Is being an average guy enough in the dating world?

Question

Or do average guys have to be more than just average

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Objectively, no one wants garbage/uselessness, in someone. Not women, not men.

However, not everyone needs to be a celebrity or millionaire to get someone. Men just need to be over six feet tall, look fairly good and have an athletic body (not overweight or "dad bods"), and have a f*ck-ton of ego/cockiness. That's all it takes to get a woman, although simple doesn't mean "easy" or "obtainable." Most men cannot help being short if they're under six feet tall, and getting an athletic body requires thousand of hours in the gym. Ego is also hard to get as well, and for some people, may be the hardest thing to achieve.

But no, worthlessness is not enough for a man in the dating world. "Useless guys have to be more than just useless." It wouldn't be enough for women either, but too many simps are propping up valueless women as being higher than their worth, calling 5s "8s and 9s" instead of what they truly are.

oddwaffle · Accepted Answer

More than average. According to statistics, most women prefer men who are better than themselves. Since men and women are roughly the same in life, you have to be much better than average.

Women also have this wild fantasy of a man having to be fit, 6 feet tall and makes at least 100k a year. This is about 1% of all the men.

Unlike women. Men are okay with a 7 or even a 6. Imagine if a guy have to find a 10 or bust. He would be single for a very long time.

Guy13 · Answer

We all have to be better than average. Who told you that’s ever changed⁉️ You are not good enough as you are ‼️ You didn’t deserve that trophy for second place or participation 🙄

coachTanthony · Answer

Nobody has to be average. Average is for the weak.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yup. If someone isn’t into you. Then simply move on. Don’t try to win her or impress her. Just leave her be.

Investigator · Answer

"Average" is a funny word. In common parlance, being average is like a cup of room-temperature water: it's neither too hot nor too cold, but it's also not "just right". It's...just. It "is", and that's fine in certain contexts, but not people and certainly when it comes to dating. A truly "average" person is less than a bother, they are not noteworthy, they don't command attention in any particular way and you'd be forgiven for not knowing they ever were.

In this way, being average might be good if one desires to go unnoticed, but not so good if the intent is to be seen. In this way, a guy who can only be described as "absolutely average" is completely inoffensive, standing out in no particular way. However, the flip side of guy being average is that he--whatever his particular sociocultural demographic might be--has the opportunity to start at "neutral": neither delighting nor repulsing people with his presence, so any actions taken either put him in the red or green, depending on how they are received.

While there are disadvantages to being "average" (such as having to put in effort to gain attention), just like how is it better to have an empty bank account than a negative balance, so too it is better to start at neutral than have to overcome some preconceived disposition and end at neutral.

dynamicyandere · Answer

If you mean “enough” as in JUST enough to attract an average girl. Sure.

But you don’t want your girl to think of you as simply “good enough”.

Because it means she’s settling, and would choose someone better if she had the option.

For example: I remember overhearing a female coworker of mine joking about how her boyfriend is “good enough” but admitting to how she checks out other guys.

If you want to start a relationship, you can be average.

But, if you want to keep a girl loyal to you, you need to create genuine burning desire, grow that fire, and keep that attraction.

And that takes more than just average.

You need to stand out to her and outshine others in your own unique way. So at least in HER eyes, she wouldn’t rather be with anyone else.

Qdbrown · Answer

Depends on the situation. It's not impossible for an average guy to score a girlfriend, but the deck is stacked against him with dating apps and more women chasing top tier guys.

These high status guys are taking advantage. They can see many women, even within the same night. Oddly many women assume all men are like these guys, and call them trash when they constantly get played.

Average guys are invisible to most women. And oddly the fat and ugly girls feel the deserve the better looking guys as well, so not good news for. average guys, and less than will likely never get to date or ever have sex, less they want to hire professionals.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think it depends if being average is the starting point or the view some one gets when looking at your life.

The difference is people that have the goal of living an average life, having an average job and don´t want to achieve anything special in love probably don´t have no goals of them own and could therefore be viewed as boring since they don´t show any ambition.

At the same time there are people that want to live an unique life that lasts and have goals to make a difference get to know things and are generally curious. They can be seen as average because they use the same methods and chose the same career paths as many other people while having an unique and showing off unique qualities.

Both are average but in different ways.

alexduriva · Answer

Depends on your definition of average. If it’s about looks, then no, girls like average looking guys, nerdy a bit, like in a big bang theory. On the other hand, if a guy has no willingness to achieve new horizons, become better, learn something new, and he’s average in his aspirations, then I find this unattractive.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know the answer to that. It's complicated.

But here's the thing - average is in the middle of the bell curve, and there will always be average, so the guys writing here that you should strive for more... is that realistic? You can have aspirations, and goals, and set out to achieve them, yes, but the majority of people will be average, and there also has to be a certain amount of acceptance for not being exceptional.

If people, in dating, dated similar, would there still be a problem?

