Is this good revange idea on a guy? I want to hurt him because he hurt me?

Question

A guy lied that he was in love and after we had sex, dumped me and said that he didn't like me physically and didn't care about me. And then ghosted.

He is on a website to make friends, I created a fake profile there, just to get more explanation, but I am talking to him since 3 weeks and he really likes talking to that girl (me) and wants to meet so I think it is occassion for a revange. What idea would be best:

- arrange a meeting and don't show up

- tell him the truth, that he was talking to me for 3 weeks

- stop talking to him and tell him (as that girl) the same rude things he said to me - I don't like you physically, I don't care about you.

Please advise or say if you have a better idea

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Honestly, revenge is not a good idea... all it will do is feed his ego. Because you have gone through all this effort to get revenge because you are still hanging on to your feelings for him. We will just think your a crazy woman and all you would of done is give him a story to tell and laugh over with his friends.

Because you where the women, "that he fucked so well and good that you could not get enough, and when broke up with you... you were so in love with him and could get over him that you when through all these trouble... and what a loser you are and thats why he broke up with you... because you were crazy and this revenge thing only proves it."

So honestly that's what is really happen here and the best you could do is sure set a date with him, try to make it somewhere special that will be little bite of a hassle for him and then ghost without showing up or ever revealing who you really are.

Try to get him to book a hotel or make reservations at a nice restaurant. Or weekend get away with him... then ghost him.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Revenge can be a very costly dessert, but if you must. . .

Ask your most attractive friend to help. Have her pretend to be the fake profile you created and she agrees to meet him somewhere. After about fifteen minutes of her saying how attractive and sexy he is, "obviously" wanting to have sex with him, you walk in, approach their table, and then she says to him, "we just set this up to teach you a lesson." And then you turn to the restaurant and loudly announce that you broke up wth him because he was a jerk and then you discovered he has a micropenis.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Arrange to meet him. Then when you know he's waiting, drop him a message saying you are sorry for the short notice but you can't make it

Continue to manipulate him then arrange to meet up with him again. Drop him a message when he's wating for you to say you've decided not to meet him becauase you're with another guy who you like much better.

Don't let on it's really you, because he won't feel hurt. He'll be able to rationalise it in his head that you're bitter and hurt so that's why you've taken revenge

If you so what I've suggested he'll feel played, manipulated and rejected by a girl online who he was hoping to use. It'll affect his ego and self-esteem.

Catarine · Accepted Answer

Well he is a total douchebag and I see why you would want a revenge but can you really be sure that he likes ''this girl''. He told you the same and he will want to do his usuall routine. I think it's best if you just ghost him, it's not too bad but he will wonder what he did or said wrong for some time. Do not tell him that it's you because you'll most likely just give him satisfaction not the other way around. I wish you all well, unjustice was done but it's best to leave and heal

AviatorTom · Answer

Revenge will not help you move on, it will only continue the bad memories of what he did to you. The best way to move on is to forget about him and find a good guy.

Summeroflove · Answer

No you shouldn’t get revenge on anyone though what he did was shitty. You also consented to having sex with him and it makes you just as bad.

TheVigilantFox · Answer

Why are women like this?

You both are to blame, he wanted sex you gave it, he left get over it,
True he didn’t have to say what he did but that is life, people lie to get what they want and he’s no different,

Trying to get revenge or making fake profiles is just ridiculous as it’s not going to get you anywhere in life,

People have been nasty to me in my life I just think they’re pathetic and move on, and believe me saying it’s you and not this girl you’re pretending to be isn’t going to hurt him it will just make you look insane, just forget about it and move on, if you meet anyone again be more careful and take your time.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

I know revenge really well I’m actually quite good at revenge but these scenarios just aren’t worth the kinds of drastic measures that I take. It takes a lot for me to make a revenge move but when I do, I can leave them disowned by friends and family for a while could be a couple months could be a few years.

I guess I could suggest something small and only a little bit petty. How about sending a message to his family telling them about how he just slept with you and threw you away when when he was done with you. If you can get evidence that he did this, then it would be even better. For this to work, though you need to be brutally honest while also painting him in the worst light possible. Believe me if you pull this off correctly his family might disown him and if not his whole family, it could definitely leave a divide, possibly even end in a few divorces.

Anonymous · Answer

I am sorry this experience happened to you, that a guy lied in order to have sex with you. What really confounds me especially for younger women who are with younger men is that most men but especially younger men are primarily driven by their hormones and desire for sex. I can't speculate the specific reason as to why he did what he did but to seek revenge is borderline if not pathetic itself. I can understand you wanting to reveal who you are to show him what he has lost out on but what exactly will it accomplish? Piss him off in the short term at best because there is always someone else who can give sex.

LEMN717 · Answer

After half the title I already felt that I had a 100 things to say. This is more of a very tough lesson learned for you, And something that you should use to grow your character not as a way to learn how to manipulate and hurt others just because you are hurt trust me down the road it doesn't help doesn't work just because one has Suffered an IN-Justice does not mean It is OK to commit an injustice. Getting revenge seems more like closure which will never get in this situation just use it to expand your wisdom sorry this happened to You. But the upshot is not everybody is horrible.

CubsterShura · Answer

I'd say make him wait a bit longer, postpone this meeting saying you had something important to do and definitely flirt and tease him while you're at it.

