I feeeeel like at this point in my relationship life, that I've gotten to the stage of almost a newly engaged couple. Any tips on how to put the ring on your finger and get him to keep you for a lifetime?
1. Make your desire to be his wife known. Your focus needs to be on your future life together - NOT on anything to do with the marriage ceremony, reception, honeymoon, etc.
2. Show him that you are wife material. If you don't know how to be a wife (many people weren't taught, or weren't taught properly), then find an older woman who has a successful marriage and talk to her - if you can find several, talk to all of them - and ask them what it means to be a good wife. And then, ask HIM what HE thinks it means to be a good wife. Don't argue - you can ask questions, but do NOT take offense no matter what he says - simply ask for clarification as needed, and then think about all of the new information you have.
Always remember that your relationship is about the rest of your life - presumably about starting a family. Talk to him about those things - with happiness and enthusiasm - and see how he's feeling about it. If necessary, negotiate and have a solid plan - are you going to have one kid, live in the city, and you work part time? Are you going to have 3 kids, live in the suburbs, and stay home? Will you skip kids entirely? What is your likely career trajectory, and his? Etc. Make a plan - a set of goals that you can work on together, as a TEAM, and then set about accomplishing those goals as a team, and celebrate their achievement as you reach them.
Marriage is a team sport, and both of you will have to make some sacrifices (i. e., "settle") on some things in order to make it work - but if you have a plan and goals that are important to both of you, you'll find it's a lot easier to make those little sacrifices to achieve those goals - goals that will benefit you as a team member.
One thing men definitely look for as "wife material" is a woman who knows how to be a team player. Most men know exactly what it means to be a team player - most of us have done that all our lives - but women tend not to have that experience, or at least not nearly to the level of men - and so this is something that most men find very important, because no one is ever going to get everything they want, or be free of compromise and sacrifice, in a marriage. He has to know that you understand this deeply, or he's subconsciously going to avoid marriage.
That's not really how it works. You can't make it happen. And one day things might be great, but at any point in the future it might end for one reason or another. So trying to make him keep you forever is futile. It takes effort everyday for couples to stay together. Some days will be super easy, while others might feel impossible. So it all depends on how you treat each other every songle day. You can't do just one thing or even a few things to stay together forever.
However, you can "make" him want to marry you by being all the things men need, not what they want. Being supportive and willing to tell him how you feel NOT how he screwed up or how something is his fault. Even if it is his fault, blaming is how people ruin good relationships. Approach things from the perspective of how you both feel and the problem can be solved. Actually do things with him and go out on dates just because and especially when he is feeling down. And actually communicate. Any woman who doesn't do that whole "I'm fine" thing when she CLEARLY isn't fine will be much more appealing as marriage material. Not belittling his emotions or calling him a baby when he is sad helps too. Ultimately, it all seems to be pretty obvious stuff that ampunts to "Don't be an asshole."
There are other small things that can vary from guy to guy. You trying to be as healthy as possible for him, doing hair styles and colors you know he likes, wearing clothes you know he likes, and anything to remind him of your own version of feminity will help. Obviously, wear what you want and have your own style, but if you occasionally do things with him in mind, he'll notice. If you know why you caught his eye out of all the gals he knows, remind him when you can by showing him that quality he found appealing. Not only being kind to people around you but also actively seeking to help them when reasonable will help with that.
There might be other things, but that's basically it. Ultimately, you can't "do" anything to make him marry you. You have to be who you are and go from there. Obviously, if you know you need to worj on some things, go right ahead. But it's not like he'd date you as you are and then magically decide to marry you because you learned to bake or something. He likely aleady knows if he wants to marry you. He's either waiting to see if he is right about what kind of person you are, or is waiting for the right time.
It's not like I'm forcing the guy.
@Sailormoon95 Oh, I know! I'm not saying you are. What I'm saying is that if you want to get married and he isn't asking, you either need to ask him yourself or move on. Some guys drag their feet, and there's nothing you can do about that. And depending on hiw long you've been together, you can't wait forever. Some guys will never ask until their gal mentions it to them somehow. You could always try the whole "when we're married..." subtle tactic by slipping it into a conversation like so many girls and women do. It usually works from what I've heard because you can gauge his reaction to you mentioning marriage.
