Guys, How to ask someone to wait for me?

[Anonymous]

I am 20 years old and there's a man whom I think would make a great partner for me and vice-versa. We both have rocky pasts in terms of relationships and what we have is more stable. I really want to give this potential relationship a shot, but I am not ready. He is a bit older and has a house and everything else and I still live at home (super strict parents). I'm working super hard on moving out and buying my own car and my personal financial goals in general so I can have a good shot at things working out, but it seems it's going to take a lot longer than I thought. I thought about reaching out for financial help to since I'm still a student (can't get a loan), but I'm hyper independent, that would be a huge internal battle. So, I want to ask this man if he can wait for me to get my shit together. What's the best way to communicate that to a guy?

[DaveJord]

When two people meet and it is meant to be then they make it as easy as possible on each other to be together and find ways to address issues as a couple in a productive and meaningful way.

So it takes a lot of maturity to recognize this fact at 20 years old, and admit that you are not ready to do this. I would not ever ask anyone to wait, while I took time to work on myself. At the time if I knew I was not ready then I would take full advantage of the time I had to address what's needs to be address so that I could become the best version of myself possible.

Like I said if it is meant to be then in time it will be... so I would tell him this and take all the time I needed for my self first... but I would not ask him to wait for me.

[Pyrofox]

Just meet him in person and talk about where you want to see one another in the future. If you can't be immediately together. Talk about what you want to do in the future and consider getting like a promise ring, bracelet, etc. Ask him with passion and intensity to wait if he has to for you to become his perfect equal and if he starts getting nervous keep as much eye contact and make it clear that this is really is what you want.

[DarkWinterNights]

Do you have to wait? Or could you just take it slow while you accomplish your goals? Personally at this point I’m my life I wouldn’t mind waiting, but that’s only because I’ve nearly given up on relationships. If he is still still active in the dating market, you run the risk of him finding someone else and settling down.

[Anonymous]

If you think he is good enough, then you go with him NOW.
If you want to rack up cock before settling down, then you are not good enough for him.
A man who has his shit together isn’t going to wait for a flake to figure herself out. He will live his life and find other women and if you are lucky her will be single later in life and want to bother with you.

[HighValue]

Yes, this is most likely the case.

[GingerGuy]

Talk to him about how you feel about him. And a suggestion, rather than "wait", how about just take things really slow? In other words you can "start" the relationship now and let it build slowly. Nothing wrong with that. Actually better.

[baldsubhuman]

Sounds like you want to "find yourself"( we all know what that means) before going into a relationship with him.

[Avicenna]

Explain the situation to him like you did here. He may or may not agree to wait.

[IsoUser]

Good luck he's 16 your 24 and you honestly expect him to wait? As a teenager sex waits for No One. LMAo we are like bunnies at that Age.

[Dchrls78104]

Old English saying: "There's many a slip 'twixt the cup and the lip."

[one1wild00]

Tell him the truth and the whys and wherefores, Date him if you can considering the strict parents.

[Twalli]

Why not date while you're getting everything together?

[driven159]

The truth is always the best way