to him. However yes the attitudes can ruin it and I agree. I think white men and Asian women equally fetishize eachother

[HorggleThorp]

Glad to hear it! Men who want a submissive woman turn me off instantly. I’m not a black woman, I’m actually a Michif woman, but yes, I do agree. Black women are also really beautiful!

[HorggleThorp]

Lol sorry haha. I just felt the need to answer since I knew a lot on the subject.

[michael00007]

@HorggleThorp DM

[HorggleThorp]

I don’t know how to DM on here. I’m pretty new c:

[michael00007]

Follow me.

[HorggleThorp]

It just says my xp level isn’t high enough to dm. Lol

[Chris_78456]

I hate the word "Fetishize" because what does it even mean?
Where do you draw the line between sexual attraction and fetishizing, and why is every other race allowed to like each other, but if a White man likes a woman of color it must be a "Fetish" or something abnormal because he couldn't possibly find them attractive right? You see how all this fetishizing stuff is just a tactic to control White men, and discourage women of color from dating them.

[Asker]

Well in my opinion white men that do like Asian women speak about how "tight" they are because they're Asian. Asian women like any white man because they assume they all have money

[Asker]

Some white men want a black girl because they think we all have big butts and big tits and a fierce sassy personality. Awwm bwwm do a bunch of raceplay

[Asker]

They praise false stereotypes and sexualize them. That's a fetish to me

[Chris_78456]

Well lots of Asian women do have quite beautiful bodies, and lots of White men do have money, masculine features, intelligence, and above average sized Big White dicks, but that doesn't mean that every White male/Asian female couple base their entire relationships on that. It's unfair to pre-judge and stereotype all those couples.

[Chris_78456]

Also, every couple of every race sexualizes each other, it's natural and we use our mutual sexual attraction to reproduce.

[michael00007]

I mean black women itself are a fetish to me

[Asker]

Lol Michael please explain. My white boyfriend has a fetish for black women too but he also genuinely loves me as well. He indulges in so much raceplay porn o

[Asker]

@michael00007

[Chris_78456]

@michael00007
A fetish is a sexual fixation on an object or body part that isn't typically seen as sexual. Black women couldn't be a fetish if you wanted them to be. They're your preference.

[Chris_78456]

As for your White boyfriend he can have a preference for Black women and also love an individual black woman within his preferred type.

[Asker]

I do. He openly says yes he has a fetish but genuinely does love black women I believe him.. the fetish part comes in with the raceplay he watches and that we may sometimes do. I guess since I participate I fetishize him as well I guess I see white men as powerful and like to be dominated by them if that makes sense?

[Chris_78456]

Raceplay is a whole other topic.
Raceplay in itself IS a fetish because you're deriving sexual pleasure from the act of racial degredation, racial slurs and racism in general directed at each other in a shocking and provocative way.
That kink or fetish is separate from the way most interracial couples conduct their relationships.

[Asker]

To sexual racial stereotypes isn't a fetish? Ex: Asian women are tight because Asian dicks are small. To praise false racial stereotypes becomes fetishization to me.

[Chris_78456]

No, stereotypes are just stereotypes.
If you use a stereotype to claim one race is superior to another in some way then can be taken as antagonistic and discriminatory and then it becomes a racist stereotype.
It's important to use the word "Some" when describing your observations of genital sizes, otherwise it's claiming that an entire race is bigger, tighter, smaller, or whatever and that's gonna offend the people who don't fit those claims.
As for a fetish it's a completely different thing. Feet can be a fetish, hands can be a fetish, pee can even be a fetish because those are things that are unusual to find sexually attractive. Black women and Asian women are already sexually attractive to males naturally, and frankly it's an insult to even suggest that men would need to have a fetish to want them. You notice that nobody calls White women a fetish? Everyone's free to like them free of judgement, isn't that a bit suspicious?

[HorggleThorp]

You’ve got a point there, Chris.

[Chris_78456]

Thank you, I appreciate that.

[ButterflyCuddles]

I agree

[Chris_78456]

Be careful because everybody is jealous of White men. Any woman of color, Black, Asian etc. who gets in an interracial relationship with him is gonna hear things like:

He's fetishizing you

He wants you because he can't get a White woman and you're his second choice etc.

