Is it common for men to think you’re gay if you won’t date them?

[Anonymous]

[sheenagwapa]

i remember i was accused of beinh a lesbian because all my mouth would utter is my best friend... "i have to go because my best friend is waitinh"


when i was forced to shift in college i wanna cry on my first day of school. my course initially is accounting but i cannot comply with the average grade so i was basically kicked out 😂 on my course and forced to shift to a course that kinda similar to my initial course. worst is it's a blockinh course meaninh they were classmates on all subjects. i was forced to shift third year and so i got nervous because i also saw my sort of stalker there who by the way became my boyfriend. in short i just wanna cry but my best friend is there outside my classroom she is like my strength


my best friend is my best friend since first year high school and we are so close i would go to school even on Saturday even if i have no class because she had a class. but i am straight not once i thought of likinh her in a romantic sense.


she's also the very feminine type she wear skirt in college as a uniform i chhose slacks, she wear shpulder bag i choose back pack. i also wanna be a drummer. i like rock songs ever since i was in elementary. so one time there's this gut who seem to like me and wanna spend time with me but i can already sense something but i am not interested so i told him i have to mert my best friend that's when he mentioned i am probably lesbian and one time he also mentioned i hope i get raped.


that time i wish i am a male because if i am a male i will tell him that we could mert after school
so that we can beat each other's ass.

[Blackcupcake]

for dumb men, sure…

[BeMuse]

Nope. I never thought that myself and never heard any guy in real life make that claim. Gay people are an extremely small fringe minority. Most people don't even pay attention to them or notice they exist, so assuming someone is gay because they won't date you is illogical. It's bullshit that tends to be on TV and on the internet. That said, someone might call you a tranny or a fag online because there is a very high chance that people create bogus accounts on anonymous sites to catfish people and or troll as the opposite sex. At that point it's all based on your behavior and language. If you talk like a dude and act like a dude but you have a woman's picture and a female account, someone might call you a tranny or a fag and a lot of times they will be right.

[ArrowheadSW]

I don't think it is that common but it might cross a guy's mind if everything else looks like dating the woman should be a "go" but things aren't quite clicking between the two. Funny, I only recall thinking that way once when I was about 25. Turns out I was right though as the woman did end up experimenting with dating other women. I don't know if she stayed dating women or not because I eventually lost touch with her.

But overall it is kind of a stretch for a guy to think that a woman is gay just for that. There could be a lot of reasons why the woman might not be interested.

[jennifer_bloom]

I knew a girl who got rejected by a very conservative muslim guy and the guy told me he avoids girls that chase him and then the girl that got rejected said, he must be gay. To me, it shows some people have difficulty relating to other cultures, to think a guy is gay because he cares more about your behaviour than your beauty and youth.

[Heterosketero]

A muslim once told me, "If you love your child, choose the mother wisely". So your story makes sense. Personality is more important to some cultures than others

[jennifer_bloom]

@Heterosketero Yes - I used to be very angry at Sandra Bullock because I thought she was endangering her children by choosing bad partners to be her romantic lovers. They do not give her kids the stability, security or sense of merit based love that should exist for any child.

[coachTanthony]

Unless the man is insecure and butt hurt and calls you a lesbo all because YOU didn't like him then YES but for most that isn't what crosses our mind.

[Summeroflove]

It’s pretty dumb to think someone is gay for the fact they’re just not dating you… There is some women like that too.


When people say stuff like that. It shows why nobody decent wants them

[Guy13]

They are simply trying to hurt back from being rejected. Childish and immature

[Anonymous]

On the opposite side, that’s not what women do to men. Women say men are guy if they hate women. And honestly, it makes sense. I mean why would a straight men compete with women? Competition is good for humans, yes, traditionally, men competed with other men. They compete with women when they realize she is to be reckoned with and it isn’t because they view women as less, they just didn’t realize until that time come because society teaches us women are to be feminine and feminine is being submissive and a servant to men. Except, men competing against women meant taking women’s rights away, abusing women, creating double standards, etc. Hell yes I believe sexist men are gay and no one can change my mind. I believe sexist men secretly want men because it makes sense. Why would a strong confident man desire a docile knowing pushover woman? It doesn’t make sense to me because i believe strong wants strong. Plus, most men are sexist so that’s very telling. And many times, since being gay is frowned upon, gay men pretend to be straight all the time

[SpokenTruth]

Men attract to cuteness adorable feminine daintiness not strong or masculine. If you think otherwise you have been watching too many trickery movies such as super woman or whatever the going trick is. That's called reverse engineering aka feminism and no man wants a women competing against him even if the sisterhood told you so. That's why many men those that haven't called it quits are going to other countries such as Russia to find feminine women aka leaving the west. Masculinity in women turns my stomach the same as most men.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re so dim witted you don’t know how sexist you sound. Or maybe you do and this is your attempt manipulation tactic lol. Having confidence, being assertive, not being a pushover, etc are not masculine traits. Masculine and feminine traits are social constructs created by and continuously taught in society by men like you.