Anonymous · Answer

Try to be authentic and unique. Stop limiting yourself. If you need more career opportunities, go to college. Don't take a class; you are already good. If you're a good writer and you take philosophy, college won't benefit you at all.

Challenge yourself. Take the hard maths for the logical thinking skills. Take public speaking classes for leadership skills and to build confidence to help run your business. Take a technology course to know what kind of technology you need to run your business. Coding classes if you want to run a business at home.

If college is not an option look into professional certification and training programs.

Anonymous · Answer

Bruh if I can pull a solid 10 the average guy can certainly get a average girl.
Guys who don’t get girls most likely have something to worry about other than looks. Fact is the way carry yourself is single-handedly the most important part of dating when it comes to being a man.

A guy who is a 4 or 5 who knows how to conduct himself will look like a 6 or 7 in the eyes of a woman. If you gain a mastery of presentation then theirs not much stopping you from getting a 10. The issue is most guys have no clue what it actually looks like to conduct yourself properly.

DoctorSex · Answer

Depends on where you're fishing.

For the life of me I have no clue why men in the west choose to suffer here when your wealth and expertise makes you prince charming to women in other parts of the world.

Be a Big fish in a small pond.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

Avishh · Answer

Looks do matter to most of the women, but at the same time if you’re born as an average looking guy that’s not something you can control. Most of the guys forget that looks is only one factor in dating. If you’re skinny or fat or broke or lazy or whatever on top of your average looks there’s a good chance no women is gonna show interest. You gotta make the most out of what you have. If you’re skinny go workout, if you’re broke work for it. Wear good clothes, stay hygienic. If you sit and feel bad about your bad looks no women will be interested.

Adaeva · Answer

Certainly being an average guy is enough for an average girl such as the following.

Lovelylady92 · Answer

Depends on what you mean by average. Looks wise, I don’t like anything too flashy. I like guys who work hard, have a lot of intelligence, are loyal/faithful, and have a great sense of humor. Finances should be reasonably in order so he can comfortably provide for a family, but he doesn’t need to be extremely rich or anything.

Jltakk · Answer

I think those immediately slapping a negative connotation to "average" don't quite grasp what average actually means and how enormous that scope really is. To answer OPs question, simply no. the dating world has become gamified and has lost any semblance of natural flow and courtship.

Anonymous · Answer

Average in terms of looks or in terms of life? If you look average, short-term casual dating might be harder. If your life is average, then long term serious dating could be more difficult. If you look average you should either go to the gym or work on your life. If your life is average, again, work on your life.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes we prefer average guys but guys don't believe that we do. Hot guys or whatever are a lot of maintenance and then you still don't get what you want. A lot of fun for a night or a week but that's about it.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

If you just look outside there are tons of average people in relationships. It's not like all these women are with 10/10 guys.

es20490446e · Answer

Most people are average not because they couldn't be EASILY better, but because their standards are way too low.

If they just made some small tweaks in their lives, their sex appeal will increase DRAMATICALLY.

cryscrys1 · Answer

Beautiful people turn average once they hit a certain age so it’s ok if you start as an average

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I dunno. Are you attracted to "average" women?

SphynxUK · Answer

Most people are average and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so just be you and that’s enough.

whorable · Answer

there’s definitely matches for you, people like average

4ngelic · Answer

to get average girls no. to get pretty ones yes

_Troian_ · Answer

Nah, everyone can reach to women these days.. there are thousands of guys who are just like you, u gotta be more interesting and high value than them to get some attention.

DizzyDesii · Answer

He can have an average body but his face should be cute

PinkRose24 · Answer

You have to have a good personality, good morals, and good looks.

dowser19 · Answer

Of course not. Why do you think the show Catfish now exists😎? Guys aren't stupid. They KNOW what the vast majority of females now will ONLY pay any courtesy to, let alone think of being in a relationship with🤣

Tina19 · Answer

I think average girls will definitely date average guys so of course

AsaKyo · Answer

It is to me  But even average guys turn me down cause' I'm ugly af lmao

Anonymous · Answer

Most people are average. Welcome to the real world and deal with it.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Even average girls are looking for men who can take them for a ride. Its called hypergamy.

Twalli · Answer

Average in every aspect, no. Average in some aspects, and above average in other aspects, yes.

kools234 · Answer

Average men don’t cut it in the dating world, you will be labeled as 97% of men out there, strive to be in the 3% percent

McKellar · Answer

I think that would depend on the woman's type.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone has watched too much of that pill propaganda on YouTube

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Depends on who they're going after.

sheenagwapa · Answer

attraction is subjective

Ironic_Method · Answer

I feel like I'm average and haven't had an issue.

tonamimargaux · Answer

Of course I love average guys

DiegoO · Answer

Yeah, most women's are also average, so...

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Not in my experience

Akam93 · Answer

Yes it is.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It is for me.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I want super heroes

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