It's how jealous people try to shame White men for dating outside of their race.

[Asker]

Trust me that is what they say 247. As a black woman I get attention from guys that would've never looked my way now that I'm with a white man. It's like a game to them, the jealousy is really real

[Asker]

That's comes with the territory white literally. Dominated and took over the whole damn world ofc it bothers other races of men 😭😭

[Asker]

Quite* literally

[Chris_78456]

Oh yes. I was married to a Native woman and I heard all kinds of weird things from jealous people, but I loved her so much I didn't care.
Let them hate.

[FunkyMonkee]

I dated someone that's almost black. She was from India and even her own family used to make fun of how dark she was. And, I know a black woman that I would've had no problem dating. There was also one I used to work with and pretended to be after her romantically. She was perfectly fine with it but would still keep reminding me of her boyfriend. I kept calling her my chocolate bunny and would occasionally hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek. One year, for Easter, she gave me a real chocolate bunny!
At another job there were two black girls that I would've easily dated. One was very cute and sweet and smelled like banana popsicles!! YUM!! But, she had a boyfriend. The other was really gorgeous and VERY sexy and a super sweet girl but, she was only 17 years old and her parents named her after a public men's room toilet!! Latrina!!

[BlueScorpio]

My husband says he sees more black women with white men more than ever these days. I'm also black and he's Hispanic.

[Asker]

Same. Glad we are finding love within all races

[BlueScorpio]

I think a lot black women would have a lot success with interracial dating if they just branched out. But most are to scared of the possibility of racism, thinking every guy will fetishize them, or they are too race loyal and hoping a black guy will finally come their way. It also doesn't help when you have people in our community that try to scare black women away from interracial dating.

[Asker]

Absolutely I agree with everything you just said. The fear mongering is the worst.

[Asker]

I've been fear mongered by the men mainly or told I'm not attractive enough, or I will be k*lled by him, and I should be hung on a tree and etc. The craziest thing is they never say this to the men who date out more than the women. Hypocritical

[BlueScorpio]

Very true, black me date out far more than rhe women. I don't know maybe to them it's some sort of competition, but it really makes no sense to say we're betraying our race when they date out far more. Sinetimes it seems like they don't want those women. But they don't want anyone to have them either in case they need to run to a back up plan.

[Asker]

Exactly!!! "I don't want you but no one else can want you either"

[Asker]

I had a black man tell me that they need us to stay in case the non black women they date throw them away wow. Spot on

[Anonymous]

I haven't married anyone. But in my experiences black women are very open an honest which is a big thing to me. Not saying that other women aren't honest. But my experiences with black women have been better in comparison.

[Asker]

Interesting what is your race?

[Opinion Owner]

White.

[Guanfei]

Don't listen to your fellow black people who will call you every kind of names for dating a white guy.

Never bring race into the relationship in any way. If you start treating him badly because you're into the BLM bullshit, it's over.

Just have a normal relationship as you'd have with anyone else.

[exitseven]

I knew a girl that was black. She was really funny and nice and I thought she liked me so one day I asked her if she would go out with me sometime and she turned me down.

[Summeroflove]

I am open to anyone whose a good person and I am attracted to.

[humanearth]

I'm open to the idea, but my wife would kick my ass if I went past the idea

[Asker]

Oh lol. Not solely for sexual purposes more so like dating and marriage

[humanearth]

I know what you meant, but I wanted to be funny

[zagor]

I've dated a couple black women very briefly (but I date everyone I date very briefly).

Didn't last long enough to remember any strong impressions based on their race.

[BJP21]

I dated a Latina Mexican girl, some of my conservative yet christian family showing their racist colors. I was a bit mortified my family could ever be like that.

[Luckycharms12]

Just respect and care for each other what does race matter.

[Asker]

The way society looks at white men who are with black women

[Luckycharms12]

I don't think they do. And even if they do fuck them you are both happy that's what matters.

[Andres77]

my first two wives and a few more girlfriend's were black.

[slatyb]

I haven't dated any, but I've crushed on a few.

[jimmy2]

I would