Which one is worse? Never falling in love with someone or have no one fall in love with you?

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[WonderBell99]

From an outsider’s perspective, I don’t think anyone is unloveable unless they are pure evil and those type of people lack empathy and do not care about anyone except themselves. So, having someone never falling in love with them would not really faze them. Some people are just comfortable with themselves and do not mind staying single until they pass away… that’s fine too.

Those who do not have much luck with dating need to do some reflection and self introspection. Often, going after the wrong people, aka abusers and people who hurt us stem from childhood issues. We often don’t realize how much our parents’ relationship and how our own relationship with our caregivers affect our romantic/interpersonal relationships later in life unless we first hand experience it.

I have always been a hopeless romantic. I’ve dreamed of having a wonderful partner, us living in a nice house with a picket fence and cats. That is many people’s dream and even some’s realities. I don’t like loneliness, but I have people who love me. I would not mind becoming a cat lady if I fail to find someone to share my life with. I’m comfortable with who I am. Personally, never falling in love with someone would make me worry if something was wrong with me. Sure, maybe they were not the right person… but how long, after how many dates with a long list of men, could I go on thinking to myself why I don’t experience those sparks and fireworks that everyone talks about? What about the kind of love that comes once in a lifetime? It would make me wonder if I was doing something wrong.

Different people will have varying opinions. For some people, it could be equally worse. For others, they may choose the first option because they might feel guilty of not reciprocating the feelings. While many others may choose the second option because they fear ending up alone when they’re old and gray.

[Anonymous]

Well, I don't really mind either of these hypothetical scenarios ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

At least not now.

I think the possibility of never falling in love can be more likely to happen than someone never falling in love with you, because there's always someone that will have feelings for you. Even if you're not aware of it.

Of course, it's not a proven theory but just makes sense to me.

In my previous school, pretty much everyone in class found out that someone had feelings for them.

[Anonymous]

I fell in love in my teens with the girl next door. We were great friends, dated and lost our virginities to each other but unfortunately she turned out to be gay. She's still one of my best friends. A few times after a bad break up or dry spells when we were both single she had sex with me. One time she let me jerk off to her and her girlfriend as they had sex, they giggled when I came hard and hit them. Good times. Never falling in love I guess.

[Apraxia]

I think having no one love you is worse:

if you love and don’t get loved back your gonna hurt and become a shell of a person cause you’ll likely learn to hide and suppress your emotions.

Meanwhile not loving would just be lacking something for you to feel. At least you can still be yourself. Only the over thinkers would suffer really.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t need a guy right now but I don’t know what my life will be like if I’m 80 or 90 years old

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Neither… losing your loved one is the worst

[WonderBell99]

"It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" just a thought. :)

[katestar]

True that

[JSmuve]

Having no one to fall in love with you is worse. It implies that you're unlovable and that nobody wants you, despite you wanting someone and searching. The former implies that there are people who do want you, which is validating, but you don't want them. Of course, neither are mutually exclusive and you could find yourself in a situation where you don't want anyone and noone wants you.

[AshLee83]

Agreed! Well said!

[Steamnir]

Both r equally bad

sometimes i miss falling in love just for the sake of it

and sometimes i hate no one loves me, loneliness is bad

[Blackcupcake]

I would rather give someone all of my love without regret than feel bad and guilty about not being able to reciprocate someone’s true and genuine feelings

[SnowedIn]

Having no one fall in love with you is heart wrenchingly terribly worse. That's... just... an abyss of loneliness. I don't even get the choice. Definitely worse.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Have no one fall in love with you.

Because, here you wish to fall in love but have no one.

In the first option, you don't wish to fall in love.

[Heolurt]

This right here is my life. If no one ever shows you love then you won't know what love is or feels like so you won't be able to love anything or anyone else so in my experience never having someone fall in love with you is worse.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I’m rolling with never falling in love with someone.

[FunkyMonkee]

No one falling in love with you. I've been IN love most of my life but almost NEVER had it returned!!

[UnknownPuppet]

Difficult question. Both sucks. So none of them. Only compined they are worth it.

[juene]

Have no one to fall in love with you. 😔
Especially when everyone around you has someone that loves them. And you're just there... existing 😂😒

[Berethor]

Have no one fall in love with you if you a man, men tend to be less emotional than women.

[SolitarySolace]

Having no one to fall in love with. Because never falling in love should be a choice. You don’t get a choices if there’s no one to fall in love with.

[exitseven]

I think having nobody fall in love with you is worse It is hard to live like that.

[Darine123]

Never fall in love with someone, I rather be not hurt by anyone

[TroyDT2]

I would say never loving someone else would be worse for me.

[Hypermotard1916]

falling in love in a collapsing civilisation.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Second I guess. I am 26 now and never anyone was in love with me.

Not falling in love yourself is actually peaceful

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, Option B, definitely!
Never falling in love is GREAT! Haha