How can a guy know If he’s Attractive/Unattractive to the opposite sex?

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The question explains itself and before you say it’s how they talk to you..

listen I don’t talk to them and you don’t need to point this out.

🫵 It’s either you have a relevant opinion or don’t comment.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Women usually have a much more ambiguous definition on what makes a man “attractive”. It’s not easy to nail down.

To a certain extent it comes off as more noble given they care more about just looks vs how guys tend to judge. It gives average looking guys a chance if they are exemplary in other parts of their life.

But women are also very ambiguous about what they mean about “personality” and “confidence”. They define it as “a good or excited feeling” they get from the guy. That excited feeling doesn’t always come from a good quality the guy has either. Women get excited by dangerous men, mysterious men and in some cases abusive men. They get turned on by challenge. But the guy has to be at least semi physically good looking for that work.

Anyway this is hard to nail down. You see women posting selfies all the time on social media to get likes and comments to “affirm” their constant self questioning if they are good looking or not. Men get much less leeway when it comes to acting vain. We get judged much more harshly for it.

_piotr · Accepted Answer

A guy is rather unattractive to opposite sex. Women do not experience sexual attraction to men like men do to women. Looks is unimportant as women are not visual. It's like discussing painting with a blind person. Actually they seem to be set negatively towards male body. They say that personality is important, because it can mitigate the disgust they hold towards men. I think that having a lot of money, high status, providing entertainment for her and sacrifices you might do for her can help to raise guys "attractiveness" a bit, but that is all.

Emerald55346 · Accepted Answer

How does anyone look in the mirror and know they are attractive at all? I’ve seen so many beautiful women and men with insecurities. The only way to know you are attractive to the opposite sex is to look in the mirror and see yourself as attractive. That is shaped by so many things such as what you were told growing up, the culture you live in or come from, how often you get people flirting with you, how much do you invest in your appearance? All those things are relevant. I don’t think I’ve met anyone who has grown up with lots of validation/ investing in themselves physically who confidently say they don’t think they are attractive.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

Do you think you're attractive? If no, then your chances are low

AviatorTom · Answer

If a guy gets turned down by just about every woman he asks out, he is unattractive, or he's trying the wrong type of women for him. If he only occasionally gets turned down, he's probably somewhat attractive. If he never (or rarely) gets turned down, he's attractive.

To put iyt bluntly, you never know if you're attractive or not unless you try.

AmandaYVR · Answer

If they look over at you more than once, they may find you interesting or attractive. But judging by your write-up, they will lose that interest once they walk to you. You're antagonistic.

Avicenna · Answer

No one is attractive or unattractive to an entire sex. No one

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If girls take pictures of you or collect pictures of you, or include pictures of you on their wall then your attractive

coachTanthony · Answer

Go to GAG's HOW DO I LOOK category and post a photo. lol

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Not to be conceited or toot my horn, but I'm not a bad looking dude and can tell you my experiences.
The girl who mentioned pictures is absolutely right. I've had a couple girls take pictures of me.
I also notice that most women seem afraid to come up and talk to me, and when they do it's like they're testing the waters.
I'm not much of a talker, so the conversation usually ends quickly and they kind of awkwardly walk away like they wanted to say something else but lost their nerve.
Then when I initiate a conversation, they act all surprised and shocked that I'm talking to them.

Some women are more outgoing than others, but I'd say the majority prefer to stare than actually talk to me.

Also relationships are tough. Women make assumptions about attractive guys and you typically won't be the one she's looking for anything serious with. Some girls do, but there are downsides to being a good looking dude.

Last but not least, you'll get a lot of older women saying things like "You must get all the girls" or "You're a cutie patootie!" or "I would've been chasing YOU when I was younger!". And also trying to set you up with their daughters

There's other things to, some good and some bad, but I can't think of them at the moment

ShiftingMonke · Answer

It's simple; you catch certain fish with certain bait.

If you simply seek physical gratification with anyone willing, then flash money. Show your wealth and success, women will flock to you and your experience will be transactional in the extreme.