It's not my favorite thing to take revenge like this but if you're really gonna be petty make sure he learns his lesson well.

Pegases · Answer

Revenge won't make you feel better, you just think it will because you don't have it. What you need is a therapist, and some good friend and family to vent to. But heavy on the therapist, because the truth is we've all been done dirty by someone, even your ex. You gotta see everything is life is as lesson that you need to learn. Find the lesson, and move forward.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Most guys are going after 1 thing and that’s sex. You withhold that from him and never give him the opportunity sleep with you that’s the only revenge you have under your fingers. However, the ship has already sailed with this guy. I would recommend don’t stress yourself and move on for your own healing.

He only had 1 mission and received what he was looking for.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

None of these things are going to significantly discomfit this guy. And he isn’t going to be hurt by what you propose. I expect that you are just going to be more upset. The guy may be a jerk, but you weren’t going to get back at him by trying to give him the same feelings you have. He doesn’t have those feelings, and it’s not going to work.

The best advice I can give you is just forget about it. You are continuing to rub salt in your own wound. It isn’t worth it.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If you tell him it was you it was ill prove you are crazy because you cannot get over someone who doesn't want you anymore to the point you cyber stalk them by making account. He proved he is done ŕby getting what he wanted which was sex tgen telling you he is not physically attracted to you, dumping you and then ghosting you. You are wasting your time with someone who has put you out to the curb like you're trash to them.

Jim_F · Answer

Wanting to hurt someone for the reason you’ve stated is common among many people in your situation.

However, the mature response is for you to put it behind you, learn from the experience, and move on.

Twalli · Answer

Ask him about you. Find out what he'll tell someone else about a girl he tricked for sex. You may learn some interesting things. As for the act of revenge, I would recommend having him pay for something expensive for both of you, and then before he can find someone else, call and tell him you wanted to see how much he cared, but you will never go anywhere with a guy like him. Then tell him who you are.

bkcutie11 · Answer

I don't think its a good idea im sorry some guys and be such pathetic little boys. Someone mentioned feeding his ego. Thats true. Just be more careful next time.

Anonymous · Answer

Revenge? No
He sounds pathetic, why waste any effort on this. Why does his opinion even matter? Men always change their attitude after they jizz. He sounds like a hurtin piece of poo on the bottom of a boot. Take a break from guys. Do some inner healing. This guy and his type is lame. Lame lame

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

I got hurt to in that sense aswell but you know what, I grew out of of his insulting behavior and decided to forget about it, he can continue to act like a child if he wants its not my concern.

LadyKitty · Answer

Its not worth it and comes off as obsessive behavior. The best revenge you can get is living a happy and fulfillng life without him.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol if you're that petty you would agree to show up on a date. Meet him there. Don't let him see you and message him "don't like you physically, I don't care about you" and see his reaction in person.

GOOSEBOY78 · Answer

the juice ain't worth the squeeze. just let it go. lets put it this way: whats done is done.

SnowedIn · Answer

Just let it go. He is controlling your life.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I do have a better idea. Whatever you're planning, don't do it. Be more mature than that.

SphynxUK · Answer

He tells you he loves you so you automatically sleep with him? …. without knowing he just wants sex?

boggboss · Answer

If u want but it will more so piss him of and make him think your a crazy over hurt him

Iron_Man · Answer

Let it go revenge will eat you up. It’ll work on your mind and body for years and years tearing you down just let it go.

Anonymous · Answer

Revealing that its you would be a bad idea. He’ll consider you as crazy.

Arrange a meeting and ask him to stand at a landmark. Later at night tell him you saw him from a distance and you don’t wanna date weird looking guy lol.

RavVid · Answer

If you must I'd suggest do #1 followed by #3 afterwards and omit #2

JPresidente · Answer

Revenge is never a good thing. Always take the high road. Karma will catch up to them. If one of life's truth's.

exitseven · Answer

If you seek revenge you should dig two holes. One for the revenge and the other for you.

zagor · Answer

The best revenge is success. Don't do something petty like you mention. That will just let him know he got to you.

marish01 · Answer

Moral of the lesson Don't open your legs to random men.

-Mad- · Answer

You’re wasting your time because he is also trying to hurt the other girl (you) 😂

Staximus · Answer

Forget about him. Leave him in the past where he belongs.

OddBeMe · Answer

Sure or just tell him you’re pregnant and taking him to court.

noohair · Answer

I don't do revenge, I wait for the Karma to bite them hard.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Yes call him on a date and don't go. When he asks u tell him u don't like him physically so left without meeting him..

ginsbergjen710 · Answer

Why did you have s3x with a guy you hardly knew?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Why are you surprised he did that? It's what we do.

Anonymous · Answer

How about moving on and getting a life instead of wasting your time dwelling on the past?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Just take the L and move on honestly

tfan1 · Answer

Kick him in the crotch

Brando10222 · Answer

Go with the last option.

Nominal · Answer

Yes, you may should.

malwins · Answer

Lmao girl how dis it happem

Sabretooth · Answer

You don't wanna do this. It's a boomerang.

Anonymous · Answer

Revenge is for losers. 🤷‍♀️

Joker_ · Answer

revange 🤣

In_Trance · Answer

lame. move on

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