Also, I find it quite refreshing that sexist men are going to other countries and leaving normal women alone. The only downside is people like you using and abusing those poor women who don’t know their value. I feel sorry for them but I am happy women like me don’t have to deal with the likes of you and your pretending to be normal

[SpokenTruth]

Your comment is out of touch and rather comical to say the least gave me a good laugh you are a classic case of reverse engineering well brainwashed. And no I won't be going to Russia after all not to date or marry anyway. I made up my mind some years back not dating and marriage were out not a consideration anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

IM brainwashed? Lol dude You’re literally pretending sexism doesn’t exist and most of those men who are traveling to other countries aren’t treating those women like servants since they themselves don’t have women’s rights just as women in the US doesn’t but it’s worse for them because most of them are taught to be pushovers and subservient to their husbands/bfs just as women here are taught. The men who goes to other counties say it themselves “they are submissive” which is just another term for slave. “They are agreeable” which is another term for pushover. Those men want to use women for sex and a easier life because they don’t have a day and for those women, those men are making their lives easier because they don’t know any better

This has been a thing for a while now and it’s the save thing

[SpokenTruth]

Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife se

[SpokenTruth]

Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I see now why you claimed me as the delusional one. You were deflecting 🤣

[gopackers2002]

Umm I know me and my guy friends don’t say that lol but that’s pretty dumb to say. I know I’m not the hottest guy on earth but if a girl didn’t date me I’m not saying “damn you are just lesbian that’s why” but turns out a lot of girls I like turn out to be lesbian lol but that’s besides the point. But to my knowledge it’s not common

[serious]

You mean is it common for women to think like that right?

[Asker]

No I’m asking specifically about men.

[Anonymous]

I don't know about that but I do know a women who thought I was gay because I don’t like to date much and sleep around, she tried setting me up with a random friend of hers. I said no thank you if I’m not emotionally invested I find it a waste of time and she was just like “Are you gay? You can tell me if you are” like wtf 💀🤣

[Jdjfjcjj]

Not once have I ever heard that but I have heard quite a few times a woman approaching a guy, generally at a bar or club, flirt with him and get denied. So she responds with oh you must be gay because I'm hot!

[Pegases]

It's actually more common for women to think that in my experience. Ultimately regardless of who does it, it's just a defense mechanism they use to protect their ego.

[Red-Blaze]

Not really its more common to someone saying it to make there own ego feel better
And honestly someone that dose it is lucky you dont date them

[Fireguy17]

It is easier for guys to think that you are gay vs that you are actually rejecting them.
That way it won't crush their fragile ego.

[slatyb]

Sadly yes. They just console themselves by thinking "It's not me, she's just not into men".

[slatyb]

Common doesn't mean that a majority of men do this -- just that there is a significant number who do.

[AsaKyo]

Yeah, people used to think that when I was a teenager because I showed little interest in dating people

[opheeowlscout]

Pretty common nowadays, sadly. Some don't like to think that they themselves are the reason for your dislike- no, you must be gay!

[Freyke]

You know, I wanted to ask you women the same thing.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't jump straight to that conclusion JUST off that. I mean does she dress kind of butch. Does she have an oddly close relationship with her girlfriends etc.

[Anonymous]

I've had to tell girls I'm gay before.
You think men are persistent...

[Anonymous]

Most men will always try to shift the blame for most things.

[LiamJHayden]

I would just assume she isn't interested in me, not men.

[wannabecuck-2]

A girl called me gay once I don't know. Maybe cuz i ignored many for career sakes

[riverrat3]

i would never think that, but there is nothing wrong if you are

[Mangospacho]

Yeah, if he’s a narcissist.

[TrillXHippy]

No it’s not common

[mathew1543]

Not sure why someone would think that

[Heterosketero]

Not in my opinion.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No, lol.

[appelstroop]

Uhmmmm no..