So I know this guy from work I use to see him good bit around my department than he transferred and I saw him over at his place and he asked for my #?

[Anonymous]

I happen to go work at his current place for two weeks and than I happen to see Him, the funny part is that we didn’t really talk much when he was at my current department we would chat here and there so It never even crossed my mind that he was interested enough to ask for my number! So i was walking and I happen to see him randomly he wanted my number I just gave it to him. He messaged me day later and mentioned that he has kids ( which I didn’t know and that his going through a divorce or currently divorced) that was through texting but what through me off is that he kept asking me if I can come see him over the weekend bc he works Monday through Friday and his over the weekend so if he don’t have kids he wants me to come to his place! I asked why he said to just talk and his willing to give me his full attention.. he even sended me his address when I really didn’t ask for it. Should I stay away from this guy?

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds like you are not comfortable with the speed that things are progressing given all the information that you found out about his life. You need to communicate that to him and tell him that you would like to take things slow.

Being introduced to children is a really big deal. I don't think he is thinking this trough real well. Once you are introduced, you are a part of their lives, however small it might be in the beginning.

I don't know if you necessarily have to stay away from this guy but rather slow down and take things at a pace that is more comfortable for you. There is no need to rush things, especially if kids are involved. Plenty of time to get to know each other and see if things click before you get involved in personal aspects of each other's lives. The important thing is to make this clear and give the reason why. If he cannot respect that, then yes, it is time to move on.

[Asker]

Yea he never mentioned about me meeting his kids just keeps saying I will have kids over today I can see you tomorrow but tomorrow for me might not work but today can but he has his kids so it’s like we can’t ever get together, it’s not that he wants me to come to his place when I don’t really exactly know him like that isn’t that wrong?

[PrettyPriya]

I think it is a little quick. If it were me, I would be wanting to meet up for a coffee, lunch or something that is more public for a first meetup/date. I would not feel comfortable at all going to a guy's house when I don't know much or really anything about him.

[Asker]

Imma just leave this guy alone

[PrettyPriya]

Honestly, that is not the worst course of action. I would be put off as well.

[Changiis07]

Yes I would be careful specially because he has kids and is going through a divorce he is not ready for a relationship but if you're willing to be open about him having kids and want to get to know him then that is up to you but I would be curious as to why he is getting a divorce

[Guy13]

Wow that’s stock 🏁 🏎 0-60 rate speed. I am naturally assertive and these events exceed anything that I would even do.
Seeing you and chatting 5 minutes is enough time for me to share my personal information and try to establish a dating relationship.

The rest of it falls somewhere on the Lovebombing to Creepy continuum.

[Avicenna]

Well, it’s not appropriate for him to ask you to meet at his home.

[Asker]

That’s what I’m thinking he should know better than that as if there is no other places to meet other than his house

[Iron_Man]

Way to much to fast

[Asker]

Sounds like he wants to lock me up in a basement huh

[Iron_Man]

No just wants sex