Wellllll…the thing is I had heard from my therapist that my so wanted to let me know that there is an apparent marriage coming up. This is when I was 14 straight out from the hospital. I got scared because I was entering my freshman year of high school.
Your "so"? What is that a typo of? Or does that mean something I'm unaware of? Why was your therapist breaking confidentiality? Why are you worried about somethibg that happened ober a decade ago? And wouldn't the marriage have happened during freshman year if high school? I'm confused 😅
It’s really about the chemistry two people have.
You can be a ‘’wife material ‘’ but you have nothing in common, or you don’t have a great chemistry with your partner.
I’d say more it’s what about you bring in the table. It’s to create a balance between you two.
For exemple, you can be a woman who don’t cook, well having a husband that cooks is great ! You can an inpatient wife, but your husband is patient so it help you relax a bit.
Women needs to stop focusing on how to be the perfect wife or the perfect woman for a man. You have to be the best version of yourself. If you want to be a better human being , you have to do it for yourself and never for someone else. And the man who will be with you has to love you for who you are. Simple.
why? Because you could try to fake been this perfect wife, and it won't guaranty that your marriage will work or your husband will stay. Or even just been happy! So all these years you were faking been someone else, or trying too hard or sacrificing too much, instead of just been you. A lot of women still do this nowadays.
so just live your life, try to be the best version of yourself and by doing this you will find your better half.
Nothing much as an Homo Sapiens we wake up every day and make some choices. When it comes to men some marry ex prostitutes , ex porn , amazing girls , virgin women , single mother/ women with 2 +children , older women , very older women , younger women , very young women (pedophiles) some marry men they are gay , some put a ring on her because ehh “nature steps” they like the feeling of getting married but don’t really like the women.
There is no specific reasons they simply found the opportunity , good timing good moment. Yeah.
We want to know this special cause like why why and how do men marry? Some comments here are very toxic they tell you manmade society rules things that make you question your existence.
There is nothing much to know just be yourself. And yes you can get pregnant at 38+ If a men makes you feel bad about it tell them to stock up on apple
Juice to heal their prostate pain in their 40s and 50s.
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The reason that we choose one woman over another is simply based upon how each individual woman treats the man. Of course, like Value Systems and the construct of Respect are the primary underpinnings of Choice. Because you Women are ready does NOT mean We men care too be married... In fact, you women can go play lesbian with one another until we are ready... not me but for many !!
So knowing this each man has their own little rule book and most rules are Self inclined: Across the board, whether high school or PhD/MD, Marriage consideration begins post education. During the 18-27 is great for SO, living together, and make-believe Family/House playing. .30 years old is an accurate starting date for you ladies to consider as an educated man Ready Date... We too have a Biological clock and by 35 it is maxed out and heading into Panic mode.
This is why fertile 18-24 year old Women like 30 plus, established, and focused men that have lived through the Societal immature 20s. If by chance a guy is 38 then he is in love with other things besides Family. Often, money, power, prestige, and less baggage are priorities... but a baby Momma hot Wifey for Political Office must be accomplished.
Obvious Factors: same political and religious viewpoint, how long your parents were married, your sexual, financial, familial, and general interactions, behaviors, and judgments. My children are GOING TO BE LIKE YOU !!! You might see Aptitude and Accomplishment but I see "crazy B or the Values that represent what we SHOULD believe.
Happy Hunting...
u Do you really want to marry a guy who had to be convinced, led, tricked, conned, persuaded, told, manipulated into proposing? If this is the right guy for you, and you are the right girl for him, why would any of that be necessary?
Maybe something about "forever" scares him. If he proposed to you, it will still scare him. Maybe he doesn't want to have children and the house in the suburbs; have you discussed it? Have you asked him how he feels about mariage?
Its not like I'm doing any of that. But I have a FEELING that he's gna propose any time soon or at least close to it. We've been dating for a couple of years now.
Perhaps your question was poorly worded but it sounds like you are looking for a way to get him to do this sooner than he wants to do it.
