Is a guy blocking me after I reject him is common? Or is it my fault?

[Anonymous]

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Do any of you girls went through this kind of situations where he blocked you or behaved with you rudely?

[DaveJord]

Yes, it's common. Honestly for me it depends on the women and circumstances.

I met or talked with a lot of women, who felt were honest, descent and good people. But for whatever reason it didn't work out and it fine. No stress or drama.

But then there are these bad girl types, that you just feel are leading you on. Sending mixed signals, trying to play hard to get. They act like they are not, or not aware of what they are honestly doing. Which I can accept, that maybe they are unaware or doing it unintentionally... but none the less I feel obligated to inform then of how their actions make me feel. How its not appreciated... and those type are ones that get passed, and usally end up blocking you.

They are also same types that can make themselves out as the victim within any scenario, always act like they did nothing wrong, act like they are ones that rejected him, and then say he got weird... when honestly the guy doesn't care who rejected who.

What these types of women never do, is take any responsibility for their contributions and actions, that donated failure of relationship. They never step back and say,

"yeah, I guess I was kind of a jerk to this guy. I did lead him on, and I did send mixed signals, so I guess I can see why he's kinda upset... because I totally lead him on."

[RangerBlue22]

When you turned him down did he insult you or get unreasonably angry? Nobody likes being rejected so seeing some negative reaction from someone is to be expected. However he called you names or threatened you that’s a different story.

It sound like he was just really liked you and is very disappointed but he will get over it. You didn’t do anything wrong rejecting him unless you yourself were rude. Also asking him to “just be friends” is a veiled insult to most men by the way. Not sure if you said that but I hope you didn’t.

Anyway if the shoe is on the other foot e. g. guy rejected a girl and she blocked him then would any guy get away with saying “oh I rejected this girl and she blocked me. Isn’t that rude?”

Nah of course not. He knows that seeing you on social media or whatever is going to be unpleasant for him. He doesn’t owe you any attention. None. Since you aren’t interested in him why waste time thinking about how he feels anyway. At least he is making it clear he doesn’t want to be an orbiter and that’s smart.

[Tina19]

Yes of course multiple times and guys in my country can't handle rejection well they will either beg to date and ask for a chance or become rude and block that's coping mechanism for them to deal with the pain of rejection so what you dealt with isn't uncommon at all he would not like to stay in touch with you which is understandable

[Vegasrunner]

@Tina19 I'm confused. If you rejected the guy, why wouldn't you want him to block you?

[Tina19]

I said he would not like to stay in touch which is understandable by understandable i mean he is hurt from the rejection now he wants to move on in life hence he will block that person what will he do by talking to someone who doesn't want to date him

[Tina19]

Now i realize i didn't answer last part of this question which was about who to be blamed for it i think it's nobody's fault here love emotions attraction just happens organically we can't force ourselves to like or unlike someone and sometimes two people don't feel the same kind of romantic liking towards eachother

[Vegasrunner]

@Tina19 From the outside looking in, it seems as if you're the one who is "hurt" rejection is a natural part of life and he did the only thing he could do after being rejected which is move on. It's not him asking this question on an anonymous forum, it's you. What I'm trying to understand is why do you even care. If you rejected him, isn't it a good thing that he blocks you and moves on?

[Tina19]

Oh my goodness i said when i block a person it's natural that they don't want to stay in touch with me because there is no point and why would i talk to someone whom i am not interested in and this question isn't asked by me but some other girl so i am just sharing that it's natural for her friend to block her ad he is hurt so he wants to move on

[Tina19]

THIS QUESTION WAS NOT ASKED BY ME GENTLEMAN SOME OTHER PERSON MADE THIS QUESTION I AM JUST COMMENTING OVER IT

[Asker]

@Vegasrunner I understand your opinion. I was just wondering if it's my fault when he behaves rudely with me just after rejecting him

[Vegasrunner]

@asker TY. It's seems like you're asking two separate questions. The post says "is it common" I can't speak to if it's common or not but to me I you reject him I would assume that the block you would be the natural thing. I don't understand why you wouldn't want him to block you. As for if it's your fault, I don't believe it's your fault if someone acts rudley for rejecting them but I don't think blocking you is rude.

[RangerBlue22]

@tina19 the QA didn’t give any other context about how this guy reacted except for her saying “he blocked me”. She provided no specific details on exactly how he was “rude”.

I read some of her other responses to other people. This is what she wrote to one guy “ Women should never approach a man first. It's a man's work to approach a woman first. Else, he doesn't deserve her”

Now to me she sounds like a spoiled entitled little B after she wrote that. Sounds to me she was 100% confident this guy would be okay the friéndzone and to her deluded dismay he actually respected himself and gave her no additional attention and why should he? Why should he stay at all connected with her? What makes her think that she deserves him as an orbiter?

