Does online dating lower your self-esteem?

[purplepoppy]

A new study finds that Tinder users had lower levels of self-esteem and more body dissatisfaction than people who didn't use the dating app.
www.livescience.com/...ers-have-more-distress.html

People accept or reject potential matches based on photos which takes a toll on people's sense of worth, the study found.

So, if you've used Tinder or any other dating app do you agree with the research?

And in other news, scientists discover ducks like swimming

Yes constant rejection made it harder for me to approach people

Dating sites bruised my ego but I bounced back

Dating sites improved my self-esteem

I've never used online dating

Even GAG has knocked my confidence

[MrOracle]

I've never personally used online dating, but I've tried helping friends who insisted on using it, and I've read some of the profiles, and the whole thing is just a dumpster fire.

Who wins?

The top 10% men, who have endless options for casual sex, and for certain, Match Enterprises, which owns all of the dating apps. They make tons of money, and are incentivized to keep (largely men) constantly searching. Actually matching people would defeat their business model, so the site is actually set up to ensure that rarely happens. But here's what's worse: Match is investing heavily into AI, because then they'll be able to create your exact woman - visually and "personality-wise" and get you to spend money to interact with "her". They soon won't need women at all.

Who loses?

Every woman who hopes for a real relationship, and virtually all men who are in the lower 90% (i. e., the vast majority of men). Essentially, you're simply being manipulated and encouraged to subscribe so that you can get more/better quality matches - which will soon be fake/AI-driven anyway. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that Match themselves is already creating tens of thousands of fake profiles to keep guys coming back.

This is why I say, over and over and over again, to only date LOCALLY and meet people IN PERSON. Dating apps are NOT designed for you to succeed - your success would only destroy the site's revenue potential. They ae designed so that you fail. Don't fall for that!

[Fireguy17]

No, it hasn't.
That said I used a different type of site where people are looking to form and be in a relationship.
Not just for hooking up.
It makes a difference.
I know that I am not everyone's first choice, I am looking for the person that is interested in me because I am their first choice.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not really.

I made my first profile 1 month ago and the men who match me are really so so hot, It makes me feel confident.

If hotness was the only thing I was looking for in men, then I wouldn’t leave lots of very attractive guys unanswered in my DMs.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t go on dates there, I just made a profile, to check if I am attracted to anyone after my messy break up. I was in a way checking if I would find someone attractive haha.

[Anemone978]

Yeah I never used tinder because you hear about it all the time as just a hookup app.
But anywhere there is online dating usually bruises my ego and self-esteem.

[Guy13]

Surely it must with all the expended income, expectations, and then nothing year after year. At least at Meetup there is real people snd real activity

[RolandCuthbert]

I don't know Purple. I think Tinder is going to attract folks who are not very socially adept. They more than likely had self-esteem issues long before getting on Tinder.

[serious]

I don't know, I have never dated in my life. Not online and not in real life so I cannot say for sure but yes I do doubt the authenticity of these online dating apps.

[Daviddd5412]

I already have low self-esteem. I have a feeling trying to do online dating would make me depressed.

[exitseven]

I bet it would. You see lots of people going on dates and having fun and you get ghosted all the time. Not good for self esteem

[MacMan156]

I dont think so, in fact the other way round. tried that once with a girl, we didn't show each other our faces, we just dated like that and it was pretty cool i'd say

[LiamJHayden]

Actually the sites make me laugh. So many people with so little going on, yet expecting so much.

[BJP21]

Yes it does, due to the fact there is no guarantee of putting you in front of a living breathing person.

[JoshMa]

See the usage as desperation in my opinion can see people looking down on themselves as a factor to that

[Jamie05rhs]

Tinder isn't online dating. Tinder is a hookup app.

[Sparkie460]

There was no such thing as online dating when I was dating. There wasn't even internet back then

[g_a_r_b_i_t_a]

I have never felt the need to date someone but I did open sites. It just made me realise I don't want to date. So yeah it kinda helped me.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

My experiences with everything from online dating to asking women out in person have contributed to lowering my self esteem.

[msc545]

Online dating is like...

" The Cavalcade Of Rejection" game.

Not fun. No prizes ever.

[Searider]

I used it once and we’ve been together for seven years. Married for a year and a half. It never bothered us. 🤷‍♂️

[Iron_Man]

No, it does not

[SilverRain92]

Tinder is too stupid app that I don't use it

[Heolurt]

It helped kill my confidence and self esteem.

[SpaceGalaxy]

Times are changing rapidly

[Anonymous]

Nope. If anything it improved mine.

[ThomasDavid1989]

Yeah