Do guys looks not really matter as long as he’s decent?

[Anonymous]

I mean you always see the average guy who isn’t tall or rich dating a very sexy girl.

I agree a guys looks don’t matter as long as he’s decent

I disagree - I/girls need to feel more attracted

[WonderBell99]

When I was in high school, I almost always had a crush on some guy. There was this one guy, Samir, who was quite handsome. He went to the gym, worked out, had a great body, nice hair, charming smile etc. However, when I found out that he always wanted to be the center of attention and sort of had a sucky personality, I backed out. The guy who was so very attractive to me once, wasn’t so attractive to me anymore.

Yes, looks do matter. I would never date someone I was not attracted to, but if I was somewhat attracted to someone and got to know their personality and found out that I’m compatible with them, it would increase my attraction to them multi fold.

Listen, you do not have to be 6’0 or have a fat bank account to attract a genuine girl who will be into you for the right reasons. The right people will come along for WHO you ARE, not someone you portray yourself to be. You can buy a fancy car and break your bank account… but that is only going to attract gold diggers. Genuine women will not be fazed by superficial things. Financial stability is important, but it is more so about you being employed and being able to pay for your own stuff than being rich.

Looks attract me, personality makes me stay. I still need to find him attractive to be able to get to know him. Attractiveness is subjective.

[PrettyPriya]

No, they don't matter nearly as much as other things about the guy. Of course I will have to be attracted to him, but physical appearance is not the only thing I need to be attracted to.

Much higher on the list is personality, character, values, morals, etc, etc. I can go on and on about personality traits that matter way more than physical attributes. I often see height mentioned on this site as a determining factor. It isn't.

I want a guy that is a good person first and foremost. That is what I consider an attractive quality. I fell in love with my current partner for WHO he is, not all about what he looks like. I find him attractive, but beauty/handsomeness is subjective and not everyone will agree.

However, I think most will agree having a good personality and being a good person is very attractive. Here is the example I use. You can be the best looking guy on this planet (to me) and have a horrible personality. I will not date a guy like that, no matter his looks.

[_piotr]

What he looks like is also a part of who he is. Women just ignore it - the half of person they supposedly "love". That is why I envy women, you can be physically attractive to your partner and feel desired. Men do not have such luxury.

[WonderBell99]

@_piotr you do realize that women will not date someone they don’t find attractive either… right? just because you had a bad experience with dating (because you chose the wrong person) does not mean that every woman is at fault here.

[PrettyPriya]

@WonderBell99 Exactly. He completely ignored or missed what I said. "Of course I will have to be attracted to him, but physical appearance is not the only thing I need to be attracted to."

Literally the second sentence. Must have given up after the first. 😞

[_piotr]

@WonderBell99 It is not women's fault. Like it is not a shark's fault that it kills human, it's just its nature. The universe is just badly designed. The world is gynocentric. Men are second class citizens.

[WonderBell99]

@_piotr lmfao.. sure, go on buddy. I just find your replies hilarious.

[PrettyPriya]

I'm readying my tiny violin.

[_piotr]

@WonderBell99 "I just find your replies hilarious." Oh, I am sure you do. But i spent years studying how world elevates women over men. It would not be so funny if you were not part of the ruling class. Try at least to have some empathy...

[WonderBell99]

@_piotr That’s your problem, mate. Not mine. Plenty of men manage to find wonderful women to settle down with. If YOU’RE unable to find someone, maybe it’s time for a little self introspection. I have absolutely zero empathy for someone who tries to shift the blame onto women for all their shortcomings. Get out of this victim mentality.

[_piotr]

@WonderBell99 I do not blame women. I told you. Blame nature/universe design.

[WonderBell99]

@_piotr lol, that’s pitiful, but you get no pity or sympathy from me.

[_piotr]

@WonderBell99 I can live with that. Men are used to suffer. Good day to you.

[BJP21]

This can go both ways among the sexes. I had a girl that was beautiful and attractive, but her personality and character was absolute garbage.

[Guy13]

Need to be a 7 in both categories suggested. Looks and Personality/Character

[TheCleverOne]

For me, looks don't matter as long as the guy respects and loves me

[_piotr]

It's sad, but truth. Men can never feel physically desired by women, because girls ignore his body.

[boobliker]

yes male looks don't matter that much