If you seek a decent woman, than be kind, generous, and respectful. Give every woman the respect you'd give your grandmother. Be modest in word and honorable in action. Give thanks and forgiveness in equal measures.

Trust me, women WILL notice, and the good ones WILL be attracted to you. Be the man that a good woman deserves, and she will find you.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think a guy just knows whether he is attractive to the opposite sex without any female interaction whatsoever.

If the guy is still unsure, I think I would discuss it with girls who are friends. They can give you an objective opinion about what is attractive/unattractive about you. If you have a sister, they can often tell you whether girls find you attractive, perhaps one of her friends has said something to her.

That way you aren't conversing with girls you don't know and a girl who is a friend or sister can be frank with you, kind of like one of the guys...

NewYorkCity · Answer

I became self aware of myself when I turned almost 27 and yes it took me that long and when I finally realized of how I look and reality sinked in and I also understood what is ACTUALLY important to 99.99% girls ( 5 years of research and personal homework), 99% of all my questions have been answered and I became at peace with myself and girls around me, because now I truly understand what girls Actually like and why 80%+ of men, especially in 2023 and beyond, REALLY struggling to get G. F. or wives

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Girls will generally respond positively when you approach them if they find you attractive (smiling, open body language, making an effort in the conversation.) If you're especially attractive to a girl, she might approach you first or make the first move.

ilikesnow · Answer

when i find someone cute/attractive, i find myself staring at them, especially in a group of people or if it's just the two of us in a corridor. but if i don't find them attractive, i don't look at them and focus on the work / other people.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Different girls have different preferences, so one might fancy you and another might find you repulsive. Because of this, it is impossible to know unless she approaches you. But many women, even if they like you, will not initiate. You have limited the answers to exclude approaching, so the above is all I have.

samuluaa · Answer

If you mean in real life and offline I think if a girl always replies in two or three words or one sentences when speaking to you that’s a sign she is not attracted to you.

MrQuick · Answer

This question doesn't make a lot of sense, really. You'd have to be pretty oblivious if you never notice the feedback/reaction of other people who see you. In your life you had to have noticed the way a girl has looked at you and smiled or given you a second look or something. You need to be a mind-reader.
This question needs context.

4ngelic · Answer

if pretty girls are interested in you, your hot if average girls are into you, your average if no ones into you or its only ugly girls, your ugly simple

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

“I don’t talk to them?” …? You don’t even need to worry about it. They will never be interested in you.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

If you can't talk to women you are an afterthought or invisible to them. Either find the minerals and use your big boy voice or shit the bed.

lottiebannotie · Answer

Virtually impossible so many different tastes amongst so many different women

MeiAndYou · Answer

You get stared at and you hear girls talking about you to their friends

Wise4myage · Answer

It comes down to making an effort and presenting your best self.

Mangospacho · Answer

You put a picture of yourself on How Do I Look on GaG and then, if two or more people say you look average to good or very good, then you have your answer.

robocop666 · Answer

the way they react to him. Don't ask as they will feel pressured to lie. I receive some interest from women.

John_Doesnt · Answer

The only thing that matters for guys is money and power. Get a bunch of money and then you'll get the power and then you'll get the bitches.

krin_m · Answer

Not think about it and may be you will get better results!

Valso · Answer

It's simple - the fatter your wallet is, the more attractive you are.

msc545 · Answer

How do you write a question that nobody wants to answer? Write a forward to the question like this guy did and see what happens.

boobliker · Answer

why dose it matter if a girl likes you it don't matter

Tonyblony5150 · Answer

I would have to say does you get a lot of attention from the ladies

Nikki1989 · Answer

It comes down to your confidence level.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Women like calm guys not aggressive ones.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

All the supposed signs didn't work for me.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Women hit on him a lot.

Allday4 · Answer

It’s a feeling….. what type of question is this? Kinda weirdo

Iron_Man · Answer

They will flirt with you

Tomisworthless · Answer

The attention you get from women

In_Trance · Answer

Look in the mirror

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