I’m sure many people go after peopke when they are uncertain bc with all the advice on acting like you DO like someone when you don’t and acting like you DON’T like someone when you do, how can anyone really know for sure. Usually takes time 🤷🏻♀️ but I’m wondering how common it is for people to go after someone once they have been explicitly told NO. I’m not interested in a relationship.
I know I have said this many times and it was always taken as a game or worse, that I just don’t understand my own feelings 🙄 each time I said it I went it. There were times when I was uneasy but recognized i may want to try and I’m gonna have to go real slow, and this was very different from “ no absolutely not” and sone tones it was bc I didn’t want a relationship and wasn’t into the person.
Sometimes I very much liked the person but did not want a relationship. It’s really awkward to tell someone you don’t want a relationship when they don’t ask directly but Persue you anyhow and each time I had to wait until they said something or Reyes something out if respect bc I didn’t want to assume, so I really encourage people to be DIRECT. It saves everyone time & dignity.
I never became interested in a relationship based on the person changing my mind. It was based on when I had decided I don’t disapprove of being emotionally intimate with someone and for me that’s rare.
Anyhow, I’m my case people obit ever benefited being upfront. Inversely I’ve never had luck being upfront. It’s taken as a game or they play games, oh well. In my perfect universe everyone is direct and they get their kicks from fun stuff not d*cking people around. One can dream 🤷🏻♀️
