What qualities do you look for in a person? And what attracts you the most?

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[WonderBell99]

Hi there!

Thank you very much for the mention, @PrettyPriya (:

I know that I’m young, but these qualities I expect in a partner, are those of a decent human being and it’s probably never going to change.

A lot of women just want a man who is simple and does not play mind games. Please do not worry about coming across as “too desperate.” Showing interest, especially when the girl is also clearly interested in you is FAR from desperate.

I’m very emotional and have a short temper (I’m working on it) and I need someone who would understand me and calm me down when I’m feeling down or just give me a big hug and a kiss and tell me that things are going to be okay. I want emotional support and I need a man who is capable of handling his emotions well. I would never date someone who is aggressive or violent when they are angry. That is a HUGE turn off.

Everyone expects loyalty from a partner. It’s self evident, and probably, one of the most important traits I expect in a partner. I do NOT want a man who would cheat on me when I’m sick or because he was not “sexually satisfied”. If you are having problems in a relationship, you have to talk it out with your partner. So, this leads to another important trait - good communication skills. We humans are not mind readers, right? If you are having trouble trying to convey something to your partner, stay calm and composed and deliver it in a polite, concise manner. Let her know what is bothering you. Let her know what you want.

Next comes trust. It is often said that trust is foundation of all relationships. No trust = no relationship. If you do not trust your partner, break up with them. Seriously. Once the trust is broken, it is done forever! You can never see them the same way again.

The other qualities I expect are: the ability to hold scintillating conversations, the ability to “let loose” once in a while and have fun.. aka, being goofy. I certainly wouldn’t want to date someone who is serious all the time! It would be just so… gah. Too boring for my liking.

I believe kindness is also an important trait. When someone is kind, they automatically have other good values like integrity, trustworthiness, honesty etc. The biggest turn off ever is when a guy is a jerk. I HATE jerks and bullies with burning passion.

Not to forget, I also wouldn’t date someone who judges others for their choices and gossips all day long. I do not like gossips and I certainly want my partner to be open minded.. as in, a respectful person, in general. The kind of person who follows the “agree to disagree” rule.

Oh, and I’m not sure if any others have mentioned this, but I feel like this is pretty important - assertiveness. I would not want a guy who is too nice and has no backbone for himself. I want someone who is confident and can stand up for themselves.

Sorry for the long opinion 😅

[WonderBell99]

Oh, and also - every girl is different. You don’t need to change yourself to impress a girl. Working on yourself is never bad, and trying to be better is always good, but never compromise on your good qualities for anyone. Just be yourself, the best version of yourself and treat people with kindness. A guy can be a 9 in the looks department, but if he does not treat me right, I would toss him into the bin and say: “thank you, next!” in a heartbeat. Looks so matter to an extent, but it’s the personality that makes a person stay. So focus on being yourself, only then will you be able to find someone who is compatible with the TRUE you. Good luck! (:

[SecretsofKB]

Alright! I'm here! Thanks @PrettyPriya!

So, first thing that always pops up for me is humor. A good sense of humor is something I find myself drawn to without fail. Not just cracking jokes like a stand-up comedian, but laughing with me also.

Like @PrettyPriya already mentioned, honesty, kindess, integrity... are all important also. But another big one for me is being genuine.

Genuine in what they do, say, think, how they act. And not just with me but with anyone we meet. You can tell when someone is faking genuineness and when they aren't, and that is also a huge selling point for me.

Lastly, I look at how easy and effortless it is for me to spend time with this person. I'm not as outgoing as most, and I have what I like to call a limited "social battery." It needs time to recharge after spending time with people, but if I'm with the right person, I won't need that recharge time.

Hope this helps!!

[playerr]

Thank you

[PrettyPriya]

I look for a lot of qualities in a person whether it be as a friend or partner. I assume because this is in the “Flirting” topic you mean more of how it relates to someone I would date.

The biggest thing I look for is personality. That can include a lot of traits that make up someone’s personality. Honestly, integrity, kindness, etc are all important to me. The one thing that is really attractive to me is when a guy is a true gentleman.

What I mean by that is that he has good manners and does all those little things that makes a girl feel special. Opening doors, pulling out my chair, etc. Those are simple things but they go a long, long way with me.

I will tag a few girls that can also give some good opinions per your request. @SecretsofKB @KatherineJ @wonderbell99 @blackcupcake all are sweethearts that can add good info of their own.

@lavlavluv will take any guy wearing a potato sack 🤣 (inside joke)

[playerr]

Thank you

[PrettyPriya]

Of course! My one an workout buddy has her tag turned off. I will message a link. 🙂

[LavLavLuv]

Omg HAHAHAH 😂🤣

[Blackcupcake]

I’m here for @PrettyPriya lol


I agree with many of the traits she mentioned, such as being a genuinely good person…
but a few more important to me are humour and strong personalities… for humour it’s simple, I’m a fun person just like @PrettyPriya (😉) and I’d like to have someone who can match that energy… for strong personalities, it’s more difficult to explain… lol. I just find it super charismatic when a guy has a strong and noticeable presence…

[sedefbutanxiousone]

being smart. duh likr u can get cold from someone handsome but talking to a smart person>>>>