But it’s not like I’m forcing him to do this because I’m not ready for the proposal. Cus everyone around me is saying that someone is getting proposed.
The original question sounds different from what you are saying now.
That is the responsiblity of a man who is ready to make the ultimate step of committing the rest of his life to one woman. He has to KNOW He wants you in his life forever, He has to be READY to be a husband and he has to WANT the need of having you as his wife and him as your husband. It can't not be forced or rushed, you can't make anyone love you or commit to you.. it has to be mutual agreement on both sides.
The thing is... there's an age gap between us. We have kids already. But there's no ring. I'm in no rush of getting into an engagement because I'm still having the time of my life.
@Sailormoon95 How would being engaged stop you from continuing to have the time of your life?
Marriage in today’s society is very risky especially for the men.
That said if you love and respect the man you wish to marry and he love and respects you as well then it’s just about time. You see as a man you need to take so many things into consideration when it comes to marriage.
#1 do you truly love her?
#2 do you trust her 100%?
#3 can you afford the marriage?
#4 can you afford kids? Because if your getting married then you’ll probably end up with at least one or two children.
#5 is your job stable enough to support a family?
#6 is she a suitable wife/mother? Even if you don’t want kids it’s better to be safe
#7 is it the right time to propose? You can’t have a wedding near someone else’s wedding day and you can’t have a wedding before your mentally ready for commitment and you can’t have a wedding before certain about everything else on this list.
#8 would her family support this? It doesn’t matter if your both ready if your going to have to deal with crazy mother or father in law who constantly thinks your just trying to hurt their precious baby.
#9 would her friends or your friends support the marriage? Believe it or not a friend group can absolutely destroy a marriage.
#10 is SHE ready? Believe it or not women can be itching for a wedding ring and still be completely blindsided when they realize what they sighed up for.
Theirs more but I like having it rounded to 10 things.
Like any relationship for love to grow , especially marriage , You have to make each other Your number 1 priority , Remove selfishness and wear each other’s shoes before making decisions, most people do not know what that means and Then they wonder why their relationships don’t last and then they are back to square 1 , You have to understand that you can’t always be right and they are wrong , and understand that things won’t always be perfect , but you compromise and talk it out , resist temptation , just because you might think someone else is hot or a better person then your partner know that is a load of bullshit , value each other and compliment each other as much as possible , Let your partner know that you only have eyes for them. Don’t withhold intimacy and affection consistently, respect each other , Let them know you have their back like they should be having yours , Don’t choose friends or family over your partner , if your partner doesn’t like one of your friends then distant that friendship with that person , most people Don’t grasp that concept as well, if you want to hang out with friends don’t exclude your partner, not saying Thu have to hold
Your hand at all Times , but you have to consider
Them when it comes to decisions, if your friends invite you to go somewhere , involve Your partner , your partner should be your best friend , if your friends don’t like it , then they are not your friends , they are toxic friends that want to sabotage your relationship. Most people don’t want to hear this , because they are selfish you always have to wear your partners shoes before making decisions, if you can’t do that for your partner then don’t get married , stay single , It should be you and your partner Vs the world , a team. Cuz when push comes to shove your partner will be the only one that is standing by your side not your friends. No one said marriage is easy but you don’t have to make it hard ,
Don't complain to much about little unnecessary things. Don't be jealous all the time for no reason and be a actual wife like they used to be in the past. These days a lot of woman can barely cook or take care of themselves let alone for someone else.
Of course there are plenty of good wife's left but it decreasing fast.
The second thing most men don't like about marriage is the fact that 80-90% of the time the woman are the ones wanting a divorce. And once they get their divorce they will take half of the money and stuff a man worked his ass off for. That's why men are very hesitating these days to walk into this trap.
The way I see it has nothing to do with the money or stuff because she can take everything I really don't care about these things but I feel marriage is just a stupid signature on a paper to get the government involved into your love life. Marriage doesn't mean staying together forever anymore. Times changed and relationships break faster then they can build up. You see divorce everywhere around you.
