What are the pros and cons of being with or dating someone who doesn't like sex?

[Anonymous]

[Screenwriter]

I can't think of a single pro attached to someone who doesn't like sex unless YOU don't like sex either. Then you're made for each other.

Otherwise, if you want to have a relatively normal sex life, being with someone who doesn't like sex, and I find that extremely odd, is nothing BUT negative.

Either the person has an incredibly low sex drive or has suffered a serious trauma associated with sexuality. In either or both cases, this person has work to do to solve their problem. Sex is a great gift made to be shared and is part of an adult, intimate relationship.

Without it, you have a platonic friendship. There are folk who choose to live like this. I wouldn't.

[godfatherfan]

Well said

[msmissydc]

Pro for someone who likes sex: We have more in common. We can have sex without me feeling guilty that I want to have sex. Liking sex leads to trying more things during sex. You allways have someone to have sex with.

Pro for someone who doesn't like sex: They probably have it harder finding a partner that accepts them and if you can that could mean a lot to them. Sadly nothing I really want. Not having sex though, does have advantages, like no risk for stds and not having to worry about birth controle.

[OfMiceandMen]

PRO - Relationships can sometimes operate at a much higher level without the sexual component. Dating and relationships are 95% scheduling, conversing, cuddling, enjoying activities together, showing your appreciation for each other - the building blocks of friendships and long lasting relationships. Whereas, the sexual component constitutes a much smaller percentage of your overall time spent together. A couple may be fine with little to no sex because they are satisfied with the other 95% of the relationship, outside the bedroom. That is why some newly dating couples prefer to abstain from sex to be sure they are more compatible and not allow sex to cloud their mind.

CON - One has to be careful not to jump to the conclusion their partner doesn't like sex (or has a low sex drive) when dating because the person may simply need the remaining 95% of the relationship to be in-check to stimulate their sexuality. Some people can't get their motor running as easily as others, so this can be misconstrued as not liking sex. For example, some people like make-up sex in a relationship and can turn on a dime, however to some, it is a major turn-off due to the disconnect in the relationship and the furthest thing from their mind.

CON- Unfortunately the lack of sex can lead to the person in the relationship not being satisfied, looking to be satisfied elsewhere.

[Zbrody1997]

Pros: it’s not sex based and your loved for who you are
Cons: some people need sexual intimacy to feel desired and is necessary for a healthy loving relationship I feel asexual people are better suited for eachother unless both partners needs can be met otherwise

[SexyRedd1966]

There is no Pros there for me because I wouldn't date someone who didn't like sex cuz that's very important to me

[Berethor]

There is a pro, she less likely to be a ho, but if she still have a ho past then there is no pro.

[CateM]

Pro: They won't cheat

Con: They won't have sex with you

[loveslongnails]

I wouldn't know because I wouldn't date them!

[Nikki1989]

I guess they won't cheat on you, but I would rather take that risk than have no sex life.

[TacosRAwesome]

Pros - you're always able to walk

Cons - what's their point?

[cheetocandle]

F that. No thanks. A dude who doesn't like sex has issues.

[Anonymous]

That’s just a friend or roommate, if they don’t like sex then you’ll never really be that intimate with them, the only pro I can see from this is that you won’t get any STDs

[Anonymous]

There is zero point in a guy being with a female who doesn’t put out.

[OfDeath]

There are only cons