On online dating sites, do you ever look or message or ping someone that you find very unattractive just to brighten up their day?

[msc545]

I do this.

[NathanDavis]

hmm, no...

I never use online dating sites, but if I did... I would definitely do that

during school years, I used to engage and interact with many girls that were just not the most attractive, and some of them would see me being nice and attentive with them, with caution or distrust, or just confusion

"why are you talking with me, nobody talks with me ever... what are you up to"

and a few times, that got really awkward because they would assume or think that I was up to something, or leading them on, or mocking them or any other bad intentions but no, none of that... I just happened to interact with them like I did and would with many other

actually, I did the same with the most attractive girls too... was just engaging and interacting in the moment, with no intention of hitting on them or anything like that

while many other girls did not react like this, enough of them would react negatively to it and when they did, it was really awkward and not easy to clarify either... so I would assume that the same thing would happen online

if I ever went to an online DATING site... then I would just message people I had genuine intentions to date with because that is what people are hoping and expecting, dating... and not to get "emotional charity" and one that will also last minutes only

[CoolCatMar1]

That's sweet

[NathanDavis]

@CoolCatMar1 I try my best not to mess with people's feelings

because even when we have NO intentions to mess with them, sometimes, for them... it feels like we are messing with them, so I just am careful about these things

[CoolCatMar1]

I understand

[msc545]

I agree and I do the same. It is the kindest thing we can do.

[TheVigilantOne]

I went on a dating site once it was full of weirdos so I left, but no I wouldn’t want them to think that I liked them, that would be mean as they’d get their hopes up thinking ohh he likes me when I don’t.

[Januarie]

Well I don't care about looks but about personality. There are many people that isn't attractive at first but then you talk with them and find them irresistible.

[rienna888]

No, I don’t wanna give them false hope. But I’d reply to someone I don’t find attractive just to see if I like their personality

[coachTanthony]

No because that is the biggest complaint with online dating. When this happens people think they are bots.

[Chazmatazz269]

Hahahaha!!! No. That would only work on the willfully ignorant. Smart people recognize pity when they experience it. I don’t tend to underestimate people that way. I let them disappoint me before i assume they’re stoopid. Then i treat them that way only if i can’t avoid them. Avoiding people on the internet is easy.

[Price511]

This is called leading them on, and is typically considered a bad move from all perspectives. Not recommended, that’s for sure.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I please, don't! I only makes things worse. Especially if you are attractive and the person thinks that someone attractive likes them.

[lightbulb27]

that's nice, but no, only the ones I read a profile and thought was interesting.

[KrakenAttackin]

No, they get their egos stroked enough already.

[Anonymous]

Nope, if I am not interested in dating them then I swipe left.

[On_cloud_wine]

That’s horrible

[CoolCatMar1]

You really do?

[CoolCatMar1]

I never used such sites

[Jamie05rhs]

No. That would be cruel.

[Songomatic]

I ping myself to remind me of my ex :)

[sassy_receptor]

never have