What feelings boys go through when they are rejected by a girl?

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lucas262 · Accepted Answer

I remember the 1st girl I asked out. I worked at a grocery store. I was a bagger and I had a crush on a girl the the sandwich shop department. I'd had eyes for her for a while and 1 day I decided to ask her out. I walked up to the Register to order, paid and asked if she'd want to go see a movie i remember i was shaking i was so nervous to ask her. her 1 word response was NOO!! I apologized and avoided that side of the store and never looked her in the eyes again.

After that every insecurity I had came to the forefront of my thoughts I'd stand there wondering wtf I was.

Since then iv had times I almost asked a woman out but would talk myself outta it reminding myself of all my shortcomings. The women iv asked out since never got so much as a phone call just a text telling me how much of a pos I was for an Instagram post.

I'm an Amazon driver now and I ses beautiful women everyday a better man would make something happen. Had a number of women roll their eyes or look at me like I was something brown and slimy on their shoe.
When I tried apps it never worked for me till now I don't even bother telling myself immediately that it's not gonna happen because of all the reasons b4. Buy by friends and family who bullied me for my lack of female attention told me to just be more confident. Wow this got long didn't it

Most men see so much rejection they get numb to it. And if someone asked me I'd never tell them what I just wrote.

Nalix · Accepted Answer

Depends on the guy. After lots of rejections it becomes easier, but often more depressing. If he's feeling a lot of fear leading up to him approaching her, it can be very demoralizing when she says no, even if she lets him down softly, but it's often a relief as well, if she makes him nervous. He may feel angry, especially if she is rude, or if he feels he's being dismissed out of hand.

Both for men and women, when you try something a bunch of times you start to build up an expectation for what should happen. If you've approached lots of people and never been rejected before, that can be a huge sting to your ego. If you've faced nothing but rejection, your first acceptance can exciting and confusing.

His reaction to rejection depends on the guy. It never feels good, unless he's doing it on a bet and winning something out of it. Guilty for trying. Angry for not being given a fair chance. Fear that she'll be angry. Self doubt, and wondering what he did wrong. Ambivalence and resignation. Determination to try again with someone else. It depends on the guy.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think jealousy is one common feeling - some might feel hate too - the good ones feel sad and not angry

Tina19 · Accepted Answer

Their confidence breaks down and they feel worthless

Friendlybro79 · Answer

When we're young (under 18) it can be quite devastating to be rejected but it depends on the guy in how he will take it as well as how was he is rejected. Sometimes when the girls are young (under 18) I'm sure it can be overwhelming to have someone ask them out and have to reject them. I'm sure sometimes it's a surprise and then a reaction might come off harsh to a boy.

That said this is life lol. It's not a given thing to know how to easily handle rejection or how to reject someone. The key is to always remember kindness when possible. This is a responsibility both boys and girls should have for each other. You're not going to be perfect at it just like adults aren't. Being nice to each other can definitely make things easier on both boys and girls. Hope this is helpful.

Ian69 · Answer

After the amount of times I’ve been rejected, I just take no notice and move on. Life is too short, to worry about things like that. But I’m done with dating now, so I won’t have that problem anymore. But this my personal take on this one, and how I feel.
But it all depends on the guy in question how he reacts.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I don't really feel much of anything anymore. I kind of just think about why it happened and move on with my day.

Maybe there's a flash of embarrassment. But I know how picky women are, I've had enough success dating that it really doesn't bother me much to get rejected.

Plus sometimes the reason it happens for is just totally not something I need to feel bad about lol

Tenebrae_mentis · Answer

Embarrassment, after putting themselves out there and getting turned down. Anger, because they got embarrassed. Unless they're arrogant, then they also get a blow to their self-esteem, which chips away at their confidence and makes them more nervous about the next time they try to put their self out there, for fear of being embarrassed again.

RealMarek · Answer

It depends on the guy. Some guys, especially younger guys, let it get to them. It can hurt their confidence. I think the best way to approach it is to not get too emotionally invested in a woman before asking her for a date. That way, if there is rejection, the man can move on and keep in mind that other women are out there and he wouldn’t want a relationship with someone who isn’t attracted to him.

entrepreneur_ghosh · Answer

Selfdoubt mainly. And when the girl picks up another man and if he is more good looking or physically more attractive then they will have more selfdoubt. And they end up thinking girls need money or looks or like that. But only a few understands that.

FootfetishistBoy · Answer

Well I have never been rejected, cause I have never asked someone out, maybe because i dont want to deal with rejection. But if I ever got rejected I would just play it cool. I have a deep imagination, so I have pictured myself many times being rejected, so maybe i'm ready.

