Girls, how long would you wait for a shy guy?

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Okay, there's this girl I've like for about a month and a half now. I have know idea if she realizes this or not. I've never actually spoken to her before. But let's just pretend somehow she finds out that I like her or she just notices my body language around her and thinks I like her or something like that. If you were this girl how long would you wait on me to make any kind of move?

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I work at a sorority house and she is one of the girls who lives there. I honestly don't even know what her name is. Two of my friends have a class with her but I'm so paranoid that I won't even ask them what her name is because I'm afraid they'll tell her I asked about her. I always see her for about two seconds everyday. Almost every time I see her she is talking to another girl. There have been about five different times when we were both alone together but I couldn't muster up and say something to her.

Ummm... There have been quite a few days when I've like pumped myself up and everything. I kept telling myself that I'm so ready to talk to her that day. Nothing was going to stop me. Nothing could get in my way. And then I'd never even see her the whole day.

I guess I actually have said something to her once. I accidentally bumped into her and I automatically said "excuse me." But I didn't even realize it was her until she looked up at me. I couldn't say anything else.

Most of the girls in the house always tell me that I'm cute because I blush REALLY easily. They always talk about me when I'm not around. But I really don't like being thought of like that. A bunch of them will flirt with me because they think it's funny how shy I'll get. I'm pretty sure this means a lot of them don't take me seriously. Maybe I'm just neurotic.

ThirtyThree · Accepted Answer

Well, here's some advice. Get to know her friends, or at least someone that you know spends time around her - someone in the same class, for instance. That gives you someone to talk with who may know more about her than you currently do. They might be able to give you clues or advice as to what she does - her interests - and if you still want to go through with it, you could try and match some of the things you do with some of the things she does.

Remember, confidence is hugely important. I can pretty much guarantee you she won't take an interest in you, especially if she doesn't even know who you are or know your name! The only thing to do, other than get to know her friends passively, is to talk with her. But you've got to find a way to do this that isn't strange or random, so finding out what she does or enjoys might be a good avenue to explore, then when you get the chance to talk - even for a moment - you might be able to have a conversation on common ground about your common interests. And from then on it's up to you to be genuine, interested, but not too persistent or 'stalker-ish'.

Good luck - hope this was insightful.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Good God man! Just talk to the girl! Does she like you? Probably not. Is she taken? Maybe. But you'll never get anywhere waiting for her to approach you. Will you succeed? Almost certainly not. But you'll SLOWLY start to get better at this so you'll suck less in the future and you'll finally bag a girl you like.

But start small today. Just start a conversation.

3ndlessdreamz · Accepted Answer

If I know the guy likes me and is too shy to talk to me, I'd go over and say hi. Not really because I'd like him that way, but just to be nice and take a chance to get to know each other more. In the mean time, I wouldn't wait for the guy or anything. I believe if a guy likes me enough, he'll make a move eventually but sometimes he may just need a little push. BUT if I don't even know the guy likes me, I don't think any sane human being would get out of their own way to do anything (well unless it's at a party or social event etc).

I think you should just smile at her EVERY TIME you see her or bump into her, and next time you "bump into her" don't just say "excuse me", say something like "Sorry I didn't realize it was you, I'm (name) by the way." and SMILE! Smiles do make you more approachable and believe me, smiling does wonders.

queenofpeen · Accepted Answer

If I like a guy and I KNOW he likes me but is too shy to approach me, I'd just approach him myself. I have a few guy friends who are quite similar to you, so I understand that it would probably be a relief to him if I initiated a conversation myself.

But suppose I didn't approach him. If I knew he liked me, I would be pretty patient waiting for him to make a move. Some girls aren't, though...

The thing is, she probably doesn't know you're interested. If you don't talk to her, how CAN she know? Just keep pumping yourself up EVERY day, haha. Thus the chances of seeing her on a confident day are 100%. :P

I don't know if this helps, but know that it makes most girls really happy to find out a cute guy has a crush on them. It would probably make her day.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you've never talked to her, then there's nothing for her to wait on? Her being able to tell you like her and liking you back without even speaking is highly unlikely. Girls don't usually develop crushes on a guy she's never spoken to before anyway. We're attracted a lot to his personality, while you seem to be more interested in her looks. My guess is she has no idea, and will never know unless  you make a move. You have this whole story playing in your head that she knows exactly what's going on and she probably doesn't. This whole game is in your head only. She won't wait because she doesn't have anything to wait on.

