Shy guy taking to long to approach a girl out?

[wanabkool]

Say you liked a guy and you have been trading glances at each other, and showing other signs of interest. He has been to shy to make a move and it has been a couple of weeks now. Would you still be interested in the guy if he came up to you now? Even though he took so long and you were starting to lose interest? Just asking because I wanted to talk to a girl I fancy and I'm in the situation.

[lauren01234]

Ok whoever hit the down arrow on the other responses is dumb because they don't deserve that. There was a guy who lived in my dorm last year and we'd see each other everywhere and he ALWAYS stared at me. Like he would literally zone out of conversations with his friends if I was walking by lol. We made eye contact all the time but I was always too scared to say anything to him and he never talked to me. One year later now and I don't see him as often but when I do he still gets a glazed over look in his eyes and still stares at me like he's in awe. Anyways, even though it's been a year, if he came up to me now I'd definitely still be interested and would go on a date with him in a heart beat. So I really think you should go and talk to her. And to the guy who said girls don't give shy guys a chance...that's not true. The problem is that most girls (I'll admit to doing this too) have this notion in their head that the guy has to do everything...including making the first move. A lot of girls don't like making the first move and because of this we think "oh if he was really interested then he'd say something to me"...so yeah I'd say go talk to her :)

[kmac000]

Go talk to him! Sounds like you have a thing for him and you shouldn't let an old-fashioned tradition stop you from dating the guy you might marry :) ha ha not saying you're going to marry him or anything...but you get the point! :P

[DaniJ]

Me? Yes, since I'm shy too. Girls tend to hold on to emotions a lot more than guys do (since our brains hook emotions up with everything...), which is also why girls tend to hold grudges more...

Anyway, if she's shy, and she liked you then, she probably is in the same boat as you, trying to find the best way to make a move. Even if she isn't shy, it is unlikely that she would just stop liking you after a few weeks... The only ways I can see that happening are if she didn't like you in the first place because you misread her signals, or because she's the type of girl that moves on quickly... (the female equivalent to a womanizer.)

So basically, go for it :) The worst that can happen is she'll say no, in which case, she's not the type of girl you should be going for anyway, you know? You don't want someone who will forget about you when someone better comes along.

[toulouse]

@I'm shy too. Girls tend to hold on to emotions a lot more than guys do (since our brains hook emotions up with everything...), which is also why girls tend to hold grudges more

theres no 'objective' proof of this. this is how you feel- its your believe.

how many women men do you know, personally,who fit into your belief. how many women & men do you know, period. compare that to how many people exist in the world, coupled with fact people lie, in conjunction with extreme bias. you have a belief.

[windy-rose]

A couple weeks really isn't that long if she's interested and you see her around often. Heck, depending on the girl, some kind of interest could be there for months.

Go talk to her! These things can always be re-kindled/ strengthened by bonding a bit more than sidelong glances :D

Cheerin' for ya!

[siquetumeamaste]

I think she would still be interested, as long as she continues to glance at you. She is probably just wondering why you haven't done anything yet. I'm sure nothing bad will happen if you talk to her :)

[toulouse]

id have asked him out by now. and if I didnt, its because, , I'm not ready so no, I don't mind waiting.

[toulouse]

whats the problem that id actually do something, are that id have no problem waiting. how can you have a problem with both sides.

[Anonymous]

Yes I would still be intersted if I liked him. Some guys are worth the wait. I like a shy guy at the mo and I'm waiting for him to make a move. Ill wait as long as it takes.

[Anonymous]

I'd say that she'd be kinda confused why you haven't approached her, but if you approach her now, she'll just be happy that you did. Time won't really matter once you've actually taken up the courage to talk to her first. As long as you show her you're still interested, she'll definitely like you still. Go talk to this girl soon though! You don't want her thinking you've lost interest or are too shy to do anything.

[MikeK]

Gotta strike while the iron's hot!

[shootingstar007]

I agree with Lauren01234 100% approach her :)