Is this pretty common?

[Anonymous]

I've been with this guy for a year, and he won't plan to go away with me. We have had conversations where we've seen places on TV or online and I've gotten excited and said where is that, an he's threw it out there as somewhere we can go together... he has genuinely said 7 times, who's going to go... and named the place. He teases about it and mentions it a lot

He's said he doesn't want to make memories with me... but then days down the line he's all over me, excited and suggesting we go away.

Is he infatuated with me?
Leading me on?
Confused?

Why does he say these things, only to take them back.

I told him at this stage I'd be going travelling with my other half and be exploring. Earlier he said if that's what you want than you're free...
He says he doesn't want to waste my time, and doesn't want to do those things yet.
Then afterwards he said he can't do things whilst his mum is here visiting.
He constantly backtracks or changes his mind.
Why?

He also has a tendency to shut down, avoid or self sabotage anytime we try to have a serious conversation about wtf it is we're doing. Few times we've arranged to meet to 'talk'and then no important discussion has took place. He just starts acting normal with me, hugging an kissing, saying he misses me


I'm getting so bored at this rate.

I'm 29 and he's 40.
Why can't he just decide to be with me if I'm so much fun, light up his day and all the rest of it that he spouts about 'us'

[Guy13]

Bipolar or Manic Depressive

[Asker]

I actually thought the same. More so bipolar

[Guy13]

Wow, I had an Aunt who married into that and one of the kids got the gene etc. He's been smoking weed sine 18 to keep himself level. He designs golf courses so Bipolar can be lived with. He ain't right though and prone to explosive sort of fits. Disconnected from kids/human but loves animals. Rollercoaster ride for him and I love him like a brother. It is bad enough he will not have children... I can't imagine boyfriend and girlfriend...

[Sunssong]

He suffers from indecision. It's a common trait. In fact, you won't meet many people who don't have it. Most have to have every detail before making a decision.

"This can be a result of the Law of Diminishing Intent, which states: “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.” A concept originated by Jim Rohn, it was John Maxwell who later wrote about it in The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth."

[KrakenAttackin]

Because he knows he will have to pay for everything and traveling is expensive AF.

[Asker]

I have my own salary thank you. I do not expect him to pay for my trip when I have mynown disposable income

[KrakenAttackin]

Salary or not, he knows he will have to pay for everything.

[Asker]

Not true