Guys, Would you wait for me?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 female and lately I’ve been feeling so lonely. I know I’m young but I’ve only ever had one boyfriend and usually guys don’t approach me. I had a coworker who was a male which we were cool and he would tell me the guys at work would be all over me but none would ever talk to me. I’m not sure why I never get approached. My last relationship ended bad and I have trust issues so I kinda push people away from me. Whenever I do like a guy and they like me I try it out but I always come across the same thing. They just want to hook up with me. They’ll tell me they’re looking for the same thing and then boom when we’re on a date afterwards they’ll try to make it more. I don’t think I choose bad guys because it’s not one specific group of guys I’ve talked to. I talk to all kinds of guys nice one, sporty ones, more quiet guys. I don’t know why they want me that way when I literally don’t do anything seductive, I’ve gotten told I’m a pretty girl but still like it’s hard to date lol. I’ve only hooked up with one person ever which was my ex boyfriend and that was over a year ago. I’m not the type to just hookup with anyone. I like to get to know them first and then if things go good and we become official then I’d be open to hooking up. My friend told me it’s cause guys aren’t going to wait up for me to be ready. That guys are guys and if I don’t give them none they will get it elsewhere. To me that’s kinda sad cause then it’s like I’m only wanted for one thing and no one wants to get to know me, I’m more than just a pretty face. So I don’t know if maybe I do need to loosen up and just sleep with them or I don’t know. I don’t know why it’s hard for me to find guys lol. But then I know guys don’t like to have a girl who’s been with tons of guys so I’m not sure what to do.

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I just want to know where I’m going wrong

[DaySpring]

I'd wait, as I said.
Personally in my opinion, I think you shouldn't sleep with them right away.
You want a serious relationship right?
If they want that too they will have no issue in waiting just a tad bit longer.
That's what I believe.

You're not saying you want to wait until marriage and so any guy that refuses to wait for the relationship to be official probably is looking for a casual thing. I could be wrong in some cases but all logic points toward that in my opinion.

You want to know would they have stayed if you slept with them right away?
Like I said, I personally believe, if they wanted something serious they would be willing to wait just a little bit longer until the relationship was official.

What you're doing is totally reasonable and smart. Trust yourself.

[Asker]

Yea I guess you’re right, thank you this made me feel a lot better and gave me hope that there are nice guys out there who think of women more than just a hookup

[TheSpaceGnome]

You are doing nothing wrong aside from picking the wrong guys and questioning your initial judgment.

You're too young for me, and even if you had been closer to my age, I doubt we have much in common, but I'd wait for any girl I liked and was compatible with, and you should wait for a guy who will give you the time you need to figure him out.

[spartan55]

You need to make yourself more interesting than just a sex doll.

[Asker]

It’s not like I just advertise my looks. I get told I’m funny and stuff and I always think things are going good but then they want me to hookup with them and if I’m like it’s too early for it. They push me away.