Is it better to have loved and lost then to have never loved them at all?

[RoseySarah]

Personally with my ex it would have been better to have never loved at all!

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Better to have loved and lost

Better to have never loved at all

Vastly depends

[Leapfrog00]

For sure. I used to be friends with a guy who was a virgin, never had a girlfriend in his life. I could not imagine in a million years what it would be like being in this earth for 35 years and not knowing the feeling of being in love or the feeling of being inside of a girl's pussy.

It's been a while for me, but still, I couldn't go a lifetime without sex, no way! At least when you've had the chance to love someone, you have the experience of knowing what it feels like to be loved. I miss it sometimes, and it does suck I'm living in an area where most of the girls are drug addicts. I try not to judge people, but most of these girls around here are terrible people.

I miss giving a girl flowers or writing her a love poem. I'm glad I'm a writer because I have the gift of expressing my feelings in writing. When I was in high school, I thought I'd never find anyone, but then I ended up going out with some decent girls. It's so hard to find a decent girl nowadays! In the past five years, I've been with so many cheaters and psychos who were dangerous!

[abc3643]

The answer to this question is "Yes and No".

You NEED to have that first monstrous broken heart from being dumped by someone you love. This is the moment of your birth turning you into an actual adult human being with frailties and empathy.

The subsequent ones though are dangerous. A profound broken heart you may never get over and, just as bad, you may actually lose the ability to have real love ever again because that part of your soul was amputated to save the rest of you.

Sadly, that is what happened to me; I've been profoundly heartbroken for 32 years and I know that I am not capable of romantic love like that anymore. But that first broken heart from 42 years ago... It lasted 31 months before I could fully move on, but it transformed me as a person and made me a much better person.

[Lynnzee]

It's hard because if u get hurt by love u wish it never happened and are mad. When u feel that love though u are on cloud 9. Extreme happiness you get lost in your own thoughts and reminiscing moments you had and ones you will have in the future.

[RoseySarah]

So it depends we're you are in love

[TenderFantasy]

Yes. You're mad because you wasted so much of your time (which you'll never get back) and emotions and energy with the wrong person.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Definitely. My brother told me and I didn’t believe at that time. Looking back, I am happy I experienced love and so what if it ended. I loved and I was loved and it was worth it.

How sad my life would be had I never loved anyone before.

[RoseySarah]

That is wonderful and so happy you got loved and loved sometimes you just love with nothing returned.

[TenderFantasy]

Why would you say that? Makes no sense. Then you will be MISSING what used to be. That would make me very sad and discouraged from trying to find "love" again!

[Ironco]

What are you young people talking about? love sucks, Always has , always will. Make out of it what you will.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@TenderFantasy We can miss what used to be but I think we can often move on and find something new after a period provided we don't dwell too much in what used to be. We can't enjoy anything in this life if we expect it to last forever.

[TenderFantasy]

@GuyAnswersGirls123 True. Not like I had a choice in the matter. And you're wrong in that I cannot enjoy something if it were to last forever. I don't have the attention span of a goldfish. I don't get BORED easily!

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@TenderFantasy Oh sorry, what I meant is that if we can only enjoy things that last forever, we can't enjoy life in general since life itself doesn't last forever. We can't enjoy our childhoods since childhoods don't last forever. We can't enjoy love since love doesn't last forever. We can't enjoy flowers in bloom since they wither and die. We can't enjoy having a pet since pets die.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@TenderFantasy Like this. I didn't care much for the movie but this is an interesting quote:
www.youtube.com/shorts/EnvixxsMn1Q?feature=share

[sawno]

Haven't made my mind up yet, i wouldn't want to miss the incredible relationship I had but I hope I can ever meet someone on that level again. I could not have imagined a more compatible girl.

So assuming I come across someone new I can truly love on that level then its better to have loved and lost my perfect match. But if my dating life is now in ruins because she caused unrealiatic expectations then it would make the rest of my life a lot less satisfying.

