I've been talking to this guy for a month now we FaceTime, text, and talk on the phone almost daily.. we haven't met yet but plan on meeting soon (we're 2 hours from each other). At times when we're on the phone he'll call me ugly but he'll jokingly say it.. I'm not really sure how to take it. He calls me beautiful sometimes when we're texting but over the phone or FaceTime it's different... does he actually think I'm ugly?
There is always some truth in a statement or a remark. It does not matter whether the person insulting you was sober or intoxicating, the end result is the same. This is something that comes unconsciously and is a reflection of what he thinks deep inside.
Take it as an insult because it is one. He may jokingly say that it was just to bother you but there is always a reason for someone to make such a joke. He may not even have realized it because sometimes people just blur out things that preoccupy them deep inside.
Calling you "beautiful" afterwards is just a way to try to get your attention and to make you forget his insensitivity but the harm is done.
The fact that he keeps in contact with you is simply because he wants something from you. I am sure that you are aware of what he wants when you meet him in a few days. You can rest assured that once he has obtained what he wanted, he will slowly distance himself from you because you are "ugly". I am sorry but that is how I view the entire situation.
How do you know he is joking? If he is, that is a terrible joke. I don't know why anyone would try to make a joke by saying someone is ugly. I would be offended personally and consider it a red flag. That isn't even funny and I cannot think of a situation that it would be humourous.
Again, how do you know for certain he is joking and not serious? He sounds really immature. While I enjoy a good laugh, I would not be laughing about that. I would take it really bad.
This is someone that I would end things with the very second he said something like that to me. It would make me feel insecure about what he really thought. There is always some truth behind what people say, joking or not.
If you continue to see or talk to this guy, I would tell him how that makes you feel. If it were me, I would just move on from him. If you aren't going to do that, you have to at least tell him to knock it off.
Don't meet with him and do end the relationship.
No, he probably doesn't think you're ugly but that's a TERRIBLE thing to say, joke or not.
Anyone who would joke like that will have other, worse, traits.
End it now for your sake.
That he is neither well socialized, considerate, or understands a woman and her general insecurities.
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Probably not but it would knock your self confidence each time so I'd tell him to knock it off or end it
Sounds really rude and fucked up. Dump his ass. When he says why u dumping me tell him I'm ugly remember. Find someone that will say things to bring u up not down. He don't deserve you
He calls you ugly, but you'll still meet up with him? WTF
