Are dating apps worth if you have low self esteem?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes being ghosted can feel terrible

[Zack-Bann]

Girls with low self esteem are what keep these apps working you know


But in general I would say apps won’t raise your self esteem that’s on you to do


They are nothing more than a medium to meeting people with whom there’s a mutual agreement that you’re both attractive to eachother


You can make of that what you will


Don’t listen to the nay sayers calling dating apps evil and conniving they’re not


You have to make your own success on them just like you would anywhere else

[Asker]

So this means I’m not attractive?

[Zack-Bann]

How can I know? I have no idea what you look like

But you should know: nobody is absolutely attractive.
It’s too subjective to quantify like this

You just need to widen your net and you’ll meet the people who think you’re drop dead gorgeous

[Asker]

Well can I share a picture with you? Follow me and I’ll follow you back.

[Asker]

Username: laxfour2

[Zack-Bann]

Done

[Asker]

I can’t message you. You can message me back.

[ohsheeT]

To me there not worth it if your fill high esteem. But that's just me. Andvi have to be honest I've never been on one. I have started like 6 profiles and got half way through and deleted them..

Can I ask you a question do you know what has given you, or why you might have low self esteem

[nastyb]

dating will make you miserable if you have low self esteem. trust me

[PeachyPie93]

Probably not.. it would probably make your self esteem even worse.

[Summeroflove]

A lot of people who have low self esteem are there to play games and hurt people to make themselves feel better.

[Asker]

That’s awful.

[Summeroflove]

Well it’s what pathetic people do

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the person. They helped me.

I think you have to remember not everyone is going to like you. And that has very little do with you and EVERYTHING to do with them. We as humans take rejection much to personal. Most of the people who reject you will never even know the real you. They simply won't buy in enough to do that. So they didn't reject you. They rejected thier thinly formulated perception of who you are. And that's no reason to get offended. They actually did you a favor.

[Asker]

What?…

[Opinion Owner]

Where did I lose you?

[Asker]

Everywhere?

[Asker]

I’m not sleepy lol?

[Danny_dan92]

Depends… I’ve met some attractive women that still somehow have low self esteem.




If you’re objectively attractive, you will get lots of validation in general.

[Asker]

Maybe I’m not objectively attractive?

[Danny_dan92]

Do you get hit on often?

[Asker]

Definitely not. And not so often on dating apps

[Asker]

Almost never

[Danny_dan92]

If you don’t post pictures on social media then maybe that’s why you have that perception.

My last ex got hit on by hundreds of guys everytime she posted a selfie or body pic

[Asker]

I do post pictures on dating apps and barely get hit on and I post selfies.

[Asker]

I don’t have any perception

[Danny_dan92]

Well… in general women get more attention than men do.

[Asker]

Maybe I’m not attractive in general for those apps.

[Danny_dan92]

Have you tried them?

[Asker]

I have tried tinder and bumble and in my opinion I never had 100 guys trying to hit on me.

[Asker]

Or any

[Danny_dan92]

Did you match?

[Asker]

We do match sometimes and the point of this post is that I always get ghosted never praised for my looks.

[Danny_dan92]

You’d be surprised how many guys don’t message anymore. I have hundreds of matches and that’s all that happens.

[Danny_dan92]

Less and less men have been simping by the way. Due to scrutiny. So you might be taking it too literally

[Asker]

What do you mean? I think it could have to do with my appearance sadly

[Danny_dan92]

It’s self explanatory.

And you are jumping to conclusions without knowing for certain what is the reason why

[Asker]

I know, but I don’t feel pretty myself and no one reinforces it

[Danny_dan92]

Lady… relax. Also if you’re comparing yourself to other women that’s not helping

[Asker]

I’m relaxed. I just don’t feel pretty and I’m sure it’s just my looks.

[Danny_dan92]

Fuck sake

[Asker]

Ok…?

[Jltakk]

No, especially if you're male. It'll only make the depression worse. It did a number on me years ago.

[Asker]

Umm I’m a female?

[Jltakk]

I know.

[Asker]

Alright 👍

[jahaims]

You shouldn't even date with low self esteem.

[Asker]

Why’s that?