So my boyfriend of 7yrs got a new job at Walmart and I have noticed a lot of weirdness. So.. basically two weeks in he texted me breaking up with me saying he wanted to be friends after texting me all day telling me he loved me etc sending me memes etc. then we got back together etc.. but like he’s treating me weird like spending no time with me, ignoring me, it’s like there’s a distance now it feels and when I went into Walmart it’s like there was some girl there walking around watching me was so odd. I just feel so alone and depressed. I don't know how someone can switch like that. I feel he's cheating or likes someone at work. What to do.
Ladieeeessss would you stick around?
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I totally feel your pain. Like, I've been in a similar situation before and it's just so frustrating and confusing. My ex did the same thing to me, where he would act all lovey-dovey one day and then completely ignore me the next. And then when we finally broke up, he tried to be friends and it was just so awkward.
But honestly, I think you might be right about him cheating or liking someone else at work. I mean, if he's treating you so differently and not spending any time with you, something's definitely up. And that girl at Walmart, that sounds super sketchy too. Like, why would she be watching you?
I know it's hard, but I would definitely talk to him about how you're feeling and what's been going on. You deserve to know the truth and you deserve to be treated with respect. And if he can't give you that, then it's better to just move on. Trust me, there are way better guys out there who will treat you right.
In the meantime, try to focus on yourself and do things that make you happy. Surround yourself with good friends and don't let this situation bring you down. You're amazing and you deserve the best. And honestly, if he can't see that, then he's not worth your time.
That’s the hard part I moved from Texas to Kansas and left all my friends and family and he’s controlling I have no one up here. I started school here and we’re on a lease together til may. I’m just so tired of feeling alone like I just wanna cry we been together 7yrs and this is all just so odd to me. I don’t know what’s the right step. I asked him if he was cheating or liked someone there he said no but of course he’s not gonna tell me if he is. But he’s all I love you but I don't know if we’ll work out and I told him well are you wanting to be with me and he’s all I don't know the relationship hasn’t been that great so I don't know
yeah, moving to a new place and leaving all your loved ones behind can be so overwhelming and lonely. And on top of that, dealing with a controlling boyfriend can make it even harder. I've been there before, when I moved to a new city for college and my boyfriend at the time would always check up on me and get mad if I hung out with other people. It's not a healthy situation and it's important to trust your gut and listen to your feelings.
It sounds like you're in a really tough spot with your boyfriend not being sure about the future of your relationship. It's hard to have those conversations, but it's better to know where you stand rather than living in uncertainty. Have you considered talking to a therapist or counselor about your feelings and the dynamics in your relationship?
Also, have you tried reaching out to people in your new community? It can be scary to put yourself out there, but making connections and friendships can make such a huge difference in feeling less alone. You never know, you might even meet some amazing people who will become like family to you. Just remember, you deserve to be in a healthy and happy relationship, and you deserve to have people in your life who care about you and make you feel loved.
Personally, this sounds like what I went through with my ex whom I had been with for 7 years.
The longer you stay with him the more miserable you will become.
They never go back after they change