[serious]

Well, I chose vote B. For me that is what is best applicable and logical too given how I am as a person.

However, the logical answer is it would depend on the fact if the person is a risk taker or not, I mean being in love, to love is a risk in itself. To put oneself in that situation, to be vulnerable is a risk in itself and if the person has the ability to take the risk then it is "better to have loved and lost".

However, if the person is not a risk taker and is someone for whom protecting themselves is more important than experiencing things then for that person " It is better to have never loved at all"

Hence the saying can be split into two parts and it will basically depend on the risk taking ability of the person as far as love is concerned.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

After 3 months, she told me she wanted to break it off with me, wow was that a horrible day well it's done and over with, and she married another guy hey it's all part of life. And I healed and feel so great that we didn't go back together.

[MarkDown]

In my experience, for me it reminds me of the scene from the older movie "Men In Black"

(Will Smith Character) "You know they say it better to have loved and lost than not love at all."

(Tommy Lee Jones Character) "Try it sometime."

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I would always want to have experienced love than not experience it at all. It's good to have gone through it, and mentally doubt with loss in most instances (my experience)

[TenderFantasy]

So you like the feeling of disappointment when it ends? Interesting. You like to feel rejection.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@TenderFantasy that's an odd accusation. I think when you lose someone close to you, and you have learned something from that relationship whether it's romantic or not, there is importance in that experience. Whether it's been a relative or a previous relationship, when something ended, I learned something about myself, and how others work.

[TenderFantasy]

@middleagedclimbee yeah and sometimes those are very hard, hurtful lessons to learn indeed. I don't know if I'd appreciate finding out how nasty, selfish and evil some people can be! Or manipulative so there was nothing odd about my reaction!

Also, I think with this question, they were referring to romantic love not familial love.

[TenderFantasy]

@middleagedclimbee I mean to clarify further, I don't think I'd appreciate finding out the hard way that they never loved you back or they were just using you, ecetera. with you being VICTIMIZED or FOOLED by them.

[ZackBan]

I would rather love and be loved even at the risk of loss.

It's proof that I was here. I existed. I mattered.

Living life passively on the sidelines is the biggest mistake anyone can make. I wasted many of my teen years dowing that and as an adult i make it a point not to be that kid ever again.

[JayBones]

I can tell you this. Listening to people whine about their heartbreak is just as annoying as listening to incels whine about being kisses virgins.

I think if you asked the first most would say it it's better to have loved and lost. If you asked the seconds they would all pick to have loved and lost. Lol. Virgins.

[TenderFantasy]

How is being sad, depressed about something such as a relationship you invesed so much in, annoy you? That's immature and mean. What if YOU had gone through that? And people were annoyed at you? Speaks of your empathetic/sympathetic capabilities and compassion. It's like them grieving over someone that died. You're mad at their grief? Does not make sense. It's their life. If they want to vent, they have that right.

[JayBones]

I have no empathy/sympathetic capabilites or compassion. I am a sociopath. Reading your text annoyed the fuck outta me and I'm sure any others that will go on to read it.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've loved many women over the years. I wouldn't have traded my time with them to avoid some sadness at the end.

[laly520]

to have never loved em

[RoseySarah]

Agrees

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely. The average person will love several times during their life and it is totally worth it.

[TenderFantasy]

Why? You like being rejected for something stupid or non-sensical? Love, TRUE LOVE that is, never ends!

[NathanDavis]

I regret nothing...

no reason to

[LazerBean]

Losing at love sounds like a waste of time

[Phoenix98]

I believe so yes.

[Carly2005]

Love and Lost experience at least once.

[Becky316]

Very much depends

[RoseySarah]

What about for your last relationship?

[Becky316]

It was a relationship in college, when I found out the truth, it would have been better if I never even met the fucker.

[RoseySarah]

So understand

[Liketotry]

Better to have been loved

[molonski2]

100% A , thats experience.

[FenixG45]

Yes, but it's painful!

[Preferences]

Depends

[strateguy632]

1st..