I connected with a young woman in her early 20s back in July on a dating app. I know for fact she’s real (we video chatted once) & she’s local. Her story is very consistent.
It was atypical sex/hook up talk in the beginning. I was bored & it was entertaining for a while. She said she was “very interested” in meeting up but I didn’t hold my breath.
Anyway I gave up on her after she didn’t respond to my texts for a while. I sent her a farewell message about 2 months ago but also said she could hmu if she ever changed her mind. I deleted her number.
She reached out to last week and I didn’t recognize the number. But after some prodding she told me who it was. In a way I was glad she saw I have the self respect to walk away if she went dark. She has been very responsive to my messages ever since.
Anyway she’s very beautiful but claims she is afraid of people and never had a boyfriend. Also claims she’s is a virgin. I didn’t believe any of that of first but her story has been consistent. She’s never asked for money or some other bs. I think she’s got some sort of reclusive mental condition but really wants to get out of her shell.
Anyway I admit my initial interest was mostly sexual. I flat out tactfully admitted that (without making dirty comments) to her on the dating app but surprisingly she texted me when I gave her my number. She’s a local number.
Ever since we started chatting again I have developed a genuine curiosity about her way beyond sex. I was rather reclusive & introverted in my youth. I can relate to how she feels. I actually enjoy helping people improve.
However I am NOT interested in being some virtual sexting/support buddy for the long term future. I get it she’s nervous & shy about meeting a man online. But she’s also very curious too.
How can I make her feel safe & establish a connection beyond texting? She doesn’t like to go out to public places. But inviting her to my place is scary for her (yet she shows moments of extreme interest in sex).
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This sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.
I guess you can say that. But I haven’t come across an opportunity like this in a very long time. I’m no college kid either so it’s rare to come across this.
It’s no guarantee. But I got to admit it’s brightened my day a bit with the excitement. Haven’t felt this kind of rush in years.
That definitely has some value but what happens to your heart when she realize you are 70 when she's 35...
I expect nothing long term to come from this. I was honest from the start.
Anyway I haven’t lied or misled her about anything. Didn’t tell her I was rich or some other nonsense. She knows my age and what I look like. I’ve been in age gap flings before.
Anyway it’s got to be all her choice. I can’t nor shouldn’t “force” anything. But from what I’m gathering she literally wants a man to force her choices because she’s too nervous/timid.
She also claims I’m the only she is chatting with. I take that with a grain of salt. But again she has been consistent otherwise. Younger women usually aren’t as experienced at lying anyway.
Yep been on the other end but what 19-22 year old wouldn’t think a 43 year old nurse from the hospital you worked at won’t a good Find…. Little different maybe 🤷🏻♂️
Whoa man. What are you insinuating? I’m not like that at all. No and fuck no. Hell no.
The ball is completely in this girl’s court on almost all of this. I have zero leeway to “pursue her” and know damn well what I will look like if I do. I did delete her number and she still reached out to me though.
Anyway it’s a real long shot anyway and I know that. But having a beautiful young girl give you some positive attention did boost my self esteem a bit. It would boost your’s too if you were in this scenario.
She may have changed, your concern should be that if she has not that you’ll quickly outgrow her.
All the best.
Bring her out of it
It’s like seducing a cat. Lots of push and pull. Takes patience.
I haven’t met a girl this hot that I have a chance with since college. But got to stay self disciplined not to screw it up. It’s tough.
Go for it get it done
Yep. Well she will either come over and do it OR go away. But we both know how friéndzone bs works. I won’t stick around forever.
But there haven’t been any holes in her story so far.
you have to see it theough
Just don’t know the right moment to give her the ultimatum to come over. I am not going to message her first this week. But when she reaches out to me I’ll make a move and tell her to come over.
Good luck to you
thanks. Not everyday I come across something like this.
Yes fight hard
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