Do you think guys on dating apps aren’t serious?

[Anonymous]

So my friend said I keep getting ghosted because the guys are probably not serious! They have no intention of meeting or being in a relationship! :/

I met one of my exes on a dating app and I know some success stories but now I’m a little worried.

Do you think it’s true and I’m wasting my time?

[Zayed_]

I will be honest with you and I hope you wouldn’t be offended because I’m telling you this to give you a real reason not to use such apps.

Men in general and specially Arab men think women on dating apps are either bitches who want money ( we call them clean bitches) or girls with daddy issues and want to have fun with a bad guy.

From what you told me before that you only date Arab Men and let me tell you this Arab men like to have fun with women but once they are serious they aren’t going to pick the mother of their child from a dating app.

you’re confident and independent ( I genuinely believe this) and it’s sad seeing you throwing yourself around because you’re afraid that you wouldn’t get married.

girl! You’re fkn smart and capable of feeding yourself at this moment unlike many Arab women who marry men they don’t really know well because this fkn society didn’t give them the chance to be independent and have time to reflect.

use this for your advantage, you have the time and power for this.

[Asker]

It’s not that I’m afraid I won’t get married it’s just how am I supposed to meet a man lol

[Zayed_]

😐not on dating apps or even online.
The rest is up to you.

[Zayed_]

Also inshallah when you get engaged someday the engagement shouldn’t be less than a year ( thats just my personal preference and opinion)

[Asker]

Can I message you tonight?

[Zayed_]

Sure

[Asker]

Thanks!! I’m out now I’ll message you when I’m home. I really appreciate it

[Zayed_]

You’re most welcome.

[Anonymous]

Tbh I hate dating sites as sadly it's not gender limited. It's just how people are on them. They talk for awhile and then ghost you and even then it's hard to get replies. I've found women never actually message first. The most I've seen is a smile on eHarmony but then they just remove contact before you either can reply or read what you replay with.

Online dating is basically shit. People want either an easy physical relationship or as I've also found you get others who are looking for a wallet, or just trying to create business.

[Asker]

Why do they do that…

[Opinion Owner]

I honestly don't have any idea. They are just pretty shit.

[Opinion Owner]

The datngs sites at least.

[Asker]

Life is shit isn’t it lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it is. I have no issue if they met someone else or whatever. I just wish they are least said something. Ghosting just sucks

[Asker]

It does. I just pretend it never happened now and move on haha

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't think that. You just have different people there, just like anywhere else. You find good and bad people there and outside

[Anemone978]

I personally think its a waste of time... too many people looking for easy lays...

[KostasKouvalis]

Do you want my honest opinion? I've never tried those and I never will. I feel a lot of people on dating apps are just looking for sex. Tinder is notorious for this. It seems a little bit desperate and taking the easy route in my opinion. I get that some people are shy for so certain people they might work, but I really don't think it's as good as the real world, and you certainly can't gauge people as well on those. I wouldn't trust people to be honest on those.

I'm not opposed to meeting people online, as I've done it myself, but not through dating apps, because those are super specific. I feel if you just meet someone on a regular social media platform, people are more genuine because they aren't trying to impress anyone and specifically get a date. I personally believe relationships should form out of friendships. But I genuinely believe a lot of peope on dating sites just want to get laid

[RealMarek]

Dating apps are a numbers game. It is the widest part of a funnel that goes like this, widest to narrowest: guys on dating app you like, mutual matches on app, guys that exchange messages, guys who meet for a first date, guys who meet for a second date, boyfriend. Sure, a lot of guys are not serious. Move on from them quickly. If a man isn’t up for a date after four or five messages, screen him out. There are men who are serious. Guard your time and emotional energy for them.

[Asker]

Wow that’s a good analogy

[RealMarek]

That’s how I thought of it when I was looking for my girlfriend. It helped me avoid getting hung up on all the dead ends.

[Asker]

Did you meet her eventually?