Why should you hold on to this idea that you need to get a ring around your finger? To me it makes no sense because the love doesn't change when you sign that government document and neither are you guaranteed that your marriage will be there for the rest of your life because chances are much higher that it won't last forever
How about stop expecting it, if it's what he also wants then it'll happen when he's ready. The more you pressure him the less he'll be sure it's the right thing to do and the more he could question himself in the future. If you let him come to this decision on his own then he'll be more likely to feel good about his decision. You have to realize how much is really at stake for men when it comes to marriage. Since divorce is initiated by over 70% of women, he needs to consider the pros and cons. If you can show him that you really love him and are in it no matter what struggles you may face and you won't leave just because you're bored that'll help immensely. You also need to really think about if you are in it for everything that comes along with a lifetime partnership or if you are just excited about being a princess for one day at your wedding. Marriage is not going to be all sunshine and rainbows, and it's not all about being happy, it's about honoring your vows and getting through the bad times so you can enjoy the good times together. Whatever happens just know that he made his decision based on what he sees in you and you need to respect it, either way I truly wish you two the best.
Haha. You can make a guy want to put a ring on your finger. If he hasn’t done it, that means he isn’t ready yet. Either you have proven that you aren’t at that level he wants to see you be for him to lock everything down and give up everything else for the rest of his life. Got to be more than what he asked for to get it right when you want it. However, he might just not want to do that. Marriage doesn’t come on the one who is being chased time. It’s the chaser that decides that. One of the privileges of having to do 90% of the heavy lifting in the relationship.
Women have said that others should leave him if he doesn’t do it on her timeframe. Well, those are just proving why you worthy of a ring when you do that. Be patient, go with the flow, enjoy the moments you actually spend together without expecting a sequence of things to happen. Just like women tell men not to expect things to happen just because you are dating. Women can’t expect marriage just because you are dating. That’s the goal to work towards and if you impress him and meet all his criteria. Then you will get that ring you want.
Adding pressure to him will only make it worse. Pushing someone through a door will only have them want to push you back.
What helps is having him already feel emotionally connected to you and have him feel like he’s already engaged to you. That way he feels like it’s not much of a step forward and getting engaged will just feel like it’s a solid commitment to what he’s already been experiencing, if that makes sense.
What will help with that is, have his name added to the lease, buy a car with both of your names added to a title, have a joint bank account, he has met and adores your family and they love him, maybe be looking at houses, etc.
After all that go on a really nice relaxing vacation with him. Hire a photographer to take pictures of you two while you are there. He WILL eventually understand that there needs to be a more solid commitment than what you already have and he’ll already feel engaged anyway.
Firstly, I can't understand from your question if you're already in a relationship or not, but you should know that you don't have to compare yourself to anyone on at what age you should be finding the love of your life. Whatever is happening in your life at this age is okay. Get rid of that mentality because that will skew your judgement of actually finding a good partner for you because you will focus on being engaged too much.
Secondly, which guy? Because what makes one guy to put a ring on may be completely different from another guy.
Work on yourself to be your best version, get therapy if you have unresolved mental health issues, be a grown up... And because I can't understand from your question if you're taken or not, if you're single go out and actually meet people!
Also, there is no way to 'keep' someone. You can be the perfect wife by doing everything right and someone could still leave you. And it won't be your fault.
Also now that I feel like you already are in a relationship, again I'm not sure, if you want to get engaged, literally the only way to let him know is to tell him. Let him know that you feel ready to take things up a notch in your relationship, that you're ready to tie the know and want to spend the rest of your life with him. There is unfortunately no particular way of showing or proving that you are 'wife material' other than simply showing your effort towards the relationship and showing how much this really means to you.
Dropping some hints might help with suggestions about some plans to make once you are married. Its okay to be excited about engagement and marriage, but just try and make sure that he and you are on the same boat. If he isn't ready yet, wait a little longer but don't let him keep you hanging. Its just not that hard to get married and if after a while he still doesn't feel ready you should be a bit more vocal about what you want. Living in relationship purgatory is no fun, you should both be slowly moving towards something and helping each other along the way.
Funny how over here in this question she is already engaged and has that ring, from two guys no less.
Does he really love me this much enough to move closer to me? ↗
Nice catch, @PrettyPriya!
