Guys, would you date a girl with a record?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys I'm just wondering but would any of you date a girl such as myself if you found out we have a criminal record for something like drunk driving?

(Note: I do regret it and haven't touched anymore alcohol since)

[molonski2]

Wouldn't have a remote concern about a 0.5 conviction , would be concerned if you killed someone with your car , or I thought you had a drinking problem , or had you been charged with fraud , theft or the like.

I would never drink drive now ( times have changed ) but back in the day in Aussie people did it all the time , including myself. In USA its much harder to get caught , unless something goes wrong , and USA used to have much higher limits , plenty do it here ( Thailand ) but I wouldn't not as just too many things can go wrong.

[SnowedIn]

Depends on the crime and why. Rape? Hell no. Murder? Nope. Stole some bread because your kid was hungry? Probably don't care. Drunk driving? If you killed someone, probably no. But if you really have gone of alcohol or drinking and driving, then sure! Forgiveness and redemption are something we need more of.

[AviatorTom]

We're all human and make mistakes, and hopefully learn from them. Something like drunk driving can be forgiven. Something like murder or child abuse cannot.

[Avicenna]

If it's for one incident of drunk driving and there isn't further criminality and/or alcohol abuse, I probably would.

[Anonymous]

Funny you'd ask. Recently I did 4 public records searches for women who I know who I am somewhat interested in. ALL FOUR had a record. Very surprising since 3 of the 4 are very mainstream type of people. And one lady is in her early 40's but her record was from when she was 21 for grand theft. One lady is a practicing medical professional and her arrest was for "assault on a person" which was very surprising to me but it didn't have any case details.

But to answer your question, yes I would date them if other things regarding there were a "go". People can change and learn lessons!

[OfMiceandMen]

I think people are entitled to one mistake such as yours in life. But if it is a reoccurring thing, then I would likely pass.

We all make mistakes in life, it is how we learn, some people just make bigger mistakes that sometimes follows them around. However, you can't just categorize them as a bad person, especially, if they learned from their mistake.

[Anonymous]

Probably not. I’d wonder how many times you drove drunk and didn’t get caught. My aunt and uncle were killed by a drunk driver. Coming home from buying Christmas presents. I’ve also been the guy who picked up my friend the next day from jail because he was driving drunk.

To me it just shows a lack of character. Obviously people are going to drink and get tipsy or even shitfaced, hell I’m right there with you, but driving drunk or even tipsy is kind of a red line for me. People make mistakes, sure, and I’m not saying it makes you some terrible person (unless you keep doing it or kill someone) but uh, let’s just say it’d be a HELL of a strike against you. Not a dealbreaker necessarily, but it would make me a lot less attracted to you. Sorry. It’s just how I feel.

[Billlewis]

One of my most exciting, satisfying relationships was with a woman who had a lengthy criminal record, and she was quite cruel and sadistic. She used to derive tremendous pleasure from taking a heavy rattan cane to my bare bottom and thrashing me within an inch of my life.

[JamesDiaz11]

I've dated a girl with a DUI before, and I didn't think anything of it. Granted, she did drink way more than she needed to, but it was only a drink or two in the evening. Realistically the only record a girl could have that would scare me off would be a long rap sheet of dick.

[Adam1978]

I would most likely be unaware of it in the beginning. So the question should be would i stop dating a girl if I found out she had record as a drunk driver. No but I would make sure it doesn't happen again. And that she will be trusted less with alcohol.

[magiusX26]

would deoend on many factors, such as what crime/s, how nany, how long ago, why you did such, what age were you (slightly different from how long ago) , how you have handled (or not) things surrounding this/these incident/s, and more.

[magiusX26]

as for my personal stance on dui in particular, that would be one of the more frowned upon by me crimes. glad to hear you took it as a wake up call about drinking in general.

[Novacane]

I think most men would not care if it was something like that, especially if no one was hurt, besides that they will see it as a crazy adventure you had.

[BCA6010]

That would definitely warrant some follow-up questions, but wouldn't necessarily be an instant deal-breaker.

[ShadezMcgee]

Depends on the criminal record and what was done. Felony? No. Misdemeanor is the length I will consider.

[Mangospacho]

It depends on what it is. If it’s one DUI from 10 years ago, probably. If it’s 3rd Degree Felonious Aggravated Assault against her ex-boyfriend because he didn’t get her an expensive enough gift for her birthday, I’m gonna have to pass.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Who hasn't had a DUI at some point? Nerds. That's who

[lightbulb27]

yes if I see they are past the mistakes and working on the underlying issues.

[MrCommodore]

Yes, of course I would, we all make mistakes.

[CreatingWonders]

As long as she’s not a nonce or a rapist animal abuser or a murderer then fine.


Most people in life have done something wrong in their lives were not all perfect.

[Surely]

As long as it was just a DUI. It wouldn’t bother me. Providing that you don’t drink and drive anymore.
I would probably stay away from barrooms when we were out and about.

[humanearth]

Sure would, just because someone fucks up. That don't make them a fuck up.

[FilmGuy93]

That wouldn't be an issue for me, as long as you had clearly changed.

[Pudsmucker]

It would be fine to date somebody with the criminal record. It's not hurting anything if she's done her time.

[FeminineHSP]

As long as she is okay with my asexuality and childfree life, sure. I have unconditional love to share.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I dropped drinking as well, and would go out with such a lass. Records are meant to be broken!💥 Only non-repented evil crimes I’d say no.

[Gibbons44]

Depends onphysical attraction and how brainy/smart you are.

[Anonymous]

Probably not. Maybe if I was certain she'd turned her life around since. There's simply just so many women without a record. So why would I risk one that did?

[SunnyRS]

As long as she didn't hurt anyone physically or financially sure I don't mind dating a girl with record.

[zagor]

Depends on what it was. If it was for cutting her ex's schlong off after a fight, no way.

[noohair]

I would not consider that a problem, but I am weird.

[najekim]

The past is yours and yours alone. I'd be more concerned about our future together. :)

[msc545]

Like a vinyl music record? Sure! A criminal record - no.