AdithyaR · Answer

Depends on the guy.
One of my best friends can brush off rejections and walk away amicably. He says it's neither of their fault or loss. Just a matter of incompatibility.
Me on the other will apologise and walk away, then hate myself in isolation.

DrBanana · Answer

It really depends like with women we are human and not robots.

It can go from “oh that sucks feeling” to nuclear and feeling terrible if the lady is the worst and added verbal insults to the rejection.

Would be the same for a woman as well I’d say

Fuentes · Answer

I never got rejected when I was younger back then Chick's never said no to me I'm like a wedding ring.

As an adult I deal with weirdness so I get rejected mostly cause the chick's married or taken or the fact that she doesn't want me to hit n quit lol

captain_voidwalker · Answer

The first few times are kinda soul crushing but we quickly learn that dating is basically nonstop rejection, so we grow numb to it over time. Then we reach our mid 30, s and realize dating is basically a waste of time and leave the dating market all together.

slatyb · Answer

That's going to depend entirely on him. Some are mature enough to know that it's just one woman and there are plenty of others. Others may feel entitled to attention from a woman if their choice and become angry.

Psychotic_Buddhist · Answer

As simple as flipping a page in the book of my life, I just move on, any and all emotions attached to said person are eliminated, and I fully focus on my future instead, which is probably better to do considering how modern humans act

newboy78 · Answer

I think men are more emotional than women, except they don't want to show it as it will make them look weak. Otherwise, they go through a though time when rejected, especially when it's their first. But still they would act as if nothing happened.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Rejection hurt when I was young and hadn't little experience with it. It was likely more common too because of less experience in being ae to properly read signs. Now, it really doesn't hurt anymore.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

First thing that breaks is ego self esteem and confidence next goes down with it is our perception of what we thought we were and our value is decreased in our eyes then the sadness of heart break then picking up ourselves and try again lol

DJB72 · Answer

Basically the same as a girl has when a boy rejects her, just in different levels. We're all human beings. We do process differently, but the core emotions are the same.

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

We are not as different as we think we are. Same feelings. It also depends a lot on the person.

Twalli · Answer

I was only rejected once, and I think we were too young to really be much affected. I was 14 at the time. The one other time I wanted to ask out a girl, I fell into a coma and someone else asked her out.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Disappointment, frustration, could be some anger and resentment too, depending on the guy’s situation

exitseven · Answer

It can be really devastating depending on how intense the relationship is. Sometimes it can be really hard to recover from it.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Why do people ask questions like this? I would imagine that it's exactly the same feeling that girls go through when they are rejected. Why do you think it would be different?

TroyDT2 · Answer

"Who's on deck?" There are too many women out there for me to get frustrated by rejection by one or five or fifty.

dragoblack · Answer

At first it's sad, aggravating, and confusing, but I've become so numb to being rejected constantly that I'm all, "ok" then walk away to do something i enjoy.

OddBeMe · Answer

I would say the same. Boys in the US are sometimes given “higher status” by their moms so that it rejection hits them harder.

TallAnon · Answer

Depends how it happens and how invested you are. If I just met her and asked her to come with me, then a rejection only gets a shrug.

Anonymous · Answer

At first, it felt terrible, but then you realize you're no different than what many other guys are dealing with. It comes with the territory since most guys are the ones who are supposed to approach women.

Anonymous · Answer

Embarrassment. Maybe even humiliation. Also depends on how she rejects him. Disappointment.

Guanfei · Answer

Mostly pain and sadness. Depends on how much we like the girl.

Anonymous · Answer

🤣🤣🤣 it's no different then women. Except guys get judged twice if they show it hurt.

RandomGuy1032 · Answer

I bet she will tell everyone i was interested in her ugly ass

inhua · Answer

logical analysis

Jay3344 · Answer

Depends how we’re rejected

Cubus · Answer

Pretty much feeling worthless

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I assume filthy casuals Miss the Rage

peedy · Answer

Pain unbelievable pain

Heolurt · Answer

It differs for each guy.

cuckbetamale · Answer

I cry and my aunt comforts me

Anonymous · Answer

"hope no one spread rumors about this"

Anonymous · Answer

Varies from person to person rather than gender

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Life goes on

Anonymous · Answer

Let's try again

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why do you care?

Guardian45 · Answer

Depression

msc545 · Answer

sadness and shame.

Anonymous · Answer

Sadness.

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