Does my boyfriend like this girl?

[victoriaxoxo]

I wrote about this situation in my previous postBut I wanted to add some more detail as the situation evolved since then. Long story short my boyfriend has a friend who is a girl who he pursued a long time ago but she curved him. I met up with her and him on a night out and I had to witness her flirt with my boyfriend and every guy in sight. Whilst I don't think my boyfriend directly flirted back, he did spend enough of the night staring at her. Here are a couple of other random things he's done that makes me wonder whether he has a crush on her:

• He always amends plans to fit her. Whilst he complains about her being hard to please, he still let's her call the shots.
• On Halloween when he found out she might not have a costume, he bought her kitty ears and some face paint without her even asking.
• He calls her a bitch when he's talking to me and acts as if he finds her annoying but I can't help but think this is just repressed sexual tension.
• When I speculated why she flirted with him on that night out, I said 'perhaps she does find you attractive and now that you have a girlfriend she feels competition or maybe she was in a weird mood or..' and responded with 'you really think she could like me?'
• When I joked about who her next boyfriend could be my boyfriend said 'no she wouldn't date him, she only likes black guys' (my boyfriend is white). He mentions this a lot, as if he takes offence at the fact that she likes black guys because he's not black.
• When we speculated that she might be hooking up with one of their other friends, he was way too curious and kept asking 'you really think they could be hooking up?' whilst biting his nails and shaking his leg.
• When me and him started dating, one of the first people he messaged was her and it went something like this: him: 'how are you anyway? How is it going with your boyfriend, you still together?' her: 'urm yh it's all good!' him: 'I'm back with my ex lol'

Does he like her?

[Finchie40]

Yea he likes her and it’s total disrespectful to you and your relationship , something you should really reconsider being with someone like that , How would he feel if you had a male so called friend that you had tag along with ya’s? I don’t think he would be to fond of that what so ever , it’s like he is using you to try to make her jealous and the whole she only likes black guys is a bullshit excuse , he will constantly tell you nothing is going on between them but the second he gets the opportunity to I don’t think he he will hesitate , never fall for shit like this , when a guy really likes a girl he doesn’t invite other girls to come around out of respect for his relationship

[victoriaxoxo]

One thing that does confuse me is that he was the one who brought it up that he asked her out some years ago and he said he's happy to cut her off if it bothers me at all. This was before we all met up.

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like he is weighing his options and trying to make her jealous , you are best to move on , Most people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone , what he is doing is selfish on his part and when reality kicks him in the fucking face he will realize how much of a POS he was , Do not take him back

[Anonymous]

Does a bear shit in the woods and wipe his ass w a rabbit? Lol The answer is Yes w a capital “Y.” He likes her. I have to ask though how do you know she was flirting w every dude? Because they all got along and we’re laughing? I mean cause I get along w a lot of females and we joke and laugh and my co-workers will think I’m flirting. Like no she’s just easy to get along w, she doesn’t irritate me the way a lot of other women do. So in what way was she flirting? Touching them? Playing w her hair? Etc? Just wanted to ask. But yes he likes her. He calls her a bitch to try to throw you off to make you think he doesn’t like her. For example there’s this girl on news that I like, very hot blond but I will say something like man can’t stand her, her voice is irritating. My girl will say something like I know what you mean. But in reality I’d love to rail the phuk out of her lol sounds as though she’s his number one, not you especially if he’s changing plans to fit her life.

[victoriaxoxo]

Well she made a lot of eye contact and stood close to him and twirled her hair and kept a very soft voice. She did that to other guys too but mostly to him. He didn't flirt back but he didn't shut her down either. For example, at one point she pretended to stumble and fell towards him but not only did he not catch her but he let her fall by moving out of the way. But then another time she went up to him and stood less than a meter away and said 'is this wine good ;)' and he said 'yh yh it's good' without moving back or breaking eye contact.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m almost sure he likes her. He may have just playing it down because you were around to see his actions.

[Pleebody21]

Obviously he like her but does he like her "sexually"? I had a girl I asked out and although though the potential was there we chose not to have sex. She remained one of my really good friends coming up to my apartment when she was sick so I could take care of her and her driving 90 miles on Christmas with a little tree as I was along. We3 slept in the same bed when I or she visited but didn't cross that line. My girlfriends at the time didn't seem to mind but really don't know now that you bring it up. It is possible to have a sexually close relationship whithout sex. Not sure about your boyfriend

[boggboss]

Pretty clearly u are a pawn if she offered him anything he wpuld leave u for her

[victoriaxoxo]

Well I would say so as well but now that she's done what she's done, I told him I'm not comfortable with her and he's blocked her and doesn't hang out with her anymore.

[boggboss]

Yet you had to tell him and he didn't know his behaviour was wrong again this relationship ain't lasting long

[Guardian45]

Yup, it seems pretty obvious he has something for her. The Q is are you going to put up with it or force him to choose?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes he likes her. Question why is he always hanging out with her when he has you

[Jennz6]

Maybe? But I am not really sure.