Refering to girls who have had boyfriends or have hooked up as “leftover”?

[JVM1939]

When I talk with some male relatives of mine, and the topic of girls comes up, some of them refer to girls that have had many boyfriends or sexual encounters as “leftovers”. For example, a couple of days ago my brother was telling me the time when he hooked up with a certain girl, and weeks later a friend of his hooked up with the same girl, and my brother told me that he would never date or have sex with the “leftovers” of a friend of his.
What do guys and girls think about this? Guys, would you date a girl who was the girlfriend of an acquaintance of yours? Girls, how do you feel about being called this way?

[Anonymous]

It's a negative phrasing but personally I have zero interest in women that have taken part in hookup culture. The problem is a lot of guys will sleep around with the same girls they label as 'left over' but they will then talk about how they won't date or marry them.

But If you are a valuable man, you will look at the value of any woman on all levels and that means her past, present, behavior, how she treats others, how she treats her own body, family, how she treats sex, how she views her sexual power and feminine energy and much more. I can guarantee that this will never change and men will either do it silently or make noise about doing so. But most will always do it, even if they don't realize doing so (subconscious level).

[JVM1939]

I have a female friend whom I know since we were in HS, she was the girlfriend of one of my friends at the time, but it's been awhile since we don’t even talk. She's a great person, beautiful, but I don't know if I should try anything with her. She's also had other boyfriends, not just my friend

[Opinion Owner]

If there was no problem you would have already gone for it. Thus on some level it's a turn off. Women know this hence all of the shaming. This may be an unpopular opinion but I don't believe women were designed to be with so many men.

[Guy13]

That’s pretty tough assessment of another. I have had guy friends say,”you going to screw Andrew’s left overs.” Guys do that but it is very crude thing to do.
Never do that in front of any woman. That’s really hurtful.

[JVM1939]

Would you date your acquaintance’s ex girlfriend?

[Guy13]

I would not ever sleep with her but he can date mine because when I break-up she kilt it dead. I’m all-in so when it is done for me it is permanently done. Hoping to get out of the dating world soon.

[LazerBean]

I think it's funny because the men who tend to openly say things like that tend to be leftovers themselves. That said, I feel the same way towards men.

[JVM1939]

What do you think about dating the ex boyfriend of an acquaintance of yours? Or a man with many ex gfs?

[LazerBean]

It's not really a problem me or people in my friend circle because we only believe in sex after marriage.

[JVM1939]

I see. But if things were going through the right path, would you motivate a guy to be the boyfriend of a girl who has had many bfs and he has had few (or none) gfs?

[LazerBean]

I never encourage my friends to date anyone who has ever slept around if they themselves also haven't slept around.

[Gen_Z_Rando]

This just sounds a bit messed up, doesn't it? Like in what world is having had multiple partners a bad thing? Isn't experience something we should value, if you're the guy who can make a girl fall in love with you for something beyond the sex, then isn't it more substantial the more experienced she is?
Being a virgin (romantically or sexually) doesn't mean a better relationship, does it? Just means you've learnt a lot about yourself and you *might* be a bit impulsive or have poor choice in the guys you date.

[JVM1939]

So would you date the ex girlfriend of your HS classmate if you like her?

[Gen_Z_Rando]

Yeah, don't really see a reason for me not to beyond the fact I'm in a semi-committed relationship with someone. If I like someone and they'd like me back, and there doesn't seem to be any major problem in the relationship, yeah.
If someone else has a problem with who I like, that's not something I should have to deal with unless I'm breaking the law/one of us seem abusive