What's the rush? You're happy, ain't you?
The most important thing is love, respect, and happiness. If you have all 3, engagement will come just as an additional incentive.
Some guys like taking their time with the engagement part. It's not always a case of not wanting, more often than not it's about proposing when the time feels right.
Ok! Let’s get past the Disney fairytale lifestyle! Love, relationships, and marriages takes working through things. You both have met in the same place, emotionally and mentally. If your set in that state of harmony, then you’re doom to fail.
You can trick each into marriage, nor furthering the relationship. Maybe it’s best to back off, just to get a clearer understanding as to where you are!
Communicate what you need from each other, see if you’re comfortable going forward! Force = resistance!
Well it’s very simple the more you listen to what men want and need from a woman and do them or be them the faster he’ll marry you, plus marriage isn’t necessarily the first priority for all men, and I know that’s something females can’t get there heads around or will ever understand and refuse to understand because girls grew up and taught to get married all there lives, while boys or taught to provide, and fire the love of God, don’t rush the guy about marriage, because marriage is serious business for men I mean risky and the responsibility, so if anything should happens the man lose And the woman wins and giving up his freedom for the rest of his lives
why am I getting push notices in my account on questions from trolls? via priya has established complete with proof featuring another post from said user, its bogus as user has posted she woke up magically with a Diamond ring during surgery? stop sending me pushes for nonsense in my notifications
All you can do is try to be the kind of woman a man wants to marry and be with the rest of his life. Unfortunately, most women today really don't understand what men want in a wife.
Ask yourself what you bring to the table that other women don't. Put yourself in his shoes and try to see what would make him as a man think "she is truly special and worth me taking the risk that modern marriage poses to me as a man today". If you think it's just sex and companionship, or having a good job, you're missing the mark.
Honestly if he doesn’t naturally do it then there’s nothing anyone can do. I wouldn’t wanna have to get tips to make him wanna put a ring on my finger. He should just do it cause he f*cking loves me. But what do I know? I’m 27 and single. My phone is full of men who only want to fuck me and not even plan an actual date. I can’t even get out of the sex zone and I’ve been celibate for a year. Take my advice at your own risk 😸
I've been engaged once.
Make sure it's the right guy for you! Know him well enough to see if he COULD provide for a family and be the husband that you need him to be!
I made that mistake in the past. Hence, we are no longer engaged. I'm not sad. I am actually happy that I realized it. Better now, than 2 or more years after marriage!
That's cuz ur a poor Gold digger who lives off government assistance 😆😆😆😆😆😆
Oh gosh I need to show this too Fuentes my best bro 😆😆😆😆😆
Or ur lying Karen ur cherry was already POPPPED!!!
Guy deserve better lol
It's not true that it comes from heart, actually nothing to do with heart. This is a part where you and him have to be ready to be responsible for each other, if you think he's really ready for that you can propose yourself without giving any hints. But if you think he's not really ready just tell him that you're looking for something serious which you are not able to see in him.
Hope this helps
Last year, I proposed to my girlfriend and what made me do is the love, commitment, honesty, her modesty, caring, spiritual, and the wisdom that she kept consecutively throughout the years we been together which make her the One. I look forward and excited for are wedding day.
It has to come from his heart. And to want to commit for a lifetime. many guys today want their cake and eat it two with getting apiece of the pie and having you as a partner with no paper. You need to decide what type of guy you possibly have? Cozy cat in the corner or one who wants to have his bride meet him happily forever after at the alter?
It's a commitment for starters, that this is the one and only person you want to be with in your life casting aside all others and you want to be with this person through thick & thin, through sickness & health, poor or rich till you part from that person through death, can you do it with no regrets that's the question, do you see yourself being with this person and no others, if you can't make that choice then marriage isn't for you, keep living.
@Sailormoon95 This is actually not that difficult unfortunately I may never happen. If you're working off the belief that men spend their time and energy creating value in themselves all for the sole purpose of settling for one woman then it's going to be a lonely life for you. You're actually on the right track but I fear because like most women you're don't understand relationships from both sides you're not going to get this man to do this.
