Should I give up on this guy?

Question

I work with him and we've been out on a few dates. He has admitted he isn't ready for a relationship. He's a closed book sort of person. So I never know how he feels about me. Sometimes I wonder if he sees other women, but when I asked he just said no. But my gut tells me he's lying 😕

I really like him, but confused about what to do

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well for starters "He has admitted he isn't ready for a relationship" to me that's a clear sign he's not interested. Why would you want to begin fighting an uphill battle to "win him"?

My attitude with women is like questionable food. "When in doubt throw it out". A partner is supposed to make you feel more secure not less. You do have to communicate. If i'm asking questions and she doesn't give me answers that satisfy me, or doesn't make feel more secure in relationship with her then I'm eventually just going to conclude she's really not fully in this relationship with me.

Now to be fair. If this a re-occurring theme (happens repeatedly with your relationships) then you have to consider whether YOU'RE the problem. Whether you are just picking emotionally unavailable men, or whether you have communication problems with partners.

I don't care how much I liked her, I'd move on.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So, if you have to ask this question then you probably should give up. I would say workplace relationships can be difficult so yeah, guys at work can unintentionally send mixed signals. But if you have been on a few dates already and you are unsure, then fuck this guy, he's a loser.

As my man @ManOnFire said yesterday... "Jesus does not speak in confusion." I guess it's in the bible somewhere, I would not know but I trust it is if he says it is.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

If you’re questioning it, leave it.

I’ve questioned a lot of male relationships and all I did was buy some of them time. With none of them romantically/ sexually.

Just as friends/ acquaintances.

You learn as you go. It’s just clearly not telling you it’s worth it.

Best to you sis

bkcutie11 · Accepted Answer

If your having sex he was just using you for sex. Last relationship, at least I thought it was a relationship, he 3 months in after getting laid evey night then he finally gained a conscience and told me he wasn't serious about me

ManOnFire · Answer

You should definitely not sit around trying to figure him out or see what can happen with him. My Take might help you. It's about after breakups but can still apply even when you meet someone

Pterodon · Answer

Yes you should. I’m not ready means “I’m not interested in you and never will be unless you just want to fuck”

LenaBanana · Answer

Folk sages say that if you question something, you will regret not listening to your intuition. This is a phrase I have always take it seriously in my life. People don't question for nothing, don't underestimate your feelings. I hope everything be nice for you.