Anonymous · Answer

When I started hanging out with my fiancé it took me like two months to get him to talk to me, really talk to me anyway. I barely knew him when I met him. He asked me out and we went from there. If you haven't made a move yet I'd say go for it. She might not wait for much longer if you don't say anything to her. Some girls love to talk. If you were talk to her just ask her about herself and she just may do all the talking. At least putting forth the effort will be noticed :). Hopefully that helps. If its a mutual thing I'd  give it a few and move on if nothing were done.

eyre123 · Answer

I've liked this guy for almost 5 months now... I think we both like each other.

I think our attraction for each other grown stronger over the course of the past few months... It's like this steady build up. I didn't say anything, but tried to flirt and stuff. I think we just began to like each other more and more, even though we started out as friends... now, though, I'm about to ask him out... lol -- I like him a lot and don't want to wait another day not telling him how I feel...

I don't want to live with any "what ifs" -- the worst thing she can say is that she doesn't like you and you can move on and find someone who loves and appreciates you. =)

jujubeetzzz · Answer

guys don't understand...asking a girl out is HELLA easy. just do it. there's no social problems with you asking out any girl.

on the other hand there's a negative social connotation for a girl asking a guy out. I know its harder when you really like a person and would be heartbroken with rejection...but just try to think she's not so important for a bit and just do it. it will be tough but you'll survive despite the outcome

Heeheehee · Answer

If I'm that girl and I really like you, I'd wait for you... til another guys catches my attention. So I'd say don't delay and make a move NOW! You don't want those "ifs" to bother you all your life wondering what could have been if you'd make a move sooner. ONe second might be too late, hun.

Firework344 · Answer

I don't know if she likes you or not, and I know you may feel shy but try striking up a conversation with this girl.  Confidence is hot!  Take a few deep breaths and you'll be fine.  And if I were this girl I don't how much longer I'd wait.  Depends on the guy and if he was worth my time, if he has a nice personality, good looking and sweet, I'd wait around for awhile.  But again try talking to her, "its better to say you tried and failed then to never have tried at all."

Anonymous · Answer

i would only wait like maybe a month to be honest. a lot of girls do like shy guys but after a while they would want them do make a move or something and you need to make some effort to make a move because then how else would she know you do like her and its not just a cute little flirting thing.

good luck :)

-ALPHA- · Answer

you are scared they will tell her you asked for her name? even if she does somehow like you which is 99,99% unlikely, dude you're afraid of girls like they bite? And you get shy and blush when some girls flirt with you, seriously? why?

ConfusedLoveSeeking · Answer

I would wait like 2 months tops! unless things occur by that time, that would give me a reason to wait longer. :) Good luck!

XxLoveFacesxX · Answer

if I really liked him..i would wait for however long it takes (:

Anonymous · Answer

There is too much fear in you, to let anything happen. She can wait from now until Doomsday and it won't be a bit of difference.

justplayin · Answer

if he doesn't start talking to me within a month or two... I just forget about him slowy.

Anonymous · Answer

just depends once you start talking and flirting with her a month maybe 2 (waited 6 months on a guy bad mistake never again) but if your not flirting yet or anything then wait as long as you please

wizzarded · Answer

I got a question for you.  why do so many 14 year olds claim to be so much older on here?

michigangirl523 · Answer

If you never started anything the clock hasn't started yet, but if you wait to long someone else may step up and ask her out. Are you okay with that and can you wait till she's free again?

michigangirl523 · Answer

She can't read your mind! If you really want a chance you need to do something to make her notice you, smile, nod and speak as you walk by...

L_loves_sweets · Answer

I guess I'd want to see how you really act around me but if after 3-2 months you're still not doing anything I'd probably move on.

udolipixie · Answer

Depends on how attractive he is

Anonymous · Answer

I find this question difficult to masturbate to.

KrazahKitteh · Answer

I'D WAIT FOREVER! ;D

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