It’s been said by some people already here but let him know you would like to get engaged and don’t try to twist his arm on the matter.
Just let him know you would like that in a no pressure way and when he is ready should propose in good time.
at least you got there I haven't gotten to the stage of courting and dating.. nkt suitable partners to qualify for dating less more marriage. You don't rush love or marriage it's happens naturally
When he's ready. Not just emotionally, but in maturity. A real man knows marriage is a commitment. there's many responsibilities of a husband and future father that are very intimitdating if a man doesn't have his shit together.
Given he is mature and ready the following:
Respect
Attraction
Trust
Stability
Some girls simply know how to make you feel genuinely loved.
Hook yourself a dummy and slap him with an ultimatum. Smart men aren’t marrying anymore. The game is rigged against us. The only way to win is to not play.
If you want a guy to put a ring on your finger talk to him about marriage & tell him you’ll agree to signing a prenuptial agreement.
Loyalty, relationship based on love first n trust... supporting each other wether you agree or disagree, don't let anyone come between the 2 of us, make memories, no cheating,
I’m 25 still can’t get a guy to meet my parents. 😞 I need know secret how u get a guy to meet parents?
My parents has a family friend who was interested in me but I got scared because he wanted to marry me ever since I was a little girl. Thats how you know you got that right guy.
@Sailormoon95 Did you ever get over your fear? Or are you still afraid to explore a relationship with him?
Just prove yourself to be both wife material and motherly material.
Other than that, in a leap year, women are actually allowed to propose to men instead of waiting.
So those are your two options. Just be wife and mother material and wait for him to propose. If you feel he is taking too long, propose to him during a leap year. Then you will know exactly where his head is at. Don't waste your time waiting for too long
Someone whose genuine. Doesn’t matter if married or not. Just happy.
Most guys like waiting for some major life advancement, like a promotion, before asking for a woman’s hand
It's kind of sad, wish I could find a girl to place a ring on her finger
I take lot of car sharing in last 2 years i did around 600, mostly age between 23-40 and almost every one are divorced or lost on marriage, every one thinks marriage will last forever frankly speaking in reality there is 95% of chance you end up divorce
It's your ability to ensare them, and weave a "romantic cobweb".
Skills I wouldn't wish for anyone to have, but then, you asked it, and that's the answer.
"I've gotten to the stage of almost a newly engaged couple."
What do you mean? Can you expound on that? What is your relationship like? Can you describe it for us?
You can't force someone to marry if they aren't ready both emotionally and physically. Maybe talk about the future and you at least want and see if he shares the same goals.
You don’t feel like anything You just Want New jewelry.
Being worthy of it. If it's not happening for you it's one of two reason.
1. It's you
2. It's the type of men YOU'RE choosing and it's NOT going to happen with them.
Hope that helps. Good luck. 🙂
Good luck, hope for the best that’s all I can say.
The only reason we married is for insurance reasons. Make it practical
Don't force it! If he hasn't, he doesn't want, too.
Cook, clean, give good back rubs and tell him you want babies he just has to wife you.
50% of marriages end in divorce so stop thinking about how I get married and think can we stay married
In my case I can't afford a thing and I don't want a loan to get one. Also it'd be great if someone knew her ring size (nobody does, I asked).
In my case. Finding a woman who likes who you are without trying to change you. By the way sailor moon is awesome
A lack of judgment, poor impulse control, stupidity, and a lack of a sense of self-preservation.
: He loves you.
: Desires to settle down.
: Financial benefits.
: Start a family.
Does she like long walks on the beach, strawberries dipped in cream?
Understand how to emotionally fulfill him regardless of what it might be.
So you're lying and trolling? Seriously? Grow up. We know you already asked a question where you are already engaged.
Reported.
Literally just be nice, supportive, and pretty. All we care about
Move to somwhere with more fair marrital laws.
I'd say qn iron clad prenuptial would be a good start
Make him feel like there is no other woman in the world that can make him as happy as you!
The fact that you're important to him, if it's true.
Showing him you’re wife material basically, have to show him how caring you are and nurturing, every man wants that in a wife
Great friendship, love compatibly same goals. How many kids you want
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