She’s young so this is very stereotypical. But I’ve met grown ass women in their 30s who STILL are confident in friéndzoning guys. This entitlement some women have is just insane.

[Kori1236]

It’s a defence mechanism; and pretty common. Might just be to help him feel better so he doesn’t have to have contact. I’d rather be blocked than harassed for simply saying no

[Summeroflove]

Depends on how you rejected him. If he’s butt hurt because you were honest but nice and did not lie to him or string him along or anything. So that he can find someone who is into him



Then this is his problem. If you were a bitch to him. That’s another story.

[SteveSmith1985]

It's not uncommon, but it's certainly inappropriate. It's not your fault. What it tells you, is that you FOR SURE made the right decision in rejecting him. Guys who can't handle rejection appropriately are bad news. Every time.

[Anonymous]

Well, nobody likes rejection, just like how you don't want to be rejected from a job. When they don't hire you for the job, you get upset because you feel like you wasted your time. It's the same thing.

Men do it more because the man is expected to approach women. Women don't want to approach men, and to be frank, I understand why; it sucks. It sucks being the one who has to prove yourself to someone.

[Asker]

Women should never approach a man first. It's a man's work to approach a woman first. Else, he doesn't deserve her. I understand this point because if a woman approaches a guy first, he will start taking her for granted

[oh_k789]

"Women should never approach a man first. It's a man's work to approach a woman first."

It's a moron's work to be entitled, and want privilege?

[RangerBlue22]

“ Women should never approach a man first. It's a man's work to approach a woman first. Else, he doesn't deserve her. ”

Asker you just revealed a lot about yourself in that response. Seriously a lot. The fact you are young, female and likely attractive has given an incredible amount of privilege that you never know you have until it’s gone. It has very stereotypically made you very entitled.

At first I thought this guy might of acted immature on how he reacted. But now I understand your POV on things he was very smart to block you. I were likely rude and bitchy to him during the rejection. At least he saved himself some headache.

[SnowedIn]

It's not your fault. It's a defense mechanism. The guy shouldn't be rude to you, but I get blocking. Is it the nicest thing in the world? No. But rejection hurts. (Doesn't mean you shouldn't do it.) Blocking can be part of the process to deal with rejection.

[Datboi65]

If you reject him, why do you care? If that's his way of moving on, then respect his wishes and let him have his space. Nobody should be forced to see you everyday after knowing how you feel about them, just like you're not forced to be with anyone you don't like. Let the man live his life.

[Drumlin2001]

Why would he need to communicate with you or you communicate with him. He wanted something different to you, you rejected him, he's moved on.
Can't say I ever go as far as to block someone, but I did delete numbers after it was clear things weren't going to work out.

[melanieeeB]

It's common, most guys have a hurt ego after you reject them and then they go and show their ugly side lol
Just be glad, you dodged a bullet

[oh_k789]

They don't reach the point of women who will f-o-r-g-e-t they made a declaration of interest, when it's been turned down, and be shocked if someone reminds them of it.

[Anonymous]

Guys always are respectful to me after I reject them.

[Asker]

Great. Most of them are, but few of them are really defensive and revengeful

[Opinion Owner]

All of them are nice to me. I have never had a bad experience with a guy.

[Asker]

You might met good guys and that's good to know. There are some bad guys who also takes revenge on girls for not accepting their proposal and make a girl feel bad about herself

[Anonymous]

Yes, to both questions🤣

Either way, don't worry about it, so long as nothing you did was done maliciously. Guys can't cry, anger is the only acceptable emotion. You made your choice, now he gets to make his. Don't take it personal.

[peacesncream]

I don't know but he block u because u rejected him I don't think your it's your fault

[YourFavoriteFriend]

If you didn't do anything wrong then, it's not.

[FilmGuy93]

That's really more of a feminine behavior than male, but yes; it's common.

[MountAverage]

A lot of men get very easily butthurt, so I'd say it's pretty common.

[888theGreat]

Why do you even know? I mean why would you care?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is and I can't blame a guy for doing that.

[Dreamclouds]

Stop having an overinflated ego and get over it

[Shy_Steve]

It's definitely pretty common, What else do you expect him to do after you reject him?

[Asker]

I expected he would chase me more

[Shy_Steve]

No, Most of us Guys won't do that because we're usually not that Confident and don't want to be seen as doing something Creepy or weird, If you like him tell him otherwise he won't do anything.

[WhitneySnow]

Guys always do that. Not your fault.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This is common to happen.

[Papabubbles]

Why wouldn't he? You rejected him, most men don't like the friend zone.

[JesseJayNeak]

Becoming more common

[coolguy919]

What do you expect?

[Asker]

To chase me more continuously but it backfired

[panamared1]

He is butt hurt

[In_Trance]

not common enough