[RealMarek]

Yes, we set up a casual in-person date after a few messages because neither of us were looking for penpals. We knew very quickly we were a great match. I haven’t dated anyone else since that first date.

[Asker]

That’s so nice! Ah it’s given me hope haha

[RealMarek]

You have plenty of reason for hope.

[Asker]

Great

[Pegases]

Or, they just aren't that interested in you. It also depends on the dating app. Tinder, is notorious for people looking for casual relationships, yet I often see women on there looking for marriage, or ltr's. And even when men make it clear in some cases, women still seek long term relationships from men that aren't looking for it. The best way to find serious people when it comes to relationships, is out in person, or on apps like hinge, or bumble.

[RavVid]

There might be a reason for more guys than girls n dating apps is as far as I will go. I don't think you can generalize so much but I do think people are more genuine face to face.

It could be some want an ego kick, or just want sex and just a few want a relationship.

[RockyHammock]

I think the persona some guys take on dating apps is completely separate from their baseline.

Too many guys by the looks of it are realizing they have to bring drama to a relationship to make a girl stay. For some girls, possibly you that strategy backfires.

[TonyMetal___86]

I think that the majority are for fun and sex but there could be ones seeking a real relationship but even if they are serious, you have to see if you like him and he likes you and than to see if you're both compatible...

It's a matter of luck!

[PatriceONeal]

The only people winning on daying apps are the top5% of men who get the majority of women matching with them. It's called the 80/20 eule and it's why men don't feel any empathy for you when you complain about your options not taking you seriously. Choose more suitable men. Simple. But you overlook the average guy.

[grega239]

I was serious.

Then i deleted the apps because i never got any responses

[Asker]

I’m starting to feel that way too

[TallAnon]

Some are, some aren't.
Gives us a reason to take you serious.

[Asker]

I’m not trying to wasting time

[TallAnon]

Neither do they, so when they notice you're not worth investing more time; They get what they can and bail. That usually leads into a ONS.

[Asker]

How do they know you’re not worth it

[TallAnon]

Intuition. If you complain too much, talk about your ex too much, etc. You can seem unavailable. I always think "Would I want to introduce her to my mother?"

[Asker]

Okay I see

[NathanDavis]

I would not think every single person in a dating site are all the same... lol

[MrCommodore]

No, I'm sure plenty of genuine guys are on those apps, but its probably a minefield.

[SnowedIn]

I think many are serious but it's possible that, yes, you're wasting your time.

[Yumix]

Some guys are, some guys are not. Just the same as girls. Depends on the person and also the app. If you go on tinder you find more people who just want fun than on bumble for example

[HighValue]

People on paid dating sites are more serious. People on free sites likely are not serious.

[Anonymous]

Guys on dating apps are as serious as women on dating apps. But most of the women on dating apps aren't serious. Most are just window shopping. This drives all the good men away eventually. Then you're left with what you're left with.

[chicosuave]

i dont believe that. i think women are the time wasters

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I was but it was so infested with fake profiles, inactives, polyamory, cam and thinly veiled explicit services that I gave up.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I think dating apps are useless. Go out and find each other! Can't use that bullshit covid excuse either..

[Guardian45]

I have not been on dating apps recently. But my understanding is there is a lot of scamming on dating apps, especially if you're a guy.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You know they're not serious they're just looking to hook up and whoever says they are is probably lying to you

[Alex8736]

TBH a lot of dating sites are being used for booty calls unfortunately

[Nigjt]

No u are not their are just some BIG ASS HOLE'S out here on the real side.
God Bless

[Anonymous]

I'm always serious but only for sex
Not more than that...

[slatyb]

Some are, some aren't. I was.

[Anonymous]

they just want to fuck you

[Asker]

I appreciate the bluntness

[Hellraiser1984]

They're mostly fakes and scams.

[AmeerX]

Use muzzmatch

[Asker]

Have you used it before?

[AmeerX]

My best friend used it. It works but spend on gold edition