Is it better to have loved and lost then to have never loved them at all?

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Personally with my ex it would have been better to have never loved at all! Like this question or have suggestions please like and comment 🌟

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

For sure. I used to be friends with a guy who was a virgin, never had a girlfriend in his life. I could not imagine in a million years what it would be like being in this earth for 35 years and not knowing the feeling of being in love or the feeling of being inside of a girl's pussy.

It's been a while for me, but still, I couldn't go a lifetime without sex, no way! At least when you've had the chance to love someone, you have the experience of knowing what it feels like to be loved. I miss it sometimes, and it does suck I'm living in an area where most of the girls are drug addicts. I try not to judge people, but most of these girls around here are terrible people.

I miss giving a girl flowers or writing her a love poem. I'm glad I'm a writer because I have the gift of expressing my feelings in writing. When I was in high school, I thought I'd never find anyone, but then I ended up going out with some decent girls. It's so hard to find a decent girl nowadays! In the past five years, I've been with so many cheaters and psychos who were dangerous!

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

The answer to this question is "Yes and No".

You NEED to have that first monstrous broken heart from being dumped by someone you love. This is the moment of your birth turning you into an actual adult human being with frailties and empathy.

The subsequent ones though are dangerous. A profound broken heart you may never get over and, just as bad, you may actually lose the ability to have real love ever again because that part of your soul was amputated to save the rest of you.

Sadly, that is what happened to me; I've been profoundly heartbroken for 32 years and I know that I am not capable of romantic love like that anymore. But that first broken heart from 42 years ago... It lasted 31 months before I could fully move on, but it transformed me as a person and made me a much better person.

Lynnzee · Accepted Answer

It's hard because if u get hurt by love u wish it never happened and are mad. When u feel that love though u are on cloud 9. Extreme happiness you get lost in your own thoughts and reminiscing moments you had and ones you will have in the future.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Definitely. My brother told me and I didn’t believe at that time. Looking back, I am happy I experienced love and so what if it ended. I loved and I was loved and it was worth it.

How sad my life would be had I never loved anyone before.

sawno · Answer

Haven't made my mind up yet, i wouldn't want to miss the incredible relationship I had but I hope I can ever meet someone on that level again. I could not have imagined a more compatible girl.

So assuming I come across someone new I can truly love on that level then its better to have loved and lost my perfect match. But if my dating life is now in ruins because she caused unrealiatic expectations then it would make the rest of my life a lot less satisfying.

serious · Answer

Well, I chose vote B. For me that is what is best applicable and logical too given how I am as a person.

However, the logical answer is it would depend on the fact if the person is a risk taker or not, I mean being in love, to love is a risk in itself. To put oneself in that situation, to be vulnerable is a risk in itself and if the person has the ability to take the risk then it is "better to have loved and lost".

However, if the person is not a risk taker and is someone for whom protecting themselves is more important than experiencing things then for that person " It is better to have never loved at all"

Hence the saying can be split into two parts and it will basically depend on the risk taking ability of the person as far as love is concerned.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

After 3 months, she told me she wanted to break it off with me, wow was that a horrible day well it's done and over with, and she married another guy hey it's all part of life. And I healed and feel so great that we didn't go back together.

MarkDown · Answer

In my experience, for me it reminds me of the scene from the older movie "Men In Black"

(Will Smith Character) "You know they say it better to have loved and lost than not love at all."

(Tommy Lee Jones Character) "Try it sometime."

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I would always want to have experienced love than not experience it at all. It's good to have gone through it, and mentally doubt with loss in most instances (my experience)

ZackBan · Answer

I would rather love and be loved even at the risk of loss.

It's proof that I was here. I existed. I mattered.

Living life passively on the sidelines is the biggest mistake anyone can make. I wasted many of my teen years dowing that and as an adult i make it a point not to be that kid ever again.

JayBones · Answer

I can tell you this. Listening to people whine about their heartbreak is just as annoying as listening to incels whine about being kisses virgins.

I think if you asked the first most would say it it's better to have loved and lost. If you asked the seconds they would all pick to have loved and lost. Lol. Virgins.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've loved many women over the years. I wouldn't have traded my time with them to avoid some sadness at the end.

laly520 · Answer

to have never loved em

Nikki1989 · Answer

Absolutely. The average person will love several times during their life and it is totally worth it.

NathanDavis · Answer

I regret nothing... no reason to

LazerBean · Answer

Losing at love sounds like a waste of time

Phoenix98 · Answer

I believe so yes.

Carly2005 · Answer

Love and Lost experience at least once.

Becky316 · Answer

Very much depends

Liketotry · Answer

Better to have been loved

molonski2 · Answer

100% A , thats experience.

FenixG45 · Answer

Yes, but it's painful!

Preferences · Answer

Depends

strateguy632 · Answer

1st..

Is it better to have loved and lost then to have never loved them at all?

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After 3 months, she told me she wanted to break it off with me, wow was that a horrible day well it's done and over with, and she married another guy hey it's all part of life. And I healed and feel so great that we didn't go back together.