I met this man some time ago, and felt like there was a “spark” when we were introduced, but we remained casual acquaintances for about a year. He then started pursuing me for sex out of the blue, and when I made it clear that I wanted to get to know him a bit better, he backed off. I boldly suggested hooking up after some time, but he turned me down flat, and things cooled off as I realised that I didn’t mean that much to him. He stayed in some sort of contact though. Several months later he reappeared with a “smoother” approach, calling me “special” and “beautiful”, and we started hanging out again. He contacts me from time to time, and our meetings are very sporadic, like once every 3 weeks or so. He used to kiss me hello and goodbye, and we made out heavily once, but that was as far as it went. Now we are in more frequent contact, but he has stopped initiating any kind of physical contact with me. The truth is that I want to initiate, but after being turned down last time, I am afraid to. I am very confused as to what he wants. He seems eager to meet me, and we have gotten a bit closer than mere acquaintances, but I am not sure if I have been friend-zoned or not… Last time we met, I invited him over for dinner, we had a great time but he didn’t so much as touch my arm. (by the way we are in our 40s.) Why would he stay in my life if I were only a casual hookup option? Could he be expecting me to do something this time, as he was the one doing most of the pursuing before? I feel that I was responsive to him though; it’s not as if I were acting cold and not giving anything back… Opinions welcome!
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There's no confusion, nothing has changed for him likely, he just kept trying (different ways is all). And, he's probably just as confused with you, as you have also given mixed signals. I suggest you either forget about him (no more contact) and move on, or you simply ask him what he wants and if anything has changed. And tell him what you want.
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Maybe you aren't being as responsive as you think, but that doesn't explain him turning you down to hook up. Just talk to him about it.
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Give up on him if you want to or take a break from him.
Sounds like he is afraid to make a move, so be bold and make a move on him. If he pushes you away, then its time to move on and forget about him.
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