What's worse: falling in love with someone you can never be with, or falling in love with someone you were with, but can never be with again?

[Simslover92]

Falling in love with someone you can never be with

Fell in love with someone you were with but can never be with again

[Vneila21]

I voted fell in love with someone you were with but can never be with again. We are attracted by the face, outfit/hair style before anything else. It's how we approach someone to figure out if they are a friend or foe. Then it's a matter of learning about them, and what makes them unique (quirks come later.) It also depends on how much time they've spent together. Were they friends before couples? Did either of them get a chance to show phycological/physiological signs of love?

As for falling in love with someone you could not be with one question is associated; have you met them, or have you seen them from a distance? We cannot rely on texts alone when it comes to love. Love needs faith, but faith is built on hope.

[WhitneySnow]

Neither is as bad as it sounds. Both are very bittersweet. And there are other ways to be close to the object of your affection than romantically (unless they like you romantically too and you’re separated from them by external circumstances beyond either of your control).

[Simslover92]

That's true.

[WhitneySnow]

Thanks for MHO!

[Simslover92]

You're welcome!

[KostasKouvalis]

I think the first one. I'm an extremely jealous person and a bit egotystical, so the thought of her not being attracted me, but being to someone else and doing all the things that couples do, kills me.

With the second option, at least I got to have her and she at least did the same stuff with me

[Shiprex]

Losing and never having are different. One is empty with no substance which the other has through memories and connections.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating love's rocky waters can feel like trying to dance in quicksand. Falling for someone unattainable is like chasing a star while falling out with someone you once had is a full-blown plot twist! Both sting in their own ways, leaving memories and 'what-ifs' tagging along. But let's face it, at least with the latter, you've had your romantic movie moment—even if it came with a dramatic ending! Keep your heart open and your tissues close, love's bound to surprise you again! 🌟💔

[Summeroflove]

Second option is hard because you loved someone and lost them. You just will blame yourself forever and it's painful. Someone you can’t have is a hard one too but then again you have no memories with that perosn. Especially if it was a long term partner you remember all the things with them.

[AviatorTom]

If you were in love with someone you were with, you experienced them. That's better than unrequited love, loving someone you can never be with.

[ohsheeT]

Neither one i would let them go and start all over

[Brittanyrunner06]

You don’t feel bad after someone leaves you who you were really in love with? You just instantly move on? I wish I were capable of that. Even a little.

[ohsheeT]

After you have been hurt. And you go through all the emotions and the pain. It changes you.

And you learn from it. And the next relationship you get into, you have to ask yourself, are you ready.

And the thing you have learned is you can fall in love, but you can't make anyone love you..

You can give yourself to them, but it takes both people to make it work. You can give your 100%, but if they are not going to give, there's the best thing to do is walk away as friends.

You start out that way, end it that way

The other thing is to be honest with yourself. When you feel something is not right. Don't just think it's going to pass, and it will get better.

When you go through the pain, you learn and understand. Everything you are feeling is not from the other person. It's from you that you feel that pain because that's how deep you loved someone its not how deep they loved you.

When we meet someone they come in to our lives and we start a new life being around them doing things with them its as if they opened parts of us we never experienced we feel things we never felt before. But its not them its us those feeling are coming from us they just open the door for the new experiences. We break up, we mourn that they are not there we miss what we think they gave us . But what it is. Is we miss the new experiences that happen its really deeper than that.

[ohsheeT]

Every thing on this world is tied together or can be if we allow it even you and I and we don't even know each other. When things don't work out the way we want it to, it is because of a reason. The sooner we accept it, the more life moves on. But if we dwell on it and keep thinking about it over and over, that's what makes us miserable. And of course, in time, it passes when there's something else to take its place. But when it happens, there is a lesson to learn. And with any lesson. It's not what hapoen.. the session is how fast we get up and start again. Because there's not one thing we can do about it.. because it wasn't meant to be. If it was, we could still be there

[CorneliaUSA]

I agree with all @ohsheeT s comments

[Anonymous]

The second one. Because you know how good it was with them rather than imaging how good it could be. I fell for my half brother, my mother had cheated with his father and it all came out at college when we told our parents we were getting married. I miss him so much.

[Simslover92]

Oh wow I'm so very sorry. That's awful.

[Opinion Owner]

Like he's got a girlfriend now and at a different college and I just wish hed come by my apartment sometime so it can be luke it was

[Simslover92]

I so know the feeling. It's one of the worst feelings in the world.

[Brittanyrunner06]

Losing someone you still love is much worse. Being with someone gives you the ability to find out if you truly love them or if you were only infatuated with them. If you were never even with a person, at all, and are obsessively thinking about feelings of love for them, it’s typically just infatuation and not actual love. (At least, from my experience.)

[jazzy34]

Definitely the first option. Kinda in that position now. The feelings are mutual, but he's not available. Bleh, lol.

[Simslover92]

I'm sorry.

[jazzy34]

Thanks.

[Simslover92]

You're welcome.

[sage2021]

Once you have a history with someone and if you split appart but you still have feelings for him, and can't be with him, then you know for sure what you'd be missing out on in the future.

[serious]

Falling in love with someone you can never be with. Among the two options you gave this is the worst.

[Caroline91]

I wouldn't waste my time and emotional energy one something hopeless. So neither.

[queenofcardio]

I've experienced both. Neither was worse than the other. Both were equally painful

[katiesmuff]

If you got the chance then it went south at least you had the chance.

[RageBabe]

There is no single answer; both can be incredibly painful.

[RingOfFire]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ky7FAtZDVp4

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[mysteriousN]

I feel for you lady however @Simslover92 surely these days you can afford to enjoy Sims games on Computer to pass the time? 🤣😅 Sure sounds more fun than another man with baggage 🛄🛄🛅

[Yannae]

For me it's the second option because if she goes, a part of you may go with it.

[WonderingManII]

Fell in love with someone you were with but can never be with again

[Wise4myage]

Falling in love with someone you can never be with. At least you got to experience sex.

[Babygirl_S]

Second because you miss the feelings and time together but can never feel the same

[AngryCarl2]

They both suck but you get over it. Time and distance will do that.

[Dongie]

I'd say fairly close but the one you were but never can again tips it.

[Anonymous]

It's worse to be falling in love with someone you can never be with.

I've never been with anyone, all of my loves were unrequited.

[dustybiker2]

You're really depressing sometimes

[Simslover92]

I'll try to switch it up in my next questions. Promise.

[dustybiker2]

Oh no
Just teasing

[Simslover92]

Oh lol

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

You always ask such depressing questions.

[Simslover92]

Sorry. I'm trying to change though.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

No need to apologize. I just hope your life gets happier.

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I hope so too.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

We talked a few months ago where you mentioned having a guy's d**k in your mouth for like half an hour, trying to get him off. I still think about that. I mean, that's devotion. A woman who will do that is a high-quality woman, no doubt.

[Beckybooboo]

Option C: Falling out of love with someone.

[exitseven]

I went with Door Number two.

[Anonymous]

The first one apparently.

[dudeinohio]

Someone you were with and can't be with again