What qualities do you look for in a person? How many people have you met with those qualities?

[playerr]

Looking for opinions

[PrettyPriya]

There is a long list of things that I look for. Will I ever get them all? Nope, nor do I expect to get everything I want. That is just not realistic thinking. Even my husband doesn't check every single box on my wishlist and that is okay.

The big things that I look for are a good personality, character, morals, integrity, intellect, work ethic, etc etc. Basically, the person has to have the same life values that I do in order for me to think there is potential in a longterm relationship.

Now, there are other things I look for too that are less important. Again, it isn't necessary that everything lines up. That is just not being realistic. So, as long as the guy has a good amount of them, I can overlook things, just like he is going to have to do the same with me. I am not going to be perfect in every way either.

As for how many people that I have interacted with that have those qualities, not as many as you would think. I am speaking purely in a dating sense. I don't even consider just going out on one date, dating. That is why I have dated so few people in my life.

[playerr]

Thank you for your response

[PrettyPriya]

Sure, no problem at all! 🙂

[PrettyPriya]

Thanks for the MHO 🙂

[itsalyssaagain]

Kind. Honest. Faithful. Thoughtful. A good listener. A man of his word. Fears God. Makes a good father. Good manners. Hard working.

I haven’t met someone with all these qualities yet. That’s why I’m single.

[jennifer_bloom]

I want a guy who cares more about love and philanthropy than pride and greed. I want a guy that is compassionate and merciful and values my feelings and moods. A guy who respects me at all times and is willing to take care of my concerns such as killing an insect I'm afraid to kill by myself or giving me a ride to the store if its cold and I don't want to take the bus there.

[SaoirseS]

I can't really say I LOOK for qualities in people, but I notice them. I'm the type of person who tries to see the good in everyone, and with rare exception I'll find it.

What I'll notice first in people is hard to measure: likeability. Sometimes a person is instantly likeable, other times it takes patience (some people are "acquired tastes") Another thing I probably look for subconsciously in people is selflessness. How a person treats others is another thing I'm keenly aware of. Things like respect, honesty, character, sense of humor also rank pretty high.

As far as how many people I've met with those qualities: quite a few. I'm in a job that sees people during some of their worst moments, but I find it brings out the very best in them.

When it comes to dating (I'm married now), it was usually a matter of chemistry (as abstract as that sounds), compatibility, and similar senses of humor. There needs to be enough similarity to be compatible, but enough of a difference to make it fun and interesting.

[Emiliamazing]

Stubborn is good, but only if it applies to them being stubborn about making good decisions and being kind :-). I don't want someone who's going to lean on me for the relationship work or any financial assistance. I want someone who's going to work with me towards my goals, and I will help them work towards their goals.
healthy and fit is a big plus, because that will keep us together longer in theory. Patience, and the ability to assess our troubles from a different point of view than mine is helpful.

[Babygirl_S]

I look for smart, friendly, mature and financially stable (not necessarily rich) guys who are physically similar to young Henry Cavill. I've seen a few guys like that or perhaps I think they have those qualities.

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Thank you for response

[KatherineJ]

I think meeting people will help you figure out what qualities you are looking for, and how a person makes you feel. It’s not as easy as